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Thursday, November 29, 2007

Book Review - The Six Figure Speaker

A Proven Blueprint for Success as a Speaker

Cathleen Fillmore has an amazing depth and range of expertise in the field of the speaking industry. "The Six Figure Speaker" provides the reader with a formula for success through interviews, advice, coaching, and business models from top-earning speakers. Fillmore shares stories from her own challenging and exciting career. She relates lessons learned from mistakes made and how to turn an occasional disaster into a profitable lesson.

The book offers valuable help and advice on building and maintaining a prospect data base. Cathleen provides comprehensive information on how to develop a fee structure, as well as a providing a wealth of data on writing and negotiating the best contract. She gives insight into how to establish a pricing strategy and arms the reader with inside knowledge of the industry.

Fillmore includes a formula for revamping your marketing strategies, offers tips on public relations, and ideas for creating and selling products. She coaches the reader with practical suggestions for websites, the importance of referrals, and the changing industry of meeting planning and conventions.

The book is an incredible resource for serious minded speakers at any stage of their career, for established professional speakers, and for those just starting out. Fillmore motivates the reader to move to a new level of effectiveness in thought and action. She challenges the reader to change people's lives by inspiring greatness, and sharing their talents with others.

Cathleen Fillmore has published more than 300 articles and four books. "The Six Figure Speaker" is a crash course on how to make big money as a professional speaker.

Richard R. Blake, Christian Education Consultant, Book Store Owner

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

7 Keys To Transforming Thought

We've all experienced the popular notion that "our thoughts shape our reality". When life is working well, it's easy to focus on thoughts that feel good and perpetuate success and happiness in our lives. However, what do you do when you are attached to thoughts that clearly don't serve you? Below are 7 Keys to making the shift.

1. AWARENESS - Before we can influence our thoughts, we need to become aware of them. How do you know there is a disempowering thought lurking in your mind? Your EMOTIONS serve as signals to catch your attention. These feelings may be subtle or extreme. A feeling that "something is off", discomfort, anxiety or a mild sense of resistance or depression is worth paying attention to. Some reactions are blatant and obvious, serving as giant clues that the mind has attached to a thought. Become a detective and identify the thought or thoughts that are associated with the feeling. Awareness is the first key. You cannot shift what you are unaware of.

2. Is it true in REALITY? So often, the thoughts that drive our feelings have no basis in reality, leaving us attached to thoughts that are simply fantasy. When an event happens, our minds instantaneously attach a meaning (meaning is a synonym for "thought") to the occurrence. Separating the FACTS (what happened) from the MEANING or interpretation is one way to connect to reality. It's important to recognize the myriad of ways that we distort reality. We EXAGGERATE or MINIMIZE it. We DENY it. We think it SHOULD be different than it is. We ARGUE with it. And, we FORECAST it. Each of these results in stress or anxiety. When the mind recognizes that a thought is NOT true in reality, it often simply releases the thought. Getting in touch with the REALITY of the situation is the second key to shifting thoughts.

3. Identifying Impact - Often times a thought that we investigate appears to be factual or true in reality, yet the resulting feeling is one of stress, anxiety, or sadness. Death, accidents, unmet expectations, annoying sounds, flat tires, and deflating stock markets happen. Some of the feelings associated with these events can become "addictive" in a strange way. We connect with others through sadness or disappointment. The adrenaline rush of anger can also give us a sense of certainty or power. When a thought is true in reality, but you're finding the result is not serving you -- it's time to identify the impact. If you continue to attach to this thought, how will it make you feel? How will you treat others? How will you live your life if you constantly focus on this thought? When the mind comprehends that there is more pain associated to a thought than pleasure, the mind often simply let's the thought go.

It's also helpful to identify the perceived PAYOFF. Typically the benefit we unconsciously believe we're receiving, isn't REALLY giving us what we desire. When the mind realizes this, it lets go of the thought more easily. Identifying the impact is another key to transforming thought.

4. Willingness - In order for any transformation to occur, one MUST be WILLING to shift. Someone can know they have a food, TV or alcohol addiction, but without a genuine WILLINGNESS to shift - NOTHING will disrupt the destructive behavior. Such is the case with thoughts that one is consciously or unconsciously addicted to. That authentic willingness works magic.

5. Just Let Go - Sometimes unresourceful thoughts arise, and we can simply let them go because they don't serve us. The inner critic may say, "Who are you to think you can do that?" or "This isn't going to work", or "What if you fail?" Maybe the thought is trivial negativity or fixated on something that can't change. The most powerful part of you can respond with a simple, "Thank you for sharing", and let it go.

6. Redirect Focus - Our minds are like children. Whatever you place in front of them becomes the focus of their reality. When caught up in addictive thoughts, consciously redirect your focus on something more positive or neutral. If your spouse is running late, embrace the beauty in your environment. If you find yourself frustrated in traffic, focus on your breathing, music in the car or the opportunity to relax and slow down. LANGUAGE is a powerful means of redirecting your focus. Consider shifting your internal dialog. Choose words that empower you over words that deplete your energy.

7. SCRAMBLE the Thought - Tony Robbins and NLP practitioners know of this powerful tool, and it's simple for anyone to use by themselves. You simply must be WILLING to try it. If you've been embracing a negative mantra over and over in your mind, simply recognizing its impact may not be enough. Let's take a mantra like, "I have so much to do". To scramble this sentence, or any other, do the following.

• Say the sentence 5 times really fast in a MICKEY MOUSE voice (yes, I'm serious).

• Say the sentence 5 times really slow in a COWBOY'S voice.

• Say the sentence 5 times is your most SENSUAL and SEDUCTIVE voice.

• Say the sentence 5 times BACKWARDS (i.e. "Do to much so have I").

You must play FULL OUT. If you're playing full-out, you'll find yourself laughing out loud. Just continue until you've made it all the way through the 4 steps above. When you're done, notice how you feel about the original sentence. Most people experience the sentence as neutral or humorous after completing this exercise. The addictive thought has been transformed. Try it!!

8. Replace It. As you loosen the grips on the thoughts that don't serve you, it's important to replace them with something more empowering - so the thoughts don't have a home to return to. Consciously choosing the antithesis of the original thought is a simple solution. Another way to find a replacement is to turn the statement around. Identifying a thought that is "as true" or "truer" than the original statement. Or it may simply align more with what you want to create or attract into your life. In the example above, "I have too much to do", could be transformed into, "I'm on track", or "It's all going to get done". As long as the replacement is more powerful that the unresourceful, you're on track.

Mary Allen, CPCC, MCC is author of The Power of Inner Choice. She hosts Conversations with the Masters interviewing best-selling authors via free, live conference calls. Visit http://www.lifecoachmary.com to learn about coaching, her popular year-long Success and Inner Peace Bootcamp and tap into a wealth of resources including her ezine SoulFULLY Living, and Your Daily Gems.

 

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Don't Throw the Damn Towel

By Tommy Yan

The flawless concert piano virtuoso spends every spare moment working out her chops. She probably hits more wrong keys during practice than a beginner, but you could never tell during her live performance. She gets there by applying herself.

The Olympic long distance runner pushes his body to get his best time. His goal is to win the race. He must discipline himself. No beer, chips or fatty foods.

And the burrito wrapper at the local taco shop works hard for his paycheck. When it's hectic, he must consistently wrap each burrito or taco so fast and tight: it won't fall apart. This is a sign of a pro.

To become that pro, you must stay in the race. Even after making multiple mistakes. There is truth to the action phrase: Practice Makes Perfect.

Which supports the Law of Increasing Intent. You intend to do something enough times—you naturally improve. You have to get better because it can't be helped.

But what happens when you hit a wall?

There will come a time when it feels like you're bashing your head against the wall. The burrito wrapper has maxed out at twelve wraps per minute. The mother is fed up with her baby throwing the cereal. Or the speaker fails to engage her audience.

What can you do?

You plot a new course. You experiment with a different technique. You ask for help. You come up with a new idea. You get creative.

The answer lies within you.

I participate in a speaking workshop. After I enrolled I made noticeable progress, but hit a snag in the following meetings. It began to gnaw on me. I chose to take a new direction, worked hard on it and made a breakthrough. I raised my personal bar.

You don't know what a relief that was. It became a confidence booster. This accomplishment becomes the new lower cap for rising to the next breakthrough moment.

Can you rise above your stagnation?

Absolutely. By tapping into your inner resources, you can come up with the most amazing answers. You can create breakthrough moments if you believe in yourself and the importance of your work. To begin, keep these principles in mind...

It's easier to rise when your purpose is clear. Mama eagle has to provide for her newborns. She must hunt for food. There are no guarantees she'll find any. But she must continue the hunt. Her resolve is clear.

It's easier to rise when it serves the greater good. The batter hits a fly ball to move the runner home. He sacrifices his personal batting average to accomplish a run for the team. The team prospers from his unselfish action.

It's easier to rise when you value your work. The fireman saves lives. The minister ties two into one. The motivational speaker changes hearts. People will value you if they see you treating your work with importance.

Every disciplined activity synergistically works on all your other activities. It tugs and pulls and seems to go nowhere until one day, you reach a defining "aha" moment. That's why quitting is not an option.

When life becomes stagnant—resist the temptation to give up. Don't throw the damn towel. Continue attending the meetings, reading books and expanding your mind. Your breakthroughs will manifest when persisting in positive activity.

Tommy Yan helps business owners and entrepreneurs make more money through direct response marketing. He publishes Tommy's Tease weekly e-zine to inspire people to succeed in business and personal growth. Get your free subscription today at www.TommyYan.com.

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How to Stop Attracting Negative Conditions

By Daniel Hinds

Sadly the world is filled with lots of negativity. Everywhere you look there are stories of sad and depressing conditions. It can be very difficult to maintain a positive outlook in order to attract the better things that you desire.

The law of attraction is quite unforgiving. You may be a very nice person however several things within your environment may very well be killing your changes of successfully applying the law of attraction to your life. Perhaps you are one of the many people who are bogged down by negativity. As you may well already know you attract the things that you focus on, whether consciously or unconsciously. How then do you best apply the law of attraction to your life and attract more positive conditions?

1) The media is a large supplier of horrible, painful negativity. It's a wonder that anyone can leave their homes. You are constantly being bombarded by stories that could frighten anyone. Then there are the doom and gloom health scares. There is always a new medical condition that requires some form of medication and always you are being told that you absolute need it or else. Are you really in danger of every illness or are they programming you for ill health so that they can force feed you their drugs? You be the judge. You may think that those stories do not affect you personally but the reality is that they do seep into your subconscious mind. Whatever enters your subconscious mind begins to control your outer reality. You can begin to monitor the amount of time you spend in front of the tube even best you can be extremely selective about the programming that you watch. Perhaps start by eliminating the news.

2) People are a great source of negativity. You can cancel our all of your hard efforts by spending time around people who complain a lot or whose force tends to be gloomy. Imagine immersing yourself in a good thirty minute program to change your life by applying the law of attraction techniques only to spend the rest of your day listening to someone whose outlook is negative. The moment you do you have just cancelled out your attraction and this keeps you in the never ending cycle of being stuck.

3) Indulging in the past is another common form of negativity that way too many people indulge in. So many people judge their present as well as their future based on poor experiences in their past. You cannot successfully apply the law of attraction techniques if your thoughts are focused on what did not work for you in the past. You can let go of the past negativity if you really want to see success in attracting what you truly desire.

Do you know that there are ancient techniques that can increase your manifesting intentions and attract what you want even faster than ever? Visit http://www.cosmic-wealth.com to learn more about these secrets teachings. Daniel Hinds is the author of the powerful ebook Magic Money.

Monday, November 26, 2007

Four Steps To Increase Your Motivation At Work

Work motivation is all about 'you' putting a lot of energy and time into doing all of your work responsibilities all in a timely manner. You will find that this behavior is something that you need to mutter for you to be a star worker. You will need to have work motivation when it comes to every single task or project so that you can do the project and do it right. You will find that motivation is the key factor in your performance. There is a lot of ways that you can increase your motivation; however, here are four particular steps that will allow you to increase your motivation.

First you will want to think about the Equity theory. This is where you can picture everyone has someone who gets a job and then does it. Everyone at work probably has the same expectations at work; however, you have to make yourself special. You will want to think about how you can stand out among all the other works. This may mean that you will have to change your behavior. You are going to have to find a way that will put yourself above the rest. This is where the motivation will kick in, because you are going to have to motivate yourself to be better. You will get your rewards when the boss pats you on the back or shakes your hand. Then you will work a little harder, and you'll be offered a job with higher respect or you will get your rewards in monetary forms.

Also, think about your competition. They can not be better than you, because then they will end up with all the rewards. You will want to use your competition as motivation. You will want to motivate yourself by using the competition to increase your self awareness of possibilities. You will work harder the moment that you know someone is working harder than you. When it comes to competition, you will find that it is one of the greatest self motivational tools.

Qualifications will also increase your motivation. If you can do a better job that is higher in the ranks, then you need to show others that you can work at levels below you and then scramble to the top. You will want to think about everything that you can do to show off your real talents. If you are able to do more, then why don't you? It's not a question of doing more, but it is a question of whether you would rather have the boss or others perceive you as someone who has low potential or high potential.

Finally, you need to learn how to set goals. Your goals will help motivate you to push yourself forward. Also, you will be able to chart your progression. You will find that there are a lot of benefits when it comes to setting goals and making a path to the top. However, you will find that it is a way for you to work for something just for yourself. The goals are something that you are doing for yourself, and it's not something that you are doing for the company.

You need to think about the raise like you would a manger. What do you think that your manager perceives you to be? Are you a minimum worker? Are you an excellent worker? You need to take the picture that others have made about you and then work hard to change the way that they perceive you. You don't want to allow others to think that you are a no good worker, but a person who really works hard for the company.

Tracy Brinkmann is an goal setting and success coach. Through his company Success Atlas, he provides goal-setting, motivational & educational material, & training via live presentations as well as digital/audio products. Sign up for his free e-Zine http://www.successatlas.com

 

Why Are These People So Closed To The Christian Faith?

Do you ever find in life that some things are hard to see and accept?

After a two year 'delay' Paul finally arrives in Rome. We read all about in Acts Chapter 28, and after only three days, he is hard at work, using every available opportunity open to him.

Paul called for the Jewish leaders in Rome. Why the Jews? He begins first with those who should be able to understand - those of his own background - those who believed in God. He had done this in all the various centres which he has visited over these past twenty or so years.

He needed to know the position of the Jewish leadership. This was his method, and it remained unchanged, even after all that they had said about him and against him. This is God's pattern too - to the Jew first.

Paul explains how he is innocent. He wants them to know the truth. His desire is to put the record straight. They would have heard rumours, tales, stories about this man, and he would tell of his being arrested in Jerusalem - "nothing could be proved and no-one could release me - so I appealed to Caesar - and that is why I am here in Rome." I just want to explain all this to you, so that you may hear it from my mouth. Paul is so open. Of course, there was another reason. Almighty God wanted His man in Rome.

"We have not received any letters about you", was their reply. "Nobody has come and said anything bad about you - no-one has warned us about you - but we want to hear what your views are about this sect which is called 'Christians'. People everywhere are speaking against this group and they are springing up everywhere. This new movement has appeared all over the Middle East."

Thirty years after the death and resurrection of Jesus, and people are speaking against this strange new faith. It continued to be regarded as a sect, and yet, this was the work of our Creator God. Our loving Father was at work in the world, and in one sense, so very few recognised it. That is also true today.

They agreed to meet for a whole day and hear Paul's reply. Here is an apostle who is eager. He does not have retirement on his mind - no sitting back and leaving it to the others. On he goes witnessing and explaining and teaching and serving as he makes himself available to God.

Look at how he answered. He spoke about the kingdom of God. He spoke about Jesus. He spoke from the Word of God, from morning 'til evening.

The word - this sharp two edged sword was at work. Some believed, and some would not believe.

There are always these reactions. "I'm convinced. I believe that this is true. I surrender and submit to Jesus and His Word." Or the opposite - "I can't accept that. I can't believe that. I'll argue against that. I'll use all my strength to fight against that."

These people then began to argue amongst themselves, and Paul watched these Jews go away. He remembers the words of Isaiah. Go and preach and speak to the people. They shall hear but never understand. They shall see, but they will never come to know what it is all about." This is always so sad to see.

Their hearts were hard. Nothing would go in. Nothing could get in.

They listened to it all. They heard him. They saw so much, but they were spiritually closed and deaf and blind.

Jesus experienced this too. After Jesus healed the man with the withered hand, some went out and planned to kill Him. When the sower went out and sowed his seed, most of it was snatched away. When Jesus entered Jerusalem, riding on that donkey, only a very few realised the significance of what was happening. Others were furious.

Paul experienced similar reactions. Some believed. Some would not. Some did not. But, the Gospel of Jesus Christ is NOT hindered.

Sandy Shaw

Sandy Shaw is Pastor of Nairn Christian Fellowship, Chaplain at Inverness Prison, and Nairn Academy, and serves on The Children's Panel in Scotland, and has travelled extensively over these past years teaching, speaking, in America, Canada, South Africa, Australia, making 12 visits to Israel conducting Tours and Pilgrimages, and most recently in Uganda and Kenya, ministering at Pastors and Leaders Seminars, in the poor areas surrounding Kampala, Nairobi, Mombasa and Kisumu.

He broadcasts regularly on WSHO radio out of New Orleans, and writes a weekly commentary at http://www.studylight.org entitled "Word from Scotland" on various biblical themes, as well as a weekly newspaper column.

 

Sunday, November 25, 2007

Excellence, Integrity And Standards

By Mary Allen

Human beings are drawn to excellence, integrity and high standards. We know it when we see it. We are naturally attracted to these qualities. They are easy words to say, and sometimes harder words to live, especially consistently. Yet, when we do live these words, there are great rewards -- externally and internally. People admire and trust those who exude these qualities, and want to associate with them and buy their products and services. Yet, perhaps the biggest reward of all is a "deeper and more respectful connection" to ourselves, and a greater sense of personal power and fulfillment. Sometimes the short-term pain is worth the long-term gain.

What is Excellence, Integrity and Standards?

Excellence means calling forth the best from you. That is innately fulfilling. Living in integrity is honoring your personal values and code of conduct, and not compromising them even when persuaded by others. Standards is the qualitative value of degree of excellence that you choose for yourself. There are rewards and consequences associated with our choices to live or deny these values. While each distinct, they are integrally linked and displayed together.

I've been blessed to work with a client base of men and women who exemplify excellence, integrity and high standards. I'm frequently inspired by how they honor this code, rarely needing a nudge back to full alignment. What I see in my clients represents a Universal Truth. Those who strive diligently towards excellence, integrity and high standards are generally happier, more financially successful and well balanced -- especially long-term. Those who compromise excellence, integrity and standards may appear to win short-term, but ultimately face consequences, costs and conflicts -- both inside themselves and in the business world.

We've all seen examples of both in our lives. It's particularly easy to spot those who characterize the extremes. Those demonstrating excellence, integrity and high standards stand out in their fields -- we trust them, and eagerly buy their products and services. Those at the opposite extreme also stand out -- repelling us or giving us an uneasy feeling.

What attracts or repels us to others, also attracts or repels us from ourselves. The more these qualities are cultivated in our lives, the higher our esteem and the more fulfilled we are. When we aren't giving our best efforts, lower our standards or fudge our integrity -- we tend to like ourselves less.

While the world offers benchmarks of excellence, integrity and standards, the real test is INSIDE of you. YOU know inside if you've really given something your all or not. YOU know when you've crossed an integrity line for yourself. YOU know when you've lowered a standard. It all comes down to a FEELING inside. When we compromise our excellence, integrity or standards, the result is a "feeling" inside of us that tells us something is OFF.

However, sometimes we can fool ourselves or be innocently seduced to compromise a value, and we learn to justify our actions by saying, "the end justifies the means," or "others are doing it," or perhaps we feel that we don't have a choice. This can begin a cycle of lowering standards. The cost is that it takes us further away from our true selves, our ultimate purpose, long-lasting success and our sense of fulfillment. This is one of the most essential ingredients to living the life of your dreams. More about this in future articles.

What inspires YOU to strive for excellence? What is that force inside of you guiding you morally and ethically with yes's and no's? Is that signal strong or weak? What standards are you choosing? And, are you choosing them consciously?

Soulful CHALLENGE: Check in with yourself. Where are you exemplifying excellence and high standards, and where are you not? Where are you in full alignment and integrity with yourself, and where are you compromising? What is ONE action you can take today to honor these values within yourself on a deeper level? Take one action today.

Mary Allen, CPCC, MCC is author of The Power of Inner Choice. She hosts Conversations with the Masters interviewing best-selling authors via free, live conference calls. Visit http://www.lifecoachmary.com to learn about coaching, her popular year-long Success and Inner Peace Bootcamp and tap into a wealth of resources including her ezine SoulFULLY Living, and Your Daily Gems.

 

How To Beat Procrastination - Miss This Step And You'll Always Be A Slave To Procrastination

Procrastination effects every one of us. In fact it's one of the biggest obstacles to creating freely that there is. How often do you find yourself caught up in trivial tasks like rearranging your art supplies or cleaning things that don't need cleaning, or surfing the internet one more time for those perfect instructions on how to overcome creative block?

One of the reasons procrastination is so powerful and so destructive is because it's a master of deception and disguise.

Whenever you feel drawn to one of these tasks we just mentioned it's as if it's the most important thing on earth and your whole life will come to a standstill if you don't do it RIGHT NOW, that's procrastination at work.

Procrastination slips in like a ghost, hypnotises you into believing that checking your email again or washing your socks is the most urgent activity you can possible do, then disappears again just as discretely, it's work done... And you're left wondering how another hour has passed without you creating anything.

Another hour becomes another day, another week, another month, and you start to believe creating is virtually impossible and you're about as likely to finish your novel or painting or album as you are to fly to the moon on a paper aeroplane...

Sound familiar?

In all of this frustrating and demotivating cycle, there's one crucial step you're missing if you want to beat procrastination.

It's as step that, if you continue to overlook it, will mean you'll be a slave to those habits of procrastination that dominate your creative life forever.

So what is this vital first step, this amazing secret to overcoming procrastination?

Quite simply, admit you procrastinate.

Until you recognise and acknowledge that yes you do procrastinate and no it doesn't make you a terrible, weak person, you'll always procrastinate because it will always slide in unnoticed and do its damage.

This step is not about judging or criticising yourself. It's simply about saying: "Yes I do procrastinate. And yes these habits of procrastination prevent me from being the highly creative person I know deep down I can be. Now I'm ready to admit that, and ready to work towards overcoming procrastination and setting my creativity free..."

Then you're in an empowered and informed position.

Procrastination is suddenly thrust from the shadows, a big spotlight shone in it's face, it's hair ruffled as it's told "Ha! I'm on to you now, sunshine!" And it doesn't like it when you do that...

Take this essential first step today. Admit you procrastinate and with this new awareness you can then begin the next step to beating procrastination - recognising when and how you're most likely to procrastinate.

And if you're ready to beat procrastination and set your creativity free in the next 21 days, I invite you to check out the powerful ecourse "7 Steps To Freedom: How To Beat Procrastination And Set Your Creativity Free" at http://www.HowToBeatProcrastination.com

For your free 7 article series on the first steps to beating procrastination, head over to http://www.CoachCreative.com/procrastinationarticles.html

From Creativity Coach Dan Goodwin

Saturday, November 24, 2007

Work-Life Balance - Eliminating Energy Drains

Are you are in plan-your-future mode or just plain doing the best you can to keep all those balls in the air? You might pick up some great traction by doing a tune-up on your energy system.

Whether you are in plan-your-future mode or just plain doing the best you can to keep all those balls in the air, you might pick up some great traction by doing a tune-up on your energy system. Many people have serious energy leaks they are completely unaware of. Intentionally managing your energy can be as powerful as vigilantly managing your time.

As a Work-Life and Career Coach, I know the great boost my clients gain when they start eliminating some of the energy-drains in their lives. Think about the things that drain your energy. How might you eliminate even one of them? Here are some ideas (pick just one to start with!):

Caveat: This list is so long, it can be disheartening. But please do not go there. Read through it only until you find an item you'd like to work on. Or read through it to be reassured that there are always new ways to free up energy. It is not just another task list.

1. Handle an incomplete.
2. Get some help.
3. Lower a standard.
4. Downsize your "To Do" list: 4 D's (do, delegate, delay, ditch)
5. Change your personal email protocol: check less frequently.
6. Deal with a single procrastination.
7. Acknowledge yourself frequently.
8. Review your top 3 priorities.
9. Adjust your "To Do" list to align with your priorities.
10. Monitor and address worrying.
11. Nourish and hydrate for the long haul.
12. Replace " I should" with "I choose."
13. Develop your inner witness.
14. Strengthen and protect your boundaries.
15. Clear some space, either physically or "on your plate."
16. Don't hide from integrity issues; address them.
17. Say "No" in order to say "Yes" to something more important to you.
18. Leverage your work preferences. (If you're a morning person, do your most challenging work in the mornings.)
19. Manage interruptions.
20. Spend sometime every week not rushing, not in "To-Do Brain."
21. Take some time off. Really off.
22. Clean out your car.
23. Be HERE now.

Just pick ONE item. Addressing one item from this list (or from your own list) can free up some bandwidth for you. Start with something that's relatively easy to do and won't create a lot of push back, reaction, or fallout from the people around you.

Copyright 2006 Sharon Teitelbaum. All rights reserved.

Sharon Teitelbaum, author of "Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance," Master Certified Coach, and motivational speaker, helps high achievers re-claim their work-life balance. Her interactive coaching process provides a powerful catalyst towards greater career and life satisfaction. Sharon's work has been featured in national publications including The New York Times, Forbes.com, and Working Mother Magazine. Visit Sharon's website at http://www.stcoach.com and subscribe to "Strategies of Change" to receive practical tips for work-life success.

 

Motivation Is Like Bathing, You Need to Do It Daily

By Leanne Hoagland-Smith

Keeping one's motivation in high gear 24/7 is an incredible challenge given all the obstacles we face traveling the road to success. The lack of motivation appears to continually cross our paths as we grow forward. Recently I read about Zig Ziglar's simple answer as to his own motivation technique. Zig said: People often say, "Zig motivation is great, but it does not last." I just tell them, Bathing does not last either, that is why I recommend it daily.

To stay highly motivated according Zig requires a daily habit. How you construct that daily habit is up to you. Bottom line is that you need to reinforce, reinforce and reinforce your own thoughts and desires so that you stay focused, focused and focused on where you want to be 365 days from today.

Developing a habit is understanding that attitudes are habits of thought (another Ziglar definition). These attitudes are merely reflections of our foundational belief system that holds all of our experiences and knowledge. Much of this belief system has become so internalized that it is subconscious or what some call on automatic pilot.

For it is truly our Beliefs that drive out Attitudes demonstrated through out Actions that create our results. (BAAR) If we belief that we cannot do something, the result will be that it will not be done.

Motivation techniques are essentially the internal fuels that keep our thoughts on the conscious level so that we do not allow unconscious thoughts from years of previous negative conditioning to take over. This is why changing actions or behaviors is so difficult. And why results continue to allude so many.

Not only does our brain respond to conditioning so does our body. After wearing braces for 8 years in junior high, high school and my first year in college, I had them removed. Teeth were straight. Then at the age of 40, I had to wear them again for another year, because teeth have memory and wanted to return to how they were. And we all know about losing weight and how the body is comfortable at certain weight levels no matter how much we do not eat or how much we exercise.

One motivation technique that I use is scheduling time to read and improve myself. Another technique, believe it or not, is Internet article writing. A third motivation technique is the use of belief statements or what are called positive affirmation statements.

Regardless of your motivation techniques, to be successful requires that you use them each and every day as you travel the road to success. Keep that fuel as a constant stream into your conscious thoughts and life will be good for you if not even better.

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Friday, November 23, 2007

For Many Men And Women You Might Be The Only Part Of The Bible They Will Every See!

Over these past 2,000 years it has been so interesting to observe and learn that no matter how certain persons have tried, nothing can stop the gospel of Jesus Christ.

In a number of articles, the truths and lessons which I have been writing about, have been based on the authority of the book of Acts. Bible Studies? Dry, dull and boring? Nonsense!

One of the strong messages arising throughout the Book of Acts is, nothing can stop the Gospel, and, no-one can prevent this Word from spreading.

Paul the prisoner of the Lord Jesus Christ is now in Rome as Jesus had indicated a few years previously, and he continues to speak and preach and teach. He writes letters to various churches, and to individual disciples. Much of our New Testament is being written during this two year period when Paul is a prisoner in Rome, and written by this powerful man of God who would just not stop working for Jesus Christ. Philippians - Ephesians - Colossians - Philemon - Timothy were all written around this period.

In one sense Acts is an unfinished book. It is a record of the Acts of the Holy Spirit, and as we know the Holy Spirit continues to move and act and speak, and this will continue until Jesus Christ returns.

We are writing part of Acts Chapter 29. That is no exaggeration. For many men and women in the world, that may be the only Chapter they will ever see. Note carefully there is no "Amen" at the end of Acts 28.

Let me summarise this wonderful Book. We would hardly know what the Church of Jesus Christ was about if it were not for the Book of Acts. This is what the Church was like - should be like - and can be like. These men and women were indeed WITNESSES. They were witnesses to Jesus. They KNEW Jesus was risen and alive. They experienced Jesus Christ baptising them in the Holy Spirit and it was an experience which was very real, and which lasted. They were witnesses to the truth.

These apostles travelled and preached. There were signs and wonders following. They were imprisoned. They experienced suffering. The last eight chapters are taken up with this struggle Paul had with these rebellious Jews.

In the Book of Acts, there is a great absence of organisation. They were simply filled with the Holy Spirit. We see in this book something of the authority of God available to us as we serve in the Kingdom of God - in the Name of Jesus - in the Power of the Holy Spirit. And, we see how the Holy Spirit works and flows and speaks and appoints and chooses people.

This is OUR GOD at work. We have no improved pattern for today. There is no better pattern anywhere.

Paul proclaims the Kingdom of God - Jesus Christ is King. He demonstrates the Kingdom - the rule of Jesus - the government of God - with words and works. People see signs of the Kingdom of God - healing - deliverance - and lives being totally transformed. Look at 1 Corinthians 6 verses 9 to 11. Such were some of you. These Corinthians were rescued and saved out of all that mess.

One thing I see in the life and ministry of Paul - when he met Jesus - he was shaken - his plans were disrupted - he had to move out of what he had been in - and into all that God had for him.

His life was so changed - and for the cause of Jesus Christ - and in obedience to Jesus Christ - and having a concerned for the confused and lost and perishing. Paul flowed in the power of the Holy Spirit - and there were occasions when that even involved floating in the sea.

Wherever you are and whoever you are, know this - you need never feel embarrassed or ashamed or intellectually inferior for believing the whole of the Bible! Nothing can stop the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and no-one can prevent His Word from spreading.

Sandy Shaw

Sandy Shaw is Pastor of Nairn Christian Fellowship, Chaplain at Inverness Prison, and Nairn Academy, and serves on The Children's Panel in Scotland, and has travelled extensively over these past years teaching, speaking, in America, Canada, South Africa, Australia, making 12 visits to Israel conducting Tours and Pilgrimages, and most recently in Uganda and Kenya, ministering at Pastors and Leaders Seminars, in the poor areas surrounding Kampala, Nairobi, Mombasa and Kisumu.

He broadcasts regularly on WSHO radio out of New Orleans, and writes a weekly commentary at http://www.studylight.org entitled "Word from Scotland" on various biblical themes, as well as a weekly newspaper column.

His M.A. and B.D. degrees are from The University of Edinburgh, and he continues to run and exercise regularly to maintain a level of physical fitness.

Sandy Shaw
sandyshaw63@yahoo.com

 

Success Is a Matter of the Self Selection Smart Choices That We Make Every Day

By Leanne Hoagland-Smith

Do you want success? Most people say yes to what they believe is such an obvious question. However, have you ever thought that your current level of success is a matter of the self selection smart choices that you make?

Just imagine if you would make self selection choices based upon doing your personal best for the next 24 hours or how about the next week? What would happen to your life and the lives of those around you?

Every day we make self selection choices based upon our existing beliefs. Making a self selection choice is a judgement. Unfortunately, society appears to frown upon the word judgement as something negative. Judgements can be very positive because when we are making smart choices based upon our own self-selections judgements, we are actively using our higher order thinking skills or are engaged in what some now call intensive thinking activities.

Many times people opt out so to speak in the self selection process of every day life.

  • They choose not to participate in a corporate wide training or change initiative - self selecting - not realizing that there could be one significant gem within that learning experience.
  • They choose not to listen to their children upon returning home from school. They self select themselves out of their child's life.
  • They choose not to become involved in their community. They self select themselves out of being a part of the solution.
  • They choose not to care about others. They self select themselves out of the human race.

Self selection is explained quite well in the book Leadership and Self Deception. The author use the analogy about being in the box (choosing people as objects) or being out of the box (choosing people as people).

Aristotle saw the power of smart choice through self selection when he wrote: For what is the best choice for each individual is the highest it is possible for him to achieve.

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Thursday, November 22, 2007

Work-Life Balance - Handling the Demands That Speed up Your Pace of Life

I want to offer you one very simple idea that may be useful to you if the pace of your life generally accelerates after Labor Day.

If you're like my clients and the people in my workshops, you probably do a fair amount of thinking on your feet. Your life is probably fast-paced, you're involved in complex projects, and you expect yourself to respond in the moment to a stream of information and demands regularly coming at you.

And like my clients, you may have forgotten one of your options. This option is particularly useful to invoke when you are being asked to do something that you really, on some level, do not feel good about. Perhaps you suspect that you don't have the bandwidth to take this on know. Perhaps you feel that it's not in your projects' best interest, but you're not quite ready to say so. Perhaps in some way it seems out of integrity for you to do this. Perhaps you have no idea at the moment why it feels wrong to you, but it does. Or you just don't know what you think.

Remember at a time like this, you can say something to the effect of, "Let me get back to you on that." Or, "Thank you for thinking of me for this. I have so much coming at me at the moment, I want to be sure I can really manage this. So let me think about it off line and get back to you." THIS BUYS YOU SOME TIME.

Once you have bought yourself this time, you can think about the issue in question, talk about it, sleep on it, do whatever you need to do in order to respond appropriately. Most overcommitments are made on the fly. Save yourself from over committing or agreeing to something you don't really agree with by taking some time and responding later.

It's a fairly conventional option that a lot of highly effective people forget they have, I find. So consider yourself reminded.

Copyright 2006 Sharon Teitelbaum. All rights reserved.

Sharon Teitelbaum, author of "Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance," Master Certified Coach, and motivational speaker, helps high achievers re-claim their work-life balance. Her interactive coaching process provides a powerful catalyst towards greater career and life satisfaction. Sharon's work has been featured in national publications including The New York Times, Forbes.com, and Working Mother Magazine. Visit Sharon's website at http://www.stcoach.com and subscribe to "Strategies of Change" to receive practical tips for work-life success.

 

When to Hire a Coach

Most of the time, when people hire a coach, they don't have a clear, concise statement of what they need. That's one of the reasons to hire a coach -- to get clearer about what's up for you, what your life is requiring of you now, and what you actually need to DO.

Most of the time, when people hire a coach, they don't have a clear, concise statement of what they need. That's one of the reasons to hire a coach -- to get clearer about what's up for you, what your life is requiring of you now, and what you actually need to DO.

I always offer a complimentary initial session if you're considering hiring me as your coach so we can both look at what's going on for you, how I would propose to work with you, and whether we're a good fit to work together. I'm not the right coach for everybody, and I have a number of excellent colleagues I refer to if they're a better fit for you than I am.

Here are some of the situations that a coach can help you with:

  • You have been going around and around the hamster wheel with a decision or problem, and just not getting anywhere with it.
  • You have become dissatisfied with some aspect of your work, your job, or your work-life balance and aren't quite sure what to do about it.
  • There's nothing really wrong, but you're just not feeling the energy and commitment you used to feel.
  • You are longing to spend more time with your children and can't figure out how to deal with this.
  • You are less successful (by your definition) in some way than you know you could be, and you just don't get what's holding you back.
  • For one reason or another, there is no one right now that you can bounce ideas off of, talk things through with, or get a reality check from, and it's holding you back.
  • You suspect you've outgrown your job or your career and can't imagine starting over somewhere.

The initial consultation also offers you the opportunity to ask whatever questions you might have about my approach, training, fee structure, how coaching works, and so forth.

Copyright 2006 Sharon Teitelbaum. All rights reserved.

Sharon Teitelbaum, author of "Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance," Master Certified Coach, and motivational speaker, helps high achievers re-claim their work-life balance. Her interactive coaching process provides a powerful catalyst towards greater career and life satisfaction. Sharon's work has been featured in national publications including The New York Times, Forbes.com, and Working Mother Magazine. Visit Sharon's website at http://www.stcoach.com and subscribe to "Strategies of Change" to receive practical tips for work-life success.

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Why The Secret Has Not Worked And Why It May Never Work For You

When the secret came out it created a wave of enthusiasm. The excitement and buzz was exactly what the producers of the move wanted you to feel. The secret was not a secret for many people who were already practicing the techniques for years but even they could not help but be entranced by the wave of excitement.

In the movie there was much emphasis on the law of attraction providing absolutely anything that you desired just by asking and visualizing. The stark reality for many people is that few people know how to truly visualize and worst few people even understand the deeper nature of what visualization truly is. There are absolute techniques to visualization that only a few people understand and even if you were taught the most powerful way to do so, it requires that you actually practice it in order to be successful.

The secret also emphasized the getting of things. So very much emphasis was placed on material things such as the car or the house, all of which is completely outside of yourself. All this desire for what is out there leads to feelings of not having. The more you want the more you remain wanting. The law of attraction is quite sensitive to the nature of your own internal sound system. The true secret in applying the law of attraction is to focus on your own being your own nature of already having, already feeling abundant. Feeling rich just where you are while learning the spiritual sciences that allow you to have much more.

Those people who are successful in manifesting do certain things in a certain way. Some may do it consciously and others were naturally gifted the ability to do it. The greatest secret is to fist seek and familiarize yourself with your own inner world before you can manifest success using the law of attraction as your aid. "see ye first the kingdom of God and all things will be granted unto you."

Do you know that there are ancient techniques that can increase your manifesting intentions and attract what you want even faster than ever? Visit http://www.cosmic-wealth.com to learn more about these secrets teachings. Daniel Hinds is the author of the powerful ebook Magic Money.

 

Work-Life Balance - Self-Care Without Guilt

A recent New Yorker cartoon shows a Mom in a bathrobe and a little boy in pajamas, coming down a ladder outside a second floor window with thick smoke billowing out of it. The boy has just made it onto the ladder from the window; the woman is further down. She says to him, "Don't forget Mommy's yoga mat, Simon."

Many of the working Moms (and Dads) I have coached over the years feel guilty taking care of themselves. They might get to the gym for their cardio workout, but they feel guilty about it. They might see a friend once in a while, but they feel like they're stealing time from their children. Their internal model goes something like this: "A good working parent is either with her children, at work, or en route between the two." Anything else, according to this model, is tantamount to sacrificing your children's well-being for your own. You might as well send your child back into a burning building - that's how selfish and amoral IT FEELS.

The cartoon is a wonderful image of the EXTREME. That's how it sometimes FEELS. But chances are, you are not at that extreme! If you aren't sure, get a reality check from someone you know and trust.

Some people hire me when the way they're managing their lives just isn't working for them any more. They've hit the wall in some way: they've gotten really sick, they're running into performance issues at work, they've become a "screaming shrew" with their children, something else has broken down, they're deeply unhappy, or they see one of these things coming. They know that something has to change because these results are unacceptable to them. But they need help figuring out what to change and how to pull it off. That's where I come in. I help busy parents get off their depletion diet and get back to a fuller life so they can be more effective as parents and professionals. Each person's solution is unique - but very often, much can be accomplished through small, strategic changes.

I see a real need for parents to have support to take care of themselves AS WELL AS their children. A small amount of additional self-care can make a huge difference in the life of a parent who is largely doing without.

If you are running on empty, find some ways to fill your tank. If you're afraid you're being unconscionably selfish to do so, get a reality check from someone you respect who knows you and your children. Learning to keep your own tank filled takes practice - it may FEEL a lot more selfish than it really is.

Copyright 2006 Sharon Teitelbaum. All rights reserved.

Sharon Teitelbaum, author of "Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance," Master Certified Coach, and motivational speaker, helps high achievers re-claim their work-life balance. Her interactive coaching process provides a powerful catalyst towards greater career and life satisfaction. Sharon's work has been featured in national publications including The New York Times, Forbes.com, and Working Mother Magazine. Visit Sharon's website at http://www.stcoach.com and subscribe to "Strategies of Change" to receive practical tips for work-life success.

 

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

How Gratitude Can Change You Life

By Shelley Stile

Thanksgiving is right around the corner, the holiday that has its origin in the Puritan's tradition of giving thanks for a good harvest. The Puritans weren't the first in this regard. Many religious and societal traditions are based in the concept of gratitude. What all these traditions may or may not have known is that recent scientific studies point to a direct link between gratitude and a deep satisfaction with life. Not only is it good to give thanks, it is good for you to do so!

In a study at the University of California at Davis, Professor Robert Emmons came up with some very interesting and illuminating results from his research project on gratitude and thankfulness. Professor Emmons found that people who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events. In addition, participants who kept the journals were more likely to make progress towards their personal goals in life.

The study also notes that people with a strong disposition toward gratitude have the capacity to be empathic and to take the perspective of others. Grateful individuals place less importance on material goods; they are less likely to judge their own and others success in terms of possessions accumulated; they are less envious of wealthy persons; and are more likely to share their possessions with others relative to less grateful persons.

If the practice of gratitude is so beneficial to our overall well-being, how can we learn to cultivate it more? My gut feeling is that the type of gratitude we normally experience when we see others that are less fortunate than ourselves is not enough. If it were, we would all be much happier as we are surrounded by evidence of the suffering of so many people in the world today. It seems that we need to look directly at our own lives in order to be truly grateful and thereby reap the benefits of gratitude.

The concept of gratitude is directly related to the idea of the power of positive thinking. Concentrating on what we do have versus what we don't have seems to be the key. Reminding ourselves on a daily basis of all the things that come our way keeps us grounded in gratitude instead of want. At any given moment during the day we can stop in the moment and be thankful. Keeping a record of these moments, journaling, is what Professor Emmons recommends. When life becomes overwhelming we can look back at our musings and see just how lucky we really are.

Indeed, further results of the University of California's study show that a daily gratitude intervention (self-guided exercises) with young adults resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy compared to a focus on hassles or a downward social comparison (ways in which participants thought they were better off than others). There was no difference in levels of unpleasant emotions reported in the three groups.

As we are told not to sweat the small things so too can we be very grateful for the little joys in our lives. I just got back from running to school to drop-off something for my daughter. Upon entering the house, which is warm and toasty compared to the rainy, cold day outside, I was greeted by my three dogs with tons of kisses and love. They now lie by my feet as I type away. The house is peaceful and quiet like my own personal sanctuary. I glance out my windows and see nothing but the foliage that envelops my home. These are the little moments that that we can become attuned to in gratitude. There are hundreds of such moments in any given week if we are mindful of them. They add up and build upon one another to create a more centered, content and positive perspective on life.

Furthermore, the research reports that grateful people do not deny or ignore the negative aspects of life. Again, my intuition tells me that given the perspective that gratitude gifts us, we are undoubtedly more equipped to handle life's challenges. One's attitude can determine how effective one is in coping with what life throws in our direction. Our perspective on life determines our reality. If we approach things with a perspective grounded in say the belief that life is unfair, everything that turns up will look unfair. But as we practice gratitude, we are endowed with its gifts of optimism and the necessary energy required to take on our lives.

How can you start to practice gratitude? Begin with the art of mindfulness, being totally present in the moment. Notice all the little things that surround you, things you might take for granted if you hadn't stopped to really look. Offer acknowledgement of these small gifts much like my moment in a warm and peaceful home with my dogs. Write them down in a gratitude journal. The little things make up the fabric of our days, our months, and our years. Oftentimes we hardly notice them because we are so caught up in the task of living. As they say, stop and smell the roses.

Stop and consider what you have been given in life. Are you blessed with financial security? Do you have loving children, a supportive family? A nice home? Are you in good health? Do you enjoy your work? Do you have wonderful friends? What does nature give to you? Do you have a supportive and loving mate? Concentrate on what you do have and not what you lack.

Research also tells us that the act of giving back to the world has much the same effect as gratitude. Interestingly enough, Emmons study also found that participants in the daily gratitude condition were more likely to report having helped someone with a personal problem or having offered emotional support to another. The act of gratitude and the act of giving back therefore reinforce each other and lead to the inevitable ...more fulfilling, meaningful and happy lives.

These are things that we all know to be true in the abstract and yet we can take them from the abstract into the specifics of our own existence. Start practicing gratitude today. Pull out a notebook and write down just one thing. Commit to adding to this journal everyday. A good time might be before bedtime when you have time to reflect back on your day. Think of all the good things that occurred. Perhaps a brief but meaningful exchange with a child or a friend. Maybe a great cup of coffee. When you put down your pen and paper, you might just go to sleep easier. That's yet something else for which to be grateful.

You can live a life that truly works and you can achieve peak performance in all areas of your life. You can not only survive life's unexpected changes and transitions but also thrive. Powerful change is possible. You are fully capable of creating a life that you choose.

Life Coaching is a proven, powerful, one-on-one professional relationship that promises to improve the quality of your life! Learn how to create positive change in your life. Visit http://www.changecoachshelley.com and take your free customized Life Quiz and also Shelley's Blog at http://shelleyblog.changecoachshelley.com for more tools for personal growth and power. Contact Shelley Stile at shelleystile@changecoachshelley.com today!

 

Tips for Success When Overdrive Isn't Enough

Many of us spend most, if not all, of our waking hours in ONE gear, "overdrive", characterized by a driven, focused attention to accomplishing items on the To Do list, a "can-do" attitude, and a relentless, linear push for results, completions, and on to the next. But it's not the right gear for every situation.

Albert Einstein once said, "The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them." This point of view is extremely relevant to the way most of us live our lives.

Many of us spend most, if not all, of our waking hours in ONE gear, "overdrive", characterized by a driven, focused attention to accomplishing items on the To Do list, a "can-do" attitude, and a relentless, linear push for results, completions, and on to the next. It is the mode that our culture applauds and favors, supported by the availability of high-grade, hi-test coffee every quarter of a mile; you don't even have to get out of your car! It's a good gear, don't get me wrong! I personally love being in that gear, and I love getting stuff done!

But it's not the right gear for every situation. We cannot solve our "serious problems" with it, as Einstein observed. It's not the right gear for breakthrough thinking. Creative problem solving requires deeper thinking, a more big-picture perspective, and detachment. It's also not the right gear for spending time with a young child, which requires being in the moment, present, slowed down, and with no To Do list in mind! In this mode, you can relate to the child on his own terms as well as access your intuition and inner wisdom, which will guide you in developing a nurturing relationship with the child.

Over the next months, at times when you feel exhausted and depleted, check in with yourself to see what gear you are in. Chances are you have been spending too much time in Overdrive, and need to use some of your other gears. Try shifting into balanced gear. Do not feel guilty about it! Bottom line, big picture, it will allow you to be more effective in all the arenas of your life.

Copyright 2006 Sharon Teitelbaum. All rights reserved.

Sharon Teitelbaum, author of "Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance," Master Certified Coach, and motivational speaker, helps high achievers re-claim their work-life balance. Her interactive coaching process provides a powerful catalyst towards greater career and life satisfaction. Sharon's work has been featured in national publications including The New York Times, Forbes.com, and Working Mother Magazine. Visit Sharon's website at http://www.stcoach.com and subscribe to "Strategies of Change" to receive practical tips for work-life success.

 

Monday, November 19, 2007

When Passion Ended

Do you feel lost?

Do you feel uninspired and less energy?

Do you feel that you are at the junction of a crossroad?

When waking up is just something you do because you have to, then you have either not found your inspiration or passion, or you have lost it some where along your journey.

Here's a meaningful story that I would like to share with you. May it enlightens you...

Once upon a time there was a very strong woodcutter. He asked for a job from a timber merchant and he got it. The pay was really good and so were the work conditions. For that reason the woodcutter was determined to do his best.

His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to work. The first day the woodcutter brought down 18 trees. The Boss was very much impressed and said Congratulations Go on that way! Very motivated by the boss words the woodcutter tried harder the next day but he only could bring down 15 trees. The third day he tried even harder but he only could bring down 10 trees. Day after day he was bringing down less and less trees.

I must be losing my strength the woodcutter thought to himself. He went to the boss and apologized saying that he could not understand what was going on. When was the last time you sharpened your axe? the boss asked.

Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut the trees.

Our lives are like that. We sometimes get so busy that we don't take time to sharpen the axe. In today's world it seems that everyone is busier than ever but less happy than ever. Why is that? Could it be that we have forgotten how to stay sharp? There's nothing wrong with activity and hard work. But we should not get so busy that we neglect the truly important things in life like our personal life taking time to read etc. We all need time to relax to think and meditate to learn and grow. If we don't take time to sharpen the axe we will become dull and lose our effectiveness.

So start from today, think about the ways by which you could do your job more effectively and add a lot of value to it.

Aaron Loh
Founder and Director of Wealth Learning International
http://www.aaronloh.com

Aaron Loh is an avid learner and is always in the pursuit for success in what he's passionately involved in - helping others to constantly learn and upgrade themselves. He faced many setbacks and challenges in this journey. With his strong commitment and determination, plus God's blessing, he successfully changed the lives of thousands and thousands of people.

Truth Telling Game

Intimacy is one of the most fulfilling aspects of relating with another. In opening oneself and revealing your innermost thoughts to another creates intimacy, understanding and deepens any relationship. The feeling of "being known" and "knowing another" authentically is fulfilling.

One fun way to stir up the intimacy quotient is by playing the "Truth-Telling Game". It's simple and easy, but not for the faint of heart. It's about connecting to your truth in the moment, and then sharing that with another. It can be played at any time by simply asking, "What's your truth?" And, it's a great way to connect with yourself, "What's MY truth?". The biggest key is to find the truth in your heart, not your head. That's the difference between a "soul response" versus an "ego response". The soul won't lie, but our egos make up all kinds of crazy nonsense. Go for the heart's truth. Then be open and ready for anything.

It's important to note, that "your truth", isn't always "the truth". We may perceive situations inaccurately. That's not bad. It's simply what is so. "Be with" whatever is so, your "truth" in the moment, or your partner's "truth" in the moment is neither "good" nor "bad". The truth can be messy at times. However, just "being with" another's truth is healing and supportive. Understanding, compassion, curiosity and love are useful tools to support you in this 'game of truth'. In speaking your truth - others can respond and clarify. Also, when we speak the truth about emotions, we're more easily able to "let them go". When you say "your truth is feeling sad", just saying that begins the process of releasing it. And, as each "truth" is spoken to, you can dig for deeper and deeper "truths". And, as the saying goes, "the truth will set you free".

Mary Allen, CPCC, MCC is author of The Power of Inner Choice. She hosts Conversations with the Masters interviewing best-selling authors via free, live conference calls. Visit http://www.lifecoachmary.com to learn about coaching, her popular year-long Success and Inner Peace Bootcamp and tap into a wealth of resources including her ezine SoulFULLY Living, and Your Daily Gems.

 

Sunday, November 18, 2007

Choice Or Habit?

When life delivers a plethora of unexpected and unpleasant surprises, it can be easy and automatic to react negatively. Many of these reactions are unconscious and engrained in us as human beings. Throughout our lives, most of us are taught and conditioned to react to disappointments with sadness, unkindness from others with anger or defensiveness, heavy traffic with stress and frustration, illness and death with fear, and our mistakes with judgment. If I listed twenty activities, most would agree on the "common way" to react to each situation.

But, who says this is how we "should" be reacting? Is there an alternative choice? Is there a more effective way? Or are we truly helpless victims to life's circumstances?

Let's take traffic, standing in line or changing diapers, as examples. Who do you know that LOVES traffic and consciously seeks it out as a form of pleasure? Who LOVES standing in long lines? Who would choose to change dirty diapers as often as possible? Okay, not many. It's commonplace to commiserate with others in line, or complain about the horrendous commute as though we'd completed an "Ironman Triathalon." Sharing war stories about sleepless nights, and endless diapers are also common stories.

Yet, being miserable in line, traffic or diaper changing doesn't actually accomplish anything, except for creating internal stress and negative emotion. Last I checked, the traffic doesn't respond to a loud voice, fidgeting doesn't magically result in speedier lines, and babies do poop -- often. In addition to the damage internal stress has on our bodies, this "habit" of reaction cuts us off from our true source of power and internal freedom. When we're caught up RESISTING a situation like these, our HABIT is stronger than our power to choose. When we're reacting, we're not choosing.

Why do we react?

If it doesn't LOGICALLY make sense to react in these situations, why would we keep reacting? Good question. Yet, we're somewhat innocent. We've watched our parents react and learned on TV how people react -- typically. We've grown to see drama as a way of life, something we can't avoid. We are creatures of habit and conditioning.

Another influence that keeps our reactions and habits alive is our need to connect with others. As human beings, especially today, we've become a society that connects through our misery. It's become one of the most popular ways to bond and create intimacy. Complaining about how our spouse didn't do this, and our boss yelled, and how the lady at the store was rude gives us an opportunity to connect with another because it's a common shared experience. Some workshops or support groups focus almost exclusively on the "what's wrong in our lives" as a means of perpetuating change. But, this too, leaves us looking for, and expecting things to go wrong, making our reactions acceptable. Some of us also learned early on, that when we get upset SOMETIMES people pay attention to us and give us what we want. Many business owners would swear that nothing would get done without their strong reactions. With a significant other, getting upset when we don't get what we want, often influences our partner to change. Perhaps these habits are engrained within us and spring out regardless of its effectiveness. Is it really the best way?

Alternatives

So, if we aren't reacting to traffic, long lines, dirty diapers, rude or incompetent people, or spouses who fall short of our expectations, what would we do instead?

1. Get present. When we react, we get caught up in emotions and thoughts that take us away from the situation at hand. Our reaction is often related to survival. It's almost never a true life or death situation. Stop for a minute. Clear your mind. Reconnect to your body. Reconnect with the present moment by engaging your senses. Focus on what you appreciate here in THIS moment. When we "get present," it's easier to remind ourselves that "we are okay, right now in this moment." From here, you can objectively look at your present circumstances, and make a new powerful choice.

2. Reality Check. Realize "what IS" and "what can be changed"? Once present, let's do a reality check. Sometimes there are options. And, sometimes it's about surrendering to what is. If we're "in reaction," seeing the alternatives is tougher. This is why a reality check is so important. As long as we're in reaction, by definition, we'll be fighting the reality of the situation. It's ALWAYS more powerful to align with "what is" first and foremost. In traffic, is there a faster alternative route or is it time to surrender to bumper to bumper traffic? Is there a faster line? Can you come back another time? Or is this an opportunity to choose peace? Is there an alternative? If not, then CHOOSING a more peaceful alternative is best.

SERENITY PRAYER

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

3. Choices, Choices, Choices. There are always more choices than we realize -- in ANY moment. Even when we don't think we have a choice, we have a choice.

As I realized I was committed to driving down Lincoln Tunnel at rush hour - with no exits - what were my choices? Be upset and frustrated? Or, to consciously relax my body, take in the experience, notice everything there was to notice, and catch up on some phone calls?

In line, I've struck up conversations with others, or just used the time as a moment to relax, breathe and not do anything. Sometimes just being entertained by other people's frustration is enough. With a dirty diaper, this may be an opportunity to connect with and care intimately for your baby. Some women cherish changing diapers, knowing it's a short phase that will soon be over.

When someone is rude, get fascinated and curious about it. Look at it with amusement. Are they having a bad day? Are you? Perhaps compassion is a resource to access. Someone didn't follow through with a job. What are your alternatives?

4. Choose Peace. There are a variety of actions and options available in nearly every circumstance, and the over-riding choice is an emotional one. Once aware of a habitual reaction, are you choosing to stay in frustration in attempt to "control" the situation, or are you willing to "choose peace" and align with the situation? Once we choose to surrender to traffic, the long-line, the dirty diaper, or any situation, challenge yourself to find peace in your body. With intention, comes the experience. The more you practice finding peace in everyday life, the easier it becomes to find peace in the more challenging moments.

One of the most challenging habits I'm working on breaking completely is in relationship. Granted, partners aren't always going to live into our expectations. Recently, I've found myself questioning my impulsive reaction to "shut down," "get upset" or otherwise "withdraw love" when my fiancé doesn't magically respond the way I want him to. These are meager attempts to control or influence the situation, or perhaps resistance to communicating feelings. They are conditioned reflexes or habits, until made conscious. I asked myself, "Am I willing to choose love or peace, now?" From this space, new communication flows. While not always instantaneous, the intention to "choose peace" ultimately results in a releasing of the upset, and the fabulous state of inner peace returns again.

SOULFUL CHALLENGE: Notice when you are reacting out of habit, and challenge yourself to consciously choose a new way to respond to the situation. Play with it. Share your experience with us by emailing me.

Mary Allen, CPCC, MCC is author of The Power of Inner Choice. She hosts Conversations with the Masters interviewing best-selling authors via free, live conference calls. Visit http://www.lifecoachmary.com to learn about coaching, her popular year-long Success and Inner Peace Bootcamp and tap into a wealth of resources including her ezine SoulFULLY Living, and Your Daily Gems.

 

Winning is Nothing to Fear - Do Not Fear Success!

Have you ever heard of the notion that many people are afraid to succeed? If they succeed then what? Sure, we have all heard this and yet we laugh when we hear it, after all who in their right mind is afraid to succeed?

Well, you might not like the answer to that problem because odds are that you are one of them. To fully understand this paradoxical issue with the human psyche, actually your psyche, I think you should read the following book:

"Overcoming The Fear of Success - Why and How We Defeat Ourselves and What to Do About it" by Martha Friedman - 1980.

Many people out there are actually afraid to succeed, and worse they have no clue, and well my advise is simple, don't be one of them too, don't you dare let it be you. This book explains the human psyche and how most everyone has the tendency to want something and then once they get it, wishes they did not have it.

Sometimes this tendency hits us in advance of succeeding at our goal or dreams, but there is something you can do about this inherent and some say innate characteristic. I realize all this sounds a little crazy and that you are not buying into this "Afraidy Cat Syndrome" at all, but until you read this book, you will not understand or be able to detect why you maybe holding yourself back.

Once you read this work you will be able to spot the signs of this real problem in yourself, in your mirror and in others. Once you do, well overcoming it, that's the easy part, but not until you read the book, buy it online today, it's a classic.

My name is Lance Winslow and I am a semi-retired entrepreneur, retired Franchisor and now I am a consultant brain-4-hire, internet writer and author. I got bored in retirement so I founded the Online Think Tank - http://www.worldthinktank.net If you would like to send me an email just to say hi, discuss an article, send me hate mail or need some advice you can find me at; http://www.carwashguys.com/history/founder.html Have a great day and thanks for reading - tell me about you?

Saturday, November 17, 2007

Feelings of the Oneness

Feelings of oneness with the Universe - indeed, with the Omniverse - these feelings are the beginning of the change that occurs when one begins the process of loosening the ties of the world and acknowledging the Oneness that Is All. These feelings may include visions, apparitions, sounds, smells and unusual experiences that have not yet been encountered. Yet, this awareness is only the tip of the iceberg to that which lies underneath the consciousness that is awakening.

As each person moves more and more into the awakened state, more unusual experiences are apt to become part of that individual's life. Energy coursing through the body speaks of its becoming alive - fully alive and sensitive to the frequencies that inhabit the form and flowing out into the formless. There is the beginning of an inkling of remembering how the waves of manifestation work and pulse as the current flows from the field of Source downward in frequency to the dimensions in which the form resides. Such are the feelings and they can be accompanied with thoughts of losing control, impending disaster, even death. Indeed, the ego begins to undergo an egoic death so it is not far off the mark.

During this time, others see the individual as off balance and in a state of chaos. Even medical treatment may be suggested. Yet, the natural course of what is being experienced is so much more profound and there are no words to convey the state of existence that he or she may be experiencing, often changing in each moment. Anger comes; a feeling of desertion, pain and often suffering, physically, mentally and emotionally.

What is this torment that appears to assail those who are letting go of the currents of the mass consciousness while seeking greater heights? Could it be as simple as the evolution of the consciousness itself as it begins to recognize its own spark of Divine Essence? Could it be that mankind is created, destined for exactly this; that life has meaning in exactly these profound moments of trial and pain? Could this ordeal be seen as pleasure and embraced with the love of the Open Heart?

Indeed, this is exactly what is being asked in these moments. As each one comes to the crossing between being earthbound and otherworld-centered, he or she must step across that boundary - filled with uncertainties and fearful anticipations - and touch the farther shore by setting foot on a world that will resurrect him or her into a space that knows no end and had no beginning. It is the end of the hunger and the fulfillment of that yearning which appeared to have no end. The journey has been worth the traveling and now the urge is to bring others to this resting place, this place of Divine Peace.

As each of you step through these doors in your day-to-day life, know that the way is always before you; that what you are seeking is what you already are and that the presence of the Divine Master of your Open Heart leads you surely and safely to the shore that beckons you. Keep your eyes fastened on that shore and you will surely reach it, no matter the obstacles that appear to be in the way of your secure arrival. Your entrance is assured and your path is secure. The path is through your Heart.

Toni Elizabeth Sar'h Petrinovich, Ph.D. is a visionary, weaver of grace, quantum physicist and multidimensional traveler. Born with memory of the etheric worlds intact, Toni uses her gifts to expand the same remembrance within the consciousness of other beings. She is the owner of Sacred Spaces in the beautiful San Juan Islands off the coast of Washington State where she conducts personal sessions, retreats and etheric readings for all those drawn to the authentic Self. She is the author of The Call - Awakening the Angelic Human and its accompanying CD, DNA Re-Awakening. Toni is also a direct channel for the Light Orbs who are the Guardians of the Soul. She does long distance healing, spiritual counseling, soul readings, light orb readings and chakra readings by appointment.

For more information regarding Toni's work or to contact her by telephone or email, please see her websites: http://www.sacredspaceswa.com and http://www.angelichuman.com

 

Forgive Everyone in Every Way

By Sam Oliver

Forgive everyone, everyday, and in every way. Each person is doing the best he or she can. No one, absolutely no one is perfect. Since no one is perfect, this means that we all need to share more patience and more understanding surrounding all aspects of our interactions with one another. Think of the last time you needed to forgive someone. And, think of the last time you needed to be forgiven. When we need to be forgiven, there is a feeling of lack or something as missing. When we need to forgive, we often feel anger. Anger is a secondary emotion for loss. When we lose something, the need to restore what was lost. This sends us on a search within ourselves for attention in a peace filled direction. If you noticed, to forgive or to be forgiven leads you to the same place. Both paths of awareness lead us on a search. What are you searching for? You are searching to find wholeness. What is wholeness? This is often one's perception of reality created by what one believes to be true. This creation of what one believes to be true is the path of one's soul seeking manifestation in the world of form from the formless.

There is no set way to wholeness. Simply being aware that you have a self-defined understanding of wholeness that is within you is what we simply need to give attention to within us. This continued attention on what we seek the most within us will grow in our awareness until the need to place our attention on forgiveness fades away.

If a person was to believe that forgiveness is something obtained through the human psyche alone, we all would find the journey into such a place within us as something to avoid. In the deepest parts of who we are, we want to connect to what is sacred within us. Therefore, to re-create a past interaction with someone who we feel we harmed or who we feel harmed us is a useless attempt to embrace what cannot be. This is not to say that certain relationships close to us do not need verbal efforts to make up for a past action leading to harm. In fact, a person can find this useful, and even, helpful. The point I want to make is the place one's attention may be at the time such a verbal interaction will become vital in the success of such expressions taking place.

Dying patients remind me that there are countless times in all our lives where the issue of forgiveness was perceived and we become aware of it. There is no way a dying person can retrieve all their past life experiences in physical form, but we can recall these moments in time and visualize how we would have handled them differently. This is our soul seeking to make right a wrong our personality may not allow us to do, or it may no longer be feasible to take place in our current circumstances. People are such a vast array of experiences. There are endless paths of attention within us calling for our attention. Perhaps, the instant we remember who we are and who others are in the deepest parts of our being, we begin to remember the love that brings all our lives together, and into, being. This remembrance of who we are as children of our Creator reminds us of the unconditional spirit reflected within our own selves. The transcendence of flesh and blood inspires us to give our Creator our lives, the lives of others, and our very reason for living into the hands that created us.

For More on this Author: http://www.soulandspirit.org

Friday, November 16, 2007

Midlife Career Change - 5 Easy Steps To Get An Ideal Career

Career change or frequent job changes once bore a negative stigma and raised a red flag to alert prospective employers. No more. According to Department of Labor Statistics, the average person will change career somewhere between four to six times in their lifetime. Additionally, they will make an average of twelve to fifteen job changes.

The red flag has been lowered and these frequent changes now tell prospective employers that the applicant with a variety of careers and jobs exhibits flexibility in the workplace - and that is highly desired. So, if you are contemplating a mid career change, now is the time to take action.

Assess Your Current Position

Take a look at your current position, both professionally and personally. Are you stuck in a rut? Do you feel stifled or held back? Do you feel as if you are going nowhere? A career switch may be in order. If you feel that you are not adequately utilizing your existing skills or that you may have hit a professional plateau, it may be time to think about a new career plan.

Evaluate Your Career Change Options

Think about not only what you can do but also what you like to do. If you are going to make a job change, salary and benefits may be a factor in determining the route you should take, but that should not be the only reason that you make the move. It is important to find a career that you will actually enjoy. Statistics show that people who work in a job that they enjoy are healthier and experience fewer stress related illnesses. You should also take a look at the knowledge, skills and abilities that your prospective career requires. Do some research on your chosen career. Your state's department of labor is a good resource for finding profiles on various careers.

Determine Your Transferable Skills

Once you have taken a good look at your new career, determine what transferable skills you have that you can bring to the table. Transferable skills are those skills that you can bring from one job position to another. When you are pursuing a new career, it is important that you can identify your own transferable skills. This can be very useful in when and how you make your move.

Establish the Educational Track You Need To Take

Depending on the career move that you are making, it may be necessary for you to get some training. With the boom of online schools that allow professionals to take courses online, on their own time, getting an education to boost your career change is now easier than ever. If the online route isn't your thing, though, you can also take classes at your local university or community college. There are also technical schools that offer courses in many different careers. You should also note that non traditional students -- students who are older than 24 years old -- are a rapidly growing population on college campuses throughout the United States.

Get Help If You Need It

As you embark on your ideal career, don't be afraid to ask for help. Find a mentor or life coach who can help you take a good look at yourself and your life, your profession and your goals. They can help to guide you and make your transition from your current career to a new career much smoother. You can find a life coach or if you know someone who is already in the field that you want to enter you can ask them for help. If you are attending school, you can talk to a career counselor there. The point is, if you need help, don't be afraid to ask for it.

A midlife career change can be exhilarating and terrifying at the same time. If you keep your head and do it smart, you can enter into a new career that fulfills you in the manner that you need, be it professionally, financially or personally.

Paul Sarwanawadya offers career change advice to help career changers pursue their ideal careers. He runs an informational website that provides tips on making a midlife career change

Please visit http://www.career-tests-guide.com/ to get more quality midlife career change information.