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Monday, December 31, 2007

The Art Of Changing Meaning

The process of turning a negative experience into a positive one is called reframing.

The two ways in which you can do this is Content Reframing and Context Reframing.

Content Reframing

Content reframing is the process of changing a negative experience into a positive one by changing the meaning of the experience. Remember, every event has multiple meanings. The meaning we choose to focus on is what becomes real for us.

The best way to do a content reframe is to ask the question, 'What else can this mean?' 'How can this benefit or empower me instead of depressing me?'

For example, if the recession hit when you were about to start your business, you could content reframe it by saying, 'Good! This means that business costs, like rental and salaries, will be lower and allow us to break even faster'.

Or you could say, 'Good! This means prospective clients will be more open to listening to suppliers who offer better value for money.' There are multiple reasons why starting a business in a recession will be a positive experience!

What if someone told you, 'My son does not stop talking' You could reframe this negative comment by saying 'Good that means he must be full of ideas', or, 'This means he must be very intelligent.'

If the person you love leaves you for someone else, reframe the loss by saying, 'Good. This means that I can find someone who truly loves me' or 'this means I can find someone who is more caring, beautiful and loyal.'

Context Reframing

Another way to reframe an experience is to do a context reframe. A context reframe is the process of changing a negative experience into a positive one by changing the context from which it is perceived.

Have you ever had a negative experience only to look back at it five years later and say, 'That was a blessing in disguise?' In a different context (i.e. the future), the meaning of that experience changed from bad to good.

In doing a context reframe, you must ask the question, 'in a different time or place, how would the meaning be beneficial?'

You see, everything that seems bad now, when put into a different time or place, could appear beneficial.

Going back to the first example of starting a business in a recession, you could use a context reframe by saying, 'When the economy picks up, the company will be positioned to do very well as it has been tested & strengthened by the recession'.

You could do a context reframe on the boy who talks all the time by saying, 'When he grows up, he will make a good public speaker' (context of time). Or you could also say, 'The fact that he talks all the time will certainly earn him a place on the school debating team (context of place). Are you getting the hang of it?

How we represent or (frame) our experiences determine our response and the outcomes we achieve. Therefore we must learn to constantly frame experiences in ways that empower ourselves and the people around us.

When we change the way we represent (frame) something, we totally change the meaning and the emotions associated with that experience. As a result, we change the decisions we make and the actions we take.

You must learn how to create resourceful meanings out of every experience. Successful leaders and entrepreneurs do this to empower themselves and others to reach their goals.

Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Discover his supercharged success secrets and claim your FREE bonus report 'Supercharge Your Success!' at Success With NLP.

10 Tips to Taking Care of Your Most Valuable Asset - You!

Have you ever thought of yourself as your most valuable asset? Think about this for a minute...where would you be without you? We find time to take care of the other valuable assets in our lives - our families, homes, relationships, etc. Most of us have been brought up to believe that taking care of ourselves was selfish. That's true - it is selfish to take care of ourselves. However, it is completely necessary to maintain the balance in our lives. Neglecting ourselves can end up hurting the other aspects of our lives. Below are ten tips to help you balance your life and take care of your most valuable asset - YOU!

1. Eat regular, nutritious meals. This sounds pretty obvious but the food we consume provides the fuel that we need to function. Bad fuel = bad results. Eating regular meals with plenty of fruits and vegetables and avoiding sugar and caffeine will help keep your blood sugar level regulated throughout the day. Never skip breakfast - it really is the most important meal of the day!

2. Exercise regularly. I know you've heard this over and over but the benefits of regular exercise are undeniable. Even a few minutes of brisk walking each day is a great way to start. It gets your heart pumping and the endorphin release will make you feel great!

3. Take time for yourself each day. With so many demands for our time, the first thing usually cut from our schedule is time for us. Make it a point to schedule a few minutes each day just for yourself. Do something that relaxes you such as meditating, reading, taking a bubble bath, listening to your favorite CD or enjoying nature. This may take some creative planning but the time you invest in yourself will benefit everyone.

4. Make a list of your priorities and compare it to your schedule. Very often, the things we fill our days with are not in line with the things we value or consider a priority. In our continual state of busyness, we sometimes just end up going along with the flow and not examining what is important to us. Comparing your schedule with your priorities may help you eliminate certain things that seemed like "must-do's".

5. Get and stay organized. If you don't have your life organized, do it now! Getting and staying organized is one of the best ways to reduce stress in your life and to save time. Different people have different styles of organization, so find what works for you and stick with it!

6. Don't be shy - tell others what you need. The fact is that you just can't do everything on your own. Many times, others around us don't see that we need help. By telling others what you need, you give them the opportunity to help you. You might be surprised at how willing others are to help! If you can afford to, hire out certain jobs like housekeeping, meal preparation, or running errands.

7. Keep a positive attitude. A positive attitude can help you face and get through many of life's challenges. Our attitude affects the attitudes of those around us. Be the positive influence and spread your sunshine to others!

8. Learn to say "no" (and mean it)! How many times have you said "yes" to something, only to regret it later? Saying "no" takes some practice but it does get easier. If you are not interested, are too overwhelmed with other projects, or can't give 100% commitment, tell the person you have to say "no" right now. There is no need to offer an explanation for saying "no". Chances are that the person won't be upset about it and will find someone else that is willing and able to help. By passing on a commitment that you didn't want, you may have freed up your time for something that you are truly passionate about!

9. Don't procrastinate. There is no better time than the present. Putting things off causes unnecessary anxiety in our lives. Do it now, mark it off your list, and move on!

10. Use technology to your advantage. We are in a technologically advanced age. Between cell phones, email, and personal digital assistants, we are almost never out of touch with each other even when we're away from home or the office. Learn to use each of these items to your advantage. For example, use a PDA to keep track of your appointments. Get creative and find new ways to use technology to save you time!

YOU are your most important asset! Pick one or more of the tips above and take action on it now!

April Mims is a life and career coach specializing in work/life balance issues and life and career transitions. Her coaching practice is Nexus Coaching Partners. She is passionate about empowering clients to balance the demands of a successful career and a strong family life. April invites you to a complimentary 30-minute coaching session to see if coaching could benefit you. To learn more or subscribe to The Nexus Connection newsletter, visit

Sunday, December 30, 2007

The Anatomy of Acceptance

By Mohamed Farouk

Acceptance, The Vague Word!!
Sometimes the only solution to a problem is to accept it; for example, when the problem is the loss of someone, goals that weren't met or finding that your loved one is in love with someone else, then the only thing that can be done is acceptance.

But the problem with acceptance is that whenever you read an article about it, it keeps telling you about the importance of acceptance and how nice acceptance is but not how to do it.

We all know that acceptance can sometimes be the only solution to a problem, but still the question is how to accept? Is there a certain thing that I should do to accept a new situation faster?

There are many tips that can help you in doing this, but I have hidden them somewhere safe, about 3cm below the line you are reading now :)

A Guide to Acceptance
The main obstacle that will stand in your way when trying to accept a new situation is uncertainty. Uncertainty is simple not being sure that what you are currently facing is the truth. For example, if you bought some stocks at $10 each, and if their price went down to 5$, you may become sad or even depressed, but at the same time you won't be able to accept it. Why? Because you are still unsure whether the price will go up again or whether it will stay at the $5 level. So the conclusion is: as long as there is still the smallest sliver of hope left, you won't be able to accept the new situation.

Here are a few examples that will further demonstrate the idea:

* She is in love with someone else: It feels so bad when you discover that your loved one is in love with someone else, but even after this discovery you will usually find yourself unable to accept the situation, simply because you still don't have enough evidence to prove it. At the same time, your mind will be striving to convince you that there is still some hope.

* I don't look like a super model: People who think that they should look better are usually struggling with an endless cycle of thoughts: each new comment they receive about their looks makes them repeat their calculations and repeat the same cyle of critical thoughts about themselves. If those people were certain about their looks, good or bad, they wouldnt have felt that bad.

* Is he dead?: I really feel sorry for anyone who loses someone close, and when the shock becomes intolerable some people start to deny that this death has happened and get stuck in uncertainties instead of accepting the truth.

It's the Uncertainty that Makes You Feel Bad!
Suppose that you had an emergency and had to run down the street in your pyjamas. If someone tells you "Man, you look awful! How can you dress like that in the street?", do you think that this situation will make you feel bad? Definitely not. Do you know why? Because you were certain that you were wearing something that looks bad in the first place, so it's natural that that be people's reaction.

Now, what if you were normally dressed and the same person told you the same thing, will you feel bad? Of course you will, but why? Because you are wearing something that should look good by itself, you became uncertain about your own looks!!!!

We can conclude something very critical from this story: knowing that you are bad is less painful than being unsure that you are bad!!! In other words, it's the uncertainty that makes you feel bad.

What to Do
Simply remove the uncertainty: find the evidence that proves that this situation is actually a new fact. Of course I am not telling you to give up so early or to admit defeat, but when you are sure that it's over, let go of your inner resistance and of this tiny hope because you know that it's not realistic. When you do this, your mind will accept what happened and it will signal for the healing process to start.

Don't Get Stuck
One of the main reasons for depression is getting stuck in a state of denial. In that case, the problem remains and the ability to accept it is hindered by this denial which will eventually lead to depression. What you need to do is to accept what happened and you'll find that you are no longer depressed and since you now know what acceptance means and how to do it, that should be no problem anymore.

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Coaching In The Workplace

Today organizations employ life coaches in the workplace so that the employees can achieve the desired results through proper guidance and training and therefore achieve increased efficiency at work. Hence whether it involves completing deadlines, attending meetings or planning out the next project a life coach can help you to use sophisticated tools and techniques to help all employees excel at their work and complete all the tasks allotted to them on time.

Today big corporates and multinational organizations make use of coaching sessions to train and empower their employees so that they understand their responsibilities and they are made capable to fulfill them. Coaching in the workplace results in learning from one's mistakes and not repeating them again. It becomes very important that each and every employee has a clear vision and an action plan in place so that he focuses on the same to achieve the end result.

Coaching at the workplace also helps to you to work in co ordination with your team. After all achieving the goals of an organization is a team effort and every member in the team should strive in his own way to achieve a common goal. Every team member's job is to be coordinated according a predetermined plan. Coaching also helps in isolating the important skills to succeed in your job. Exercises are performed in order to hone the skills of the employees. Next it is necessary to insure that the role an employee fills in an organization is the one that he is most capable of fulfilling. This is one of the most important aspects of coaching in the workplace as it leads to specialization which leads to maximum output and minimum wastage of time, effort and money.

Next coaching leads to assessing the true worth of an employee through regular performance appraisals. Rotate similar jobs so that the employees do not perform badly due to boredom. The coach can also suggest modified or new roles for the employees. A life coach will help the employee to understand the new responsibility entrusted on him and also help him put his best foot forward in fulfilling the responsibilities.

Communication in the organization is vital between different levels and between individuals at the same level. Coaching in the workplace will ensure effective communication at all levels leading to faster completion of work and harmony amongst the employees. Coaching helps decrease communication gaps as well as personal space boundaries and helps to build a better rapport and greater understanding between the employees.

Once the organization achieves the results, it is advisable to celebrate so that the employees are motivated to work harder than ever before. Hence coaching makes you aware that every successful project should be cherished. Actually coaching in the workplace helps to manage the most prized resource within the organization and that is the human resource. If human resources are well looked after then all other resources such as raw materials, capital, land, etc can be well maintained and be used optimally. However the opposite is also true. If you do not manage your people well, then the end result will be chaos.

Written by Gerard O'Donovan
Founder of Noble Manhattan coaching Ltd
CEO of the European coaching Institute
Europe's leading executive coach

Saturday, December 29, 2007

The Art Of Satisfaction

By Karin Steyn

Spending the greater part of each day to get food on the table is wise benevolence. It is the simplest security system we rely on for the sake of a better standard of living. But it's work, work, work ... and then the grave. While we know it's the only way to provide the necessities, all the work takes a serious toll on our health and relationships. For many the salary doesn't even come near to compensating the effort, and the outcome is resentment and disappointment.

There's always something spurring us on. A good education for the children, an annual holiday, the nest-egg, insurance ...and in the long run the end justifies the means. Yet, the security system is flawed. We never feel financially secure. We stress about inflation, debt, medical expenditures, crime, the cost of entertainment, the car payment, a salary increase and practically everything and anything with which we're involved. Who amongst the middle class and commoners can sincerely say their income comfortably lasts till their next pay day?

We define our own standard of living. It's never done according to the scale of our income. It's done according to our desires and the material world we live in. What we never realize is that we should be living according to our income. If we get peanuts, our life should be based on the peanuts. We are what we earn, right? If we're managing to eke out a mere existence, we should learn to be satisfied and self-sufficient. Of course there are many who disagree, and with five credit cards soaked to the limit and three or four personal bank loans, they lead a life of a higher standard, indeed! From sunrise to sunset, 24/7, they're reaping what they sow: a stress-afflicting existence. And why? Is it for a better life? Do we do what we do simply to compete with the Joneses? Or is it because we feel we deserve more; a better deal?

The salaries are often out of proportion with the hard work and long hours, which leads to increased frustration and despondency. We look at the sacrificial efforts of the ground workers - policemen, nurses, teachers, firemen, and traffic officers - who remarkably return to work every day for the pittance at the end of the month.

In the end, it's all in the mind and they way we think. When we're negative, the cost of living drains us of every drop of happiness. Dwelling on all the financial obstacles and our circumstances only make matters worse. No amount of complaining will change (for the better) our job, the situation at work, our salary or for that matter the lifestyle we lead. The cost of living shouldn't rob us of our happiness. It shouldn't make us slaves of our jobs. It shouldn't affect our relationships.

We aren't happier when we have more. We aren't happier when we have choices. Happiness comes when we learn to be satisfied. Unfortunately when we are selfish, jealous or greedy, we are never satisfied. Perhaps then, the art of being satisfied also lies in working harder at perfecting our personality.

Secret Ingredients for Success - Part Three

This is a MEGA secret ingredient. Ananda and I have known about The Law of Attraction for many years but this secret ingredient only came into really clear focus recently. Not that we didn't use it successfully in many areas of our lives. There are many very successful people in a variety of walks of life that have used The Law of Attraction masterfully without knowing of its existence. In any case, we certainly used this secret ingredient but the clarity of its importance is now far more apparent to us.

That's why we call it a mega secret ingredient. We have the teachings of Neville Goddard to thank for this heightened awareness.

We said in previous articles that the subjective universe or Unified Field knows nothing about time - everything is now. When we plant an intention in its soil, to it, the intention is already a reality. Now, follow this closely...what is your real objective with any intention? We've also talked about the "essence feeling" we experience when we attain anything that we have intended, and it is that essence feeling we are really looking for when we intend something and not the manifestation of the intention itself.

If we can tap into the "timeless" aspect of the Unified Field and merge with its awareness of reality, we can experience the essence feeling the moment we declare our intention. Sound fantastic? Well, its not...because its all happening in the mind.

Any qualified hypnotist will tell you that a person can tell you things that he or she does not know or have any experience with under the influence of hypnosis. You may have witnessed this yourself. The Unified Field obeys everything we tell it to do and that same Unified Field knows everything that has ever occurred - everything. This means that if a hypnotized person is told they have certain skills or knowledge, that expertise is available to them now from the Unified Field by virtue of the fact that their mind is temporarily unblocked of the limitation that would ordinarily tell them they know nothing of the subject.

The same thing is true of the essence feeling we are seeking through the fulfillment of an intention...that essence feeling is there already in the Unified Filed. If we tap into the "now-ness" of the Unified Field, we can experience that essence feeling immediately. This is the meaning of, "Do not say, 'There are still four months and then comes the harvest'?

Behold, I say to you, lift up your eyes and look at the fields, for they are already white for harvest!" John 4:35.

More on this in the final article in this series.

By: Ananda and John McIntosh

John & Ananda McIntosh are authors and teachers of A Course in Miracles and The Law of Attraction. The couple has ten published books to date related to these subjects and over 40 years of experience applying the principles they teach. To find links to their writings, books and Podcasts go to their web site: or send an email to © copyright 2007 by John & Ananda McIntosh

Friday, December 28, 2007

Failing Marriage Help

Fact: more than 50% of marriages will end in divorce. If you are looking for help in your failing marriage, you are a strong person and you are doing more than most people in failing relationships will ever do.

There are numerous reasons for seeking some failing marriage help. You may have grown apart, one person for one reason or another may no longer communicate, one person may have had an affair, or you both have just slipped into a monotonous routine. Whatever your marriage concern, you are probably here because there is a problem in your marriage that needs to be corrected and you really want to make your marriage work.

The good news is - there are some excellent resources available that offer proven easy to follow methods to solving virtually any marriage problem without the need for expensive counselors. Let me explain how they work by means of an example:

How does someone become a Doctor? They will read and study medical books that have been used to teach other Doctors. However, they will also practice what they have learned to become skilled and better at it.

The best failing marriage help guides will take you by the hand and show you how to identify what the problem is and then help you apply the best strategies for solving them and what pitfalls you must avoid at all costs. And this simple approach has helped save 1000s of marriages. Practicing what you have learned from these step by step guides not only help to improve your marriage, but will help you become more skillful at marriage problem solving and make your marriage better than ever.

It is a brave step you are taking in this journey and I applaud you every step of the way. Before you try expensive marriage counselors, don't you owe it to yourself to try proven strategies that can be backed up by 1000s of testimonials from people just like you who have not only saved their marriage, but made it better than it ever was all for the cost of a family meal?

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New Year's Reso-DO-tions

Ok folks, this is the issue you get to DO, not just read. It's holiday time, New Year's is fast approaching, and I'm going to ask you to take something on - something for yourself, that stands to change your life...

Now we've all tried New Year's resolutions - lose weight, look for a new job, be nicer to people, blah-blah, blah-blah, blah-blah. And what generally happens? We keep our resolutions for what, a day, a week - if we're really steadfast, a month?

So instead of any resolution, I'm asking you to choose one thing in an area of life that's most important to you. You want a new job? Great! You want to be involved in a passionate relationship? Exciting! You want to have the body you've been dreaming about? Go for it! (Notice I didn't say anything about losing weight - if this is your focus, the Universe will keep giving you weight to lose.)

Once you've chosen what you want, your next responsibility is to channel all your good feelings toward that area. Using the weight example, keep a picture in your mind of your 'perfect' self - and call up that image as often as possible. Take time to bask in how awesome you FEEL looking this way! (Hint: The key is to generate feelings that it's already happened.)

Then, in order to manifest your desire, you must take the inspired actions of someone who's already achieved your goal. Remember, Law of Attraction isn't magic, it's always about your feelings. So if eating 4000 calories a day doesn't make you feel good about the prospect of having that winning body, do something different - something that makes you feel GREAT. (A healthy salad, anyone?)

Again, here are the steps:

1. Choose what you want

2. Focus all your good feelings toward that result

3. Take inspired actions of someone who's already achieved it

By incorporating this formula, you'll find your results will manifest quicker than you imagined. And what could be sweeter than getting that holiday snowball rolling in your direction?

Until next time...

With love,


Jeffrey T. Brownstein is a Certified Empowerment Coach (CEC), specializing in Law of Attraction, and founder of Lifescaper Coaching LLC. He has Bachelor's degrees in English and Metaphysics, and is also a professional speaker, Certified Energy Healer, Holistic Health Consultant, Landmark Education graduate, and has been a Group Exercise Instructor for 13 years. Jeff resides with his wife Allison in North Carolina, and is working on a book about harnessing the power of Law of Attraction.

Contact information: Lifescaper Coaching LLC, 888-262-6999,

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Thursday, December 27, 2007

Replicate a Winner's Mental Blueprint and Replicate Their Success

If we can replicate the way a winner runs his brain, then we can replicate the way they think and behave, and hence the results they produce. If others can walk on stage and deliver a speech with confidence, so can you.

If others are able to constantly direct their emotions to feel motivated and confident, so can you! If others display highly creative skills, you can do so too.

Remember, they are able to do so because they are running effective mental programs. With the same neurology, you just have to unlock their secrets and run your brain in exactly the same way.

Think about this for a while.

Are you afraid of public speaking? Some people get terrified just by looking at a large audience in front of them. Their hands turn cold, their legs shake uncontrollably, their face turns white and they start to stutter when they open their mouths.

This is called a phobia and all of us have phobias for one thing or another. Yet at the same time, why is it that another person, seeing exactly the same audience can feel comfortable, relaxed, confident - even eager to speak.

Such seemingly natural orators speak to an entire auditorium as easily as if there was only one person in front of them. They may even be able to entertain the audience, make people loosen up and laugh, and they feel great about being up there too.

Again, what is it that makes the confident speaker different from the fearful one? They have the same mental resources available to them.

The difference lies in how they represent the experience of the audience and the stage in their brains. You see, the thought and behavioral patterns they run through their neuro-connections are completely different.

The first person's brain is wired up in such a way that seeing the audience immediately triggers off a 'fear' program that shuts their entire body down. This is expressed physically in sweaty palms and brow, butterflies in the stomach.

Quite the opposite occurs when the confident speaker sees the audience. His neural connections fires off a 'relaxed and confidence' pattern that allows him to perform at his best!

Unfortunately, most people have never learned how to direct and re-program the limiting patterns they run. They are not in charge of their brains. Instead, their brains take charge of them.

They let their brains go on 'auto pilot', running mediocre programs that keep limiting their performance.

As a result, they will always feel that there are things they can never do, simply because they believe that it is not within their control. Or ability.

You too can do what you thought was impossible before, like exercising consistently until you get to your ideal weight. Or give a powerful speech and inspire a two-thousand strong audience.

Once you learn how to change a program in your brain, in fact any program, it will ultimately change how your body reacts. And you can accomplish anything you set your mind (or brain) to.

Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Discover his supercharged success secrets and claim your FREE bonus report 'Supercharge Your Success!' at Success With NLP.

It Is Not What We Expect, But What We Are Willing To Accept In Life That Matters

All of us have got dreams we aspire to attain in our lives. These dreams come from people who inspire us. We may dream of making $20,000 a month, owning a luxury-y car and living in a million dollar mansion. At the same time, based on our beliefs, we also have what I call a 'level of acceptance'.

This 'level of acceptance' means that though you may aspire to earn $20,000 a month, you are willing to accept earning $3000 a month.

Although you would love to live in a million dollar house, you are quite willing to settle for a small apartment, Although you would love to be at an ideal weight of 65kg, you are willing to live life at 75kg.

You may set a goal to earn $20,000 but if you are willing to accept earning $3000, then $3000 is what you are going to end up getting. Why? Because the $3000 level of acceptance is what we make a 'must' for ourselves.

We will not allow ourselves to earn below that level of what we believe is our minimum. This is our tolerance level. The moment we think we are going to go below our acceptance level, our mind hits panic mode and we will do whatever it takes to get above that. Again, when we are committed to do whatever it takes, we will get it.

People who make $20,000 a month do so because to them, that is their level of acceptance That is what they believe they are worth. They will not accept anything less. They will never accept $5000 or even $10,000 a month. They will do whatever it takes to get the level they believe they deserve.

You Must Raise your Acceptance Levels.

Unless we raise our acceptance levels, we will never do what is necessary to achieve our goals. So if you want to make more money, you have to raise your standards of what you are willing to accept. You have to raise your standards of what you are willing to accept.

Be very honest with yourself, what is your current level of expectation and level of acceptance in the different areas of your life? Invest the time to reflect and to write down your thoughts.

If you want success to become your reality, make it so that you will never settle for anything less. Raise your level of acceptance to the level of your goals and you can't help but become successful.

Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Discover his supercharged success secrets and claim your FREE bonus report 'Supercharge Your Success!' at Success With NLP.

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Career Coaching - Get Started in an Interesting Career

How to get started in an interesting and challenging career field.

Career Coaching is an interesting career field. To get started there are some basic requirements that you will need to take. One of the most common steps is getting your qualification diploma. Depending on what school you chose to complete your education, there are a number of different programs to choose from.

There are also different schools and institutes to choose, with each of them offering their own type of career coaching qualification diploma. Each of them will advise you of the proper steps towards getting your qualified. Then you will have the credentials you'll need to market your skills to acquire clients and run a successful business or use the skills in an HR coaching program.

One group, the Association for Coaching in the UK offers the basics such as coaching diplomas, refresher courses, degrees and executive programs like MScs and PhDs. Completion of a qualification diploma from one of these programs will qualify an individual for full or part time positions and right up to executive positions. The professionals at the Association for Coaching will help you get started and stay with you every step of the way, guiding you in the right direction.

Another company, the Coaching Academy in the UK, offers a program where you can earn your qualification diploma and almost guarantees you success if their instructions are followed. Upon completion of the program, you will be given help in setting up a web page, sending out newsletters, advertising on Google, and marketing your services. They know all the correct strategies to get you started in your new career. The program is offered in different areas in UK, so you can choose the location most convenient for you. Career coaching is becoming a very popular career field with a high success rate, so you are encouraged to apply early if you are interested.

Career Coach Institute has a continuing educational program, a free newsletter and a career coaching certification program.

Some of the highlights that the people enrolled in many of these career advancement programs, really enjoyed were the convenience and cost. Many of the programs are online programs where you can learn from the convenience of your own home. With the price of gas and daycare, many individuals find it very difficult to go back to school for any type of education. Studying for your qualification diploma at home saves you money on those unnecessary expenses. Most of the institutes that offer this program also offer you a convenient payment plan.

Getting an education to qualify as a career coach has never been easier. You can almost work at your own pace, get individual assistance from the school's qualified staff, pay in a convenient payment plan and earn your qualification diploma. In no time at all you will be a career coach helping other individuals find the career that is best suited to them and earning a good living in the process.

John Groth is a former HR executive and career coach. Find Career Coaching Ideas, valuable articles and a Free seven day career planning guide. Discover up to date career and recruitment strategies at our Career Coaching Guide all to assist you in advancing and managing your career.

Set Yourself Up for Success

n any venture we undertake, there is always the possibility of failure. This is the nature of the beast, if there wasn't a risk it wouldn't be worth doing. Making no-risk choices rarely results in lasting success.

So how do we avoid failure? Regardless of what we are doing, there are several common pitfalls we must be carful to avoid. If you have the right attitude about these obstacles, you can set yourself up to win and win BIG.

Rejection and Criticism

Who likes to hear no? Who likes to have their decisions, product, writing, etc. criticized? I can't blame you for wanting to avoid it. But the truth of the matter is that you will never avoid rejection and criticism so you need to learn how to handle it.

Basically, you have two choices. You can let it get to you and back off what you are doing. But if you really believed in what you were doing that just makes you a sell out. To be successful, you need to commit to what you are doing and keep chugging ahead. William Swanson, the CEO of Raytheon, says that if you are not criticized you may not be doing much.

Your other choice is to treat rejection as a success. This is classic Tom Hopkins training. His philosophy is that you do not get too attached to individual outcomes and instead focus on the overall results. There is no such thing as success or failure...only results. Both are valid, neither is better than the other and both bring you closer to your goals. That may be hard to swallow at first (every salesman prefers to make a commission over not getting paid), but the logic is that every rejection brings you closer to the closes (sales is a numbers game, you just have to accept a certain percentage of rejection). Additionally, you learn more from the rejection. Every rejection you hear allows you to improve your presentation and overcome future objections.


In my programs, I stress finding a mentor and being coachable. The easiest path to success is to model someone successful. Do what they did, think like they do, and avoid the mistakes they made. In sports terminology, I am talking about running the play the coach calls.

Negativity from Spouse/Family

This is related to rejection and criticism, but it is always more biting when it comes from the people you love. To overcome this, you need to understand the motivation behind it. You family doesn't want you to get hurt, pure and simple. But in order to be 100% certain you will avoid getting hurt, you have to take zero risks. You can't win. Understand the motivation, and you can move forward. They'll all be there for you when you succeed, and they'll have absolutely no recollection of their own opposition.

Work Ethic

I say it over and over and over, and I mean it more each and every time. Winning isn't easy. You have to work hard, and you will have to work through lean times when nothing seems to go right. This will require a work ethic. You need to put in the work, to do what you need to do to get where you want to go. There are no shortcuts, no substitution for hard work.


It may seem like a lot of jerks get ahead, but the reality is that they are the exception rather than the rule. 99% of the time, it is the person of good character who gets ahead. Being dishonest and cheating people is going to catch up with you.

Success is not built on your own. It requires you to work with people on some level. You cannot get away with being a jerk long term if you want to win. Character counts.


Even smart, talented, honest and hardworking people fail. Usually, it is because they failed to set goals. If you do not know where you want to go, you can't possibly get there.

Goals are powerful things. They allow you to evaluate your actions in the light of "does this help me get where I want to go?" If you do not have goals, you cannot ask that question and your efforts will be scattered. You may have a certain degree of success, but it you are selling yourself short. Having a goal and consistently working toward it also signals other people what you want to do. The clarity of direction means they tend to help you. If you don't have goals you are working towards, you will naturally fall in line with those who do. Better to work towards your own success.

Tom Haynes has worked with sales, management, and not-for-profit for companies, helping their staff set goals, increase productivity, exceed expectations, and manage their human resources. He is the owner of, a site dedicated to success, motivation, happiness, entrepreneurship, and wealth. Visit today for a free copy of Napoleon Hill's classic "Think and Grow Rich"

Tuesday, December 25, 2007

What Is Happiness?

Happiness is not something we look for and not something that is "out there" or out of our reach. Rather, it is about being present with what IS. It is about being grateful for what already exists in our life. Happiness is a moment- to- moment choice to focus on the beauty and abundance in our lives rather than on the lack.

When we focus on the abundance that already exists in our life, our heart expands...and when our heart is expanded, we feel more alive and at peace with ourselves and the world. I think happiness is A PRACTICE. When we move through our lives with a greater sense of appreciation and reverie for what is, then we cannot help but have an expanded experience of this world.

Happiness is not about feeling jovial all the time but rather it is about embracing the full spectrum of our humanity. It is as much about embracing our sadness, our pain and our 'lows' as it is about celebrating our joys and our 'highs'. I have found that gratitude is a potent key that opens the door to the compassion, love and acceptance that resides within our own hearts.

When we are willing to let go of the judgments we hold about ourselves, others and the world at large and move into a place of gratitude for the many different ways we get to relate to an-other and learn about ourselves and others, we are presented with the opportunity to hold every-thing in the light of our own compassion. This allows us to BE in happiness, touch it and experience it in a very palpable way.

Tal Shai, MA (Counseling Psychology with an emphasis in Spiritual Psychology) is an Intuitive Life Coach who helps people all over the planet create the life of their dreams. She is the author of the Intuition Heart Cards and Guidebook, an interactive tool designed to support groups and individuals access their inner guidance. To jumpstart your Big Dreams get your FREE 7 week e-course "The 7 Key Questions to Propel You Towards the Life of Your Dreams". Sign up for this FREE e-course at:


7 Steps to Change Anything in Your Life

Here are the seven steps that will allow a person to change anything in his or her life with ease, grace and harmony.

1. Make it your intention to change and let go of your attachment to a time frame.

Intention is the starting place of all change. You must consciously choose to change. Letting go of a time frame may be a little bit harder to do, but it is quite necessary. Expecting it to happen in a certain time frame will only block the energy flow and slow down your delivery. If you really choose to change, you will. So be easy on yourself, you have already begun the process.

2. Focus on what you do have that you are grateful for; qualities in yourself, your relationships, the things that you have.

Gratitude is a very powerful tool for creation. When you are really and truly grateful, you will feel it. Gratitude feels good, and good feelings are an indication that you are on the right path, that you are connected to God. You will be more creative and more in the flow when you are feeling good

The outward action is not important here; simply allow yourself to be moved by the warm and comforting feeling of gratitude that lives deep in your heart.

Can you feel the gratitude deep inside your body? Go on, right now, find something you are grateful for and feel how good that feels. Now, if you took the few seconds it took to have that moment you just allowed health, wealth, abundance and well-being into your life for a brief moment. This is real power at work. This is your power at work.

With practice you can do it for more than a brief moment. Soon it becomes a way of life...

3. Focus on what you do want and how it will make your life better.

Focusing on how your desire will or will not come is rarely useful. This often builds resistance because in most cases you have no idea of how your desire is going to come to you. The worry that comes with the "how" of it, including the limited channels in which you believe it can come through, limit how it can come to you.

Focus instead on what you do want. How will having it make your life better? What will you experience when you have it? How will you feel? The dreamy good feeling state created by this train of thinking opens up you up to receive that which you desire.

When your energy is open you will receive inspiration. You will know what the next step to take is and when it is time to take it. This could take days or weeks, so be patient and be open. Usually by the time the thing you want shows up it does not even seem like a miracle. You learned what you needed to learn so that you could have it. By this point you have gone through enough changes that you have become such a match to what you desire that its manifestation is just what must happen next.

The more you learn to focus and shift your energy the quicker things will manifest in your life.

4. Focus on memories of good times.

Focusing on memories of good times will change how you feel. Go ahead try it now. Think of a rejuvenating vacation you took, or a really juicy romantic experience, or remember the lovely times spent with children.

Please take just a moment right now and really try it. Really it only takes a few seconds. Stop reading, close your eyes, imagine and remember.

Notice how your feeling state changes. We can use our past to open us up to receiving. When you feel good you are open. When you feel bad you are closed.

I create things all the time by the way I focus my mind. I know many others who do it too. So can you!

5. Take action in a direction that feels good.

Follow your best feeling option in this now moment of time. Sometimes petting the cat, walking the dog, playing with the kids, or going to the beach is the best action.

What are the options that you can see right now? If there are none, wait, enjoy whatever you have that you can enjoy. Don't worry. When you have options feel your way through them. Think about how it is to follow a certain path, then feel how it feels. Then think about the other options you have in the same way, and feel how it feels! Then take the path that feels the best. Your feelings are an awesome guide. They will never steer you wrong. Feelings can change, and when they do it is time to re-evaluate your thoughts and the path you are on.

6. Have faith in Life, faith in God...have faith that the next moment will take care of itself.

Remember the next moment will take care of itself. It always does. There is a saying that goes, "Today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday."

Now with all I teach about deliberate creation, and how our thoughts create, isn't it reassuring to know that it keeps turning out? Even though you have been worrying, it still turns out. How much better will it turn out if you stop worrying? If you do not know the answer to your problems or concerns forget about them for a while.

Tomorrow WILL take care of itself. It really will. Soon enough you will know the answer, you will experience how it all plays out. Use those experiences to reassure yourself, to give you faith, that all is well...always!

7. Release fear and objections raised in your mind by focusing on steps 2,3,4 & 6.

You have heard it said that "NOW" is the only time that exists. Well it is true, and life is a series of "now" moments strung together. This is why it is necessary to repeat this list of steps over and over. Your focus on the things that make you feel good opens you up to receive the guidance that comes in step 5.

Often, after people have done steps 1-4, they get quite excited when they do clearly receive the guidance that comes in step 5. Yet too many expect the whole enchilada to fall into their lap right away.

Often you have a number of shifts to make before you become a match to your desire and your goal fully manifests. So it becomes a loop of doing all of these steps many times to complete the entire journey.

Fear and objections will come. The bigger the goal, the bigger the fear and objections will be. Don't worry that you have to repeat steps 2,3,4,& 6. Don't worry that step 5 will come around again. It's just the never-ending journey of life.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski

Michael Skowronski writes about experiences and thoughts that changed his life and made him embrace a higher level of spiritual wisdom in his blog He is the author of the book entitled Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story - an unusual love story and time-proven wisdom.

Monday, December 24, 2007

Surviving New Year Resolutions - Using Goal Setting Techniques to Make This the Year

Ok, so it's not quite Christmas yet, but it is getting close to the end of the year. Every year many people make New Year Resolutions. This is going to be the year they lose weight, give up smoking, spend more time with their kids, or whatever else they feel is important. This is all well and good, but how often do we hear of New Year's resolutions flopping? They fail to the point where it's become a running joke in society.

There's no need for that.

As I often say when it comes to goal setting, pick concrete goals. Part of the problem with most New Year resolutions is that they're vague to the point of hopeless. Many people want to "lose weight". Um, ok. If you dig a little bit you'll find that they were happiest when they were 20 or 30 pounds lighter, or their waist was 32", or something similar. Which goal do you think is going to be more likely to be met: "Lose weight", or "I will reduce my waist from 40" to 32". Trust me, it's the second one.

The other problem with New Year resolutions is that they're often grand in scale. That's not necessarily a bad thing, I think you should aim high, but a huge goal can be daunting when you're looking at it from the beginning. Want to lose 50 pounds this year? That's a lot of weight! That means that you'll have to lose, on average, about a pound a week for the WHOLE YEAR. That can be mind-boggling for some people.

What about if you set your year goal for 50 pounds, and then took a step back. We all know that weight loss is usually much more rapid at the beginning of a diet, so let's set some ambitious goals early. How about losing eight pounds in January (doable) and seven in February (also doable). Well, now you're 15 pounds down in only eight weeks. That makes the big goal look a little less scary, doesn't it?

Your homework for the weekend is to come up with three goals for next year, fitness-related or not. Then take a look at each of these three goals and give each a six-month goal, a three-month goal, and a very specific, ambitious, and attainable one-month "jump start" goal. After the New Year I don't want you to worry about your three, six, or twelve-month goals. Just focusing on hitting that attainable one-month goal. After you do that, then you can reevaluate towards your other goals with some real confidence behind you!

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The Archetic Orchestra - God, Your Spirit, And Your Soul

When you receive the Seal you are made just like the earth was created into a big garden. And when man was created God said that man would be archetic, or the princely leader of all the life on earth.

On the second day God created the earth He separated the seas from the dry land. That was the day He planted the great garden in you so that now you are able to bear much fruit.

On the third day God created the sun and moon, the greater and lesser lights, to rule the day and night, along with the stars. Now the fourth day has arrived, when God will bring forth all the living creatures of the seas and Heavens.

And that is what God said. "Let the waters bring forth creatures with living souls," God said, "and flying winged creatures upon the earth below the Heavens!" And those creatures appeared.

When you are sealed you are a little earth and ecosystem as that garden. Your duty is to bear fruit, but you become host to much other life of the garden spiritually as well.

When God commands that the waters bring forth living creatures, that is when the Holy Spirit within you produces those living souls, for the Holy Spirit within you is the seas of the earth you have become.

And when God commands that those flying winged creatures appear above the earth, that is when your own Spirit (along with the help of the Holy Spirit) brings forth living souls of its own, for your Spirit is the air of the earth.

So the fourth day is a day of bringing forth spiritual Life, from the Holy Spirit who lives in your belly when you become sealed, and also from your own Spirit which is sanctified by God.

God also gave a blessing to the creatures of the seas and of the air. "Grow and multiply," God said, "and fill the waters in the seas. And let the winged creatures be multiplied upon the earth." And now comes the fifth day.

The fifth day is when the earth brings forth every living creature to live upon the dry lands instead of in the seas only or in the air only. God does this again with your help--this time with the help of your soul.

Your soul is what is sealed. That is your mind, where you are impressed with God's mark. And your soul is where you become that great garden, the mark upon you a little plot of ground ready to be sown with seed.

So your soul with the help of God the Father brings out much fauna life as well as the flora which has become your purpose. And this is when God created archetic man, that most important part of the fifth day.

"Let us make man according to our Image," said God, "and according to likeness." And then God commanded that man become archetic, the prince over all the other living creatures of the seas, the air, and the land.

When you are sealed you become the archetic prince over all the Life of your garden, made in God's Image, just as God is Lord and Leader over you. After all, you helped God give life to those creatures and you host their lives.

So you become the archetic prince over your own garden and you come to be able to produce even people as well as other life. God gives you all this and more when you receive the Seal.

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Jason Witt

Sunday, December 23, 2007

Traditional Leaders as Father Figures

We think of leadership in many different ways, which is why it is so confusing. At one level we talk about leading a tour. We follow tour guides when they "lead" us around an ancient monument. Similarly, we refer to "leading a discussion." Here, we are really talking about conducting rather than leading as we think of it in organizations.

A second popular concept is that of being the top person in a group, the individual who succeeds in getting to the top through force of personality or election. Being such a leader can mean having the ability to instill confidence that you will manage the group's affairs in a responsible manner, that you will be a good steward or caretaker.

A third way of defining leadership is to focus on showing the way, promoting new directions. Althoujgh we normally associate this concept of it with being in charge of the team, there is no necessary connection here. It is quite possible to lead in this sense without being in charge of followers. Market leading businesses and league leading sports teams lead their competitors without managing them. Martin Luther King had an impact on the U.S, government when the Supreme Court ruled segregation on buses unconstitutional thanks to his demonstrations and speeches. Clearly, King was not in charge of the Supreme Court. Finally, whenever a front-line knowledge worker promotes a new product or better process, leadership is shown to senior executives who are not managed by this employee.

Paternalistic Leadership

There is another way of talking about leadership that doesn't often get discussed and that is leaders as father figures. Many people want someone in charge of their organization, club, community or country who they can look up to, who can soothe their anxieties and provide them with reassurance. Rudolf Giuliani occupied this role following 9-11. Being a father figure works well enough in relatively stable, low tech situations like country clubs and charitable organizations but it is dangerous in businesses that compete through constant innovation. The problem is that it is inherently disempowering. When we stop listening to our real fathers and switch our allegiance to our boss, we run the risk of idealizing this new father figure. This is a no-win situation: we so strongly expect such leaders to walk on water that they can't help but disappoint us.

Paternal leadership is not totally dysfunctional, however. We want to please our fathers and we therefore drive ourselves to live up to their expectations. This model works well enough when the fundamental task is efficient execution. But where innovation is critical for success, we need employees who think for themselves, who do not look up to senior executives too respectfully.

Within the paternalistic framework, we unwittingly assign the good guy role to leaders making managers the bad guys. We want our leaders to be sensitive, supportive and inspiring, while we regard managers as controlling and punitive. This division of labor enables us to preserve our idealized image of them because we can simply discount bad leaders as managers. This is a defensive reaction that helps us preserve the status quo but the downside is that we avoid facing reality in order to maintain our fantasy of the good father figure.

Thought Leadership

The third model of leadership mentioned above can be called thought leadership. In knowledge driven organizations, all employees who promote a better way are showing leadership. In this context, senior executives need to operate more as facilitators, catalysts and talent nurturers than as leaders. Their role is like that of investors. They make decisions about which of the initiatives bubbling up from below are most worthy of investment.

This is not about stopping ourselves from learning from father figures or other role models. The key point is that regarding such figures as leaders can get in the way of everyone else in the organization showing leadership themselves. Dependency is never healthy, but it is especially risky and costly where organizations need everyone thinking for themselves to be successful.

See for more information on this and related topics. Mitch McCrimmon's latest book, Burn! 7 Leadership Myths in Ashes was published in 2006. He is a business psychologist with over 30 years experience of leadership assessment and executive coaching.

Top Tip To Reduce Stress And Anxiety

Though stress is an inevitable part of daily life, stressed out does not have to be. We all need an outlet for stress. If we can't vent out our emotions in a healthy way, we may completely deplete ourselves by turning all that negative energy inward. There are lots of ways to do it. Here is a tip you may wish to consider to adopt to relieve your stress, enhance your vitality and energy sooner than you can imagine.

There are many natural supplements that can reduce anxiety and boost your spirits, which are all sold over the counter at health food stores and pharmacies. If the simple solutions do not work for you, you may want to try Kava, a wonderful, soothing supplement that is particularly good for people who are under a great deal of stress. If you are feeling stressed out or anxious, it is recommended that you include the following supplement in your daily plan for at least ten weeks, if not longer.

For thousands of years the herd kava has been used in the South Seas as a mood enhancer and treatment for anxiety. Today, kava is growing in popularity in the West, and kava teas and capsules are sold in health food stores and pharmacies. It contains biologically active compounds called kavalactones that have been shown to be effective against stress, anxiety, and muscle tension. Unlike tranquilizers, it will not leave you feeling groggy or drugged; instead, it promotes a feeling of tranquillity and well-being. Even better, kava is non-addictive.

The kavalactones in kava have a profoundly positive effect on the region of the brain that controls emotion. There have been more than eight hundred studies of the benefits of kava as an anti-anxiety agent in Europe, and most of them have verified that it works as well as, if not better than, many prescription anti-anxiety drugs.

Kava is also an important part of social life of South Sea residents. The kava ceremony, which involves drinking a strong drink, is reserved for honoured guests. Dignitaries who have visited the South Seas from Pope John Paul II to Hillary Clinton have participated in the kava ceremony. What a nice way to relax your guests and make them feel at home!

If you feel anxious and stressed out, it is recommended that you take 60 milligrams of it daily. Like many other herbs, it has a cumulative effect, which means that it will take about four weeks to notice an improvement in anxiety. You should feel better long before you have completed your own health routine, and if kava works well for you, you may want to continue on it for as long as you need it. If you are currently taking a prescription drug for anxiety, work with your doctor to wean yourself off it slowly and to start to drink it.

Raymond Lee Geok Seng is one of the foremost experts in the health and fitness industry and is a writer specializing in body health, muscle development and dieting. He has spent countless of time and efforts conducting research and share his insightful and powerful secrets to benefit men and women all over the world. He is currently the author of the latest edition of "Neck Exercises and Workouts."

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Saturday, December 22, 2007

5 Ways To Develop The Leader In You

Someone once wrote, "You are today actually better than yesterday and the days before because you are today's sum of what you have learned from all your yesterdays combined."

Who you are today then is a result of all that you have been through, all your experiences and opportunities that you have leveraged on. Opportunities are mere possibilities that offer the prospect of some result or outcome, if you take advantage of them.

Such is true with leadership. Leaders are made and not born; and becoming a leader is an unending process that you'll undergo by first grabbing opportunities and not letting them pass you by.

In developing yourself as a leader, you cannot simply tell yourself, "I want to develop my leadership abilities" and leave it at that, as that would simply be lip service, and you will find that you are the same person, no better at leading than the day you told yourself that. In order to develop the leader in you, you have to take action. In order to take action, you need to find opportunities, and put yourself in situations that will mold you into the leader you want to be.

Here are 5 simple ways to do that.


Other people will not notice your potential if are quiet as a fixture in a room like a coat hanger. Take a chance and raise your hand. Jump at every opportunity or activity to show off your skills; to show what you can do well. Get involved in activities.

Be Proactive

Don't wait to be told. If you see a chance for you to put your skill or talent to good use, don't wait for an invitation. Jump right in, people appreciate a person who does not need to be told what to do.

Position Yourself.

In selecting what to volunteer for, you should evaluate these not simply on pros and cons but how it shall serve your goal of developing your leadership abilities. Make a list of potential gains from the experience you plan to volunteer for and go for the roles that will serve as stepping stones towards more opportunities that offer more responsibilities in the future. Positions that offer no opportunities for advancement or with minimal springboard value will just delay you. Grab opportunities that will expand your role and expose you to more challenging tasks.

Build Relationships.

Leadership is all about relationships. You cannot learn to be a good leader, neither will you come across opportunities if you do not build relationships. You have to go out, meet people, and seek out those you can learn from.

Create your own opportunities.

They never really come knocking, as one old adage goes. You have to pursue them, or create them. You have to go to where the action is and see what you can do. Opportunities do not come to you as you daydream about them in the comforts of your bedroom, you have to seek them out. If you get the right kind of exposure, enjoy a measure of success and create a buzz, people will take notice and this will further translate into more opportunities in the future.

By exposing yourself to opportunities, you increase your chances of learning new things. This is essentially what leadership development is about, an admission that regardless of what you have been through and learned, there is much more to learn and there is always room for improvement, especially in leadership development.

Roy Sencio is a Certified National Trainer (CNT) accredited by Junior Chamber International (JCI), A Worldwide Federation of Young Leaders and Entrepreneurs. Find out more about leadership development at the Leadership Training Blog, or visit

How Coaching Changes Lives

The world has become very competitive and all of us are striving day and night to achieve our goals in our personal lives as well as our professional lives. We have to remember that if we are not able to keep pace with the world's progress we will soon be left far behind. Hence receiving training and support from a life coach can prove to be extremely beneficial for us as we learn to get what we want with the least time and effort without making and repeating any mistakes.

Today a life coach and help you change your life and make it worth living positively. You can hire a personal coach or you can also work with life coaches online through the internet via email, chat and teleconference. Regular coaching can change your life completely as you will be able to identify your desires and will also learn the techniques and methods to fulfill those desires. A life coach can help you get positive results not only in your professional life but your personal and social life as well. You can use the techniques that you have learnt during your training to find out what your goals really are, define the values and then achieve the success that you desire. So whether you want to move up the corporate ladder or maintain relationships with your friends, coaching can help you with everything and much much more.

Remember that many people have a desire to do something and their lack of direction leaves them clueless. This is where life coaching can be introduced to play the most important role in finding a direction to make someone achieve what he desires. Hence we see that life coaching proves to be a very powerful and professional type of coaching that is always effective. If you apply in real life what you have learnt from life coaching you will definitely see how fast your life has changed. You will be able to discover your worth in terms of how much you can achieve in every area of your life, especially if you do your work with honesty and persistence.

Life coaching is not only theory that you learn from the books. Life coaching is something that you implement in your real life every single day. Coaching helps you focus on your objectives and it makes you understand how you have achieved the positive results through your hard work. Coaching helps you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

Today the services of a life coach can be hired by anyone, whether an individual or an organization. The best part of life coaching is that it can be applied to any aspect of your life, be it education, career, personality development, communication, maintaining health, maintaining finance and even spirituality. Life coaching can help us in every aspect of our lives and it can make all the difference by moving to a great life from a good life. You can depend on your coach to be at your service any time you require.

Written by Gerard O'Donovan
Founder of Noble Manhattan coaching Ltd
CEO of the European coaching Institute
Europe's leading executive coach

Quit Alcohol Addiction

By Shanat Kuphur

The reason that many people tend to get addicted to alcohol is varied. Some people drink to enjoy their life and others drink when they have nothing to do, when at a party and others drink in their mournful days. Alcohol addiction can also be a consequence of the environment a person has grown up in. others may simply start to get a taste of varied alcohol flavors and different kinds of alcohols that the manufacturers dish out.

Alcohol addiction is a common sight in today's generation. Especially in the youth, none of the parties are said to be complete without the involvement of alcohol. Alcohol is stated as one of the top causes of death and ailment in the list of addictions. It can cause many conditions that can get the better of your health even before you realize it.

After consuming alcohol it's your liver that is targeted in the long run. This in turn guarantees that you start having problems with your internal body parts. It has been proved with recent studies that a person that tends to get addicted to alcohol reduces his own life expectancy by a minimum of ten years. People that are addicted to alcohol can be involved with a number of crimes such as murders, felony, and rape.

In such a situation a person might not have the intention of doing such an awful crime but excessive alcohol consumption takes over an alcoholics better senses. Not only do you ruin your health but also in the bargain, this will land you in a problem where you will find yourself behind bars under rigorous punishment.

People that are addicted to alcohol are described as alcoholics. Many people have attempted to try to stop this bad habit of theirs but are simply unable to. How to stop drinking alcohol? What exactly has to be done in this regard? Firstly a strong will is to be developed in order to get rid of alcohol. This is the time a person's will power can be put to an ultimate test and for this you should be ready to overcome all obstacles that come your way.

You can visit a rehabilitation center that can help you. Rehabilitation centers are well known for their success to help people deal with different kinds of addictions. Alcohol addiction is a problem that many have encountered and overcome. With the help of friends, family and, of course your own willingness, you can leave your past behind. Now that you are aware of how to stop drinking alcohol you should not find it difficult to put a stop to your dreadful habit.

One very effective way to control drinking is by using a process called Hypnotherapy. The use of Hypnosis in therapy became very popular towards the end of the last century, used by many in the western world to help them to stop smoking. Since then the practice has come a long way and there are many clinics the world over that can help sufferers of alcohol addiction with Hypnotherapy. Many people also wish to get this help in the comfort and security of their own home. If this is the case for you then you may wish to consider using an hypnosis download for alcohol addiction. This way you get the results that you want in the comfort of your own home and in your own time.

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Friday, December 21, 2007

Top 7 Secrets to a Stress-Free Christmas

By Wendy Hearn

1. Take time for yourself on a regular basis. Perhaps you might take a long bath, read, have quiet time alone or whatever feels good for you. You will be feel good about yourself and more relaxed and energised to enjoy your life more fully.

2. Ask people to help you. Choose 3 things today that you can receive help with and ask for it. You will have less to cope with and get done, can stop being a hero who does it all and leave the other person feeling important with a sense of responsibility.

3. Exercise. Choose a level and an amount that feels right for you, which could start with a 5 minute walk and build up from there. Exercising will help to relieve your stress and will leave you feeling great about yourself.

4. Get sufficient sleep. The amount of sleep required by individuals varies and so check with yourself when you wake up in the morning whether you feel tired or energised and vary your amount of sleep accordingly. You will feel refreshed, mentally alert and at your most capable to deal with and enjoy your day fully.

5. Eat healthy and nutritious food. You might try choosing fresh fruit at times in preference to high sugar foods. When you eat healthily you are giving your body the best and this will leave you with more energy, valuing and caring for yourself properly.

6. Learn to say no. A straight forward "No" is best although if this feels difficult at first try, "No, my time is committed elsewhere." Saying no is a skill to learn, takes practice and you can do it pleasantly. You will never please everyone and accepting this will reduce the pressure you put on yourself.

7. Quit worrying. It's a sheer waste of energy and probably 90% of what you are worrying about will not happen. Take this energy and use it to solve the problems that are causing you to worry.

Wendy works with business owners to be more effective and successful, achieving a more profitable business in less time. Click through to her site and read more of Wendy's articles and about how business coaching can take your business to the next level.

Wealth And Riches Which Never Lose Their Value

Wealth and riches which never lose their value and which can never be stolen are offered to all who wish to receive them.

Have you ever wanted to be truly blessed, and your life enriched abundantly?

Many people seek this but do not know where to find such wealth.

God shows us how we can be blessed, and He indicates the path of blessing, and for blessing. Of course, He also warns us what will happen if we ignore His ways.

There is a very real blessing to be received and enjoyed when a man takes his counsel from men of God.

Blessed is the person who comes to God, and God's Word, and to God's men, for advice, and help in time of trouble and need.

If we take the wrong counsel and advice, we will find ourselves hanging around in the company of those who do not know Jesus or keep His Word, and that will do us no good.

Blessed is the man who can say "NO" positively. No, I am not doing that. No, I am not going there. No, I will not be with you.

Do you know what gradually happens?

We have the picture of a man walking with the ungodly, and a series of steps leads him to make certain commitments.

This man stands in this company, and before he knows it, he is sitting alongside them, agreeing with them, and perhaps beginning to scoff and mock at the things of God.

There does not appear to be any room for compromise here. Sin grows.

When we move into sinner's company, we begin to think like them, speak like them, and act like them.

Yes, we have to work alongside all kinds of people in the world, but our fellowship is in Christ, and with those who are in Christ.

It takes courage to say "Yes" and it also takes courage to say "No", and it is important to speak the right word at the right time.

All this can be found in the opening Psalm. Do take time to read these few sentences. Let them sink in. Let them be a channel through which the enriching blessings of God can flow.

Sandy Shaw

Sandy Shaw is Pastor of Nairn Christian Fellowship, Chaplain at Inverness Prison, and Nairn Academy, and serves on The Children's Panel in Scotland, and has travelled extensively over these past years teaching, speaking, in America, Canada, South Africa, Australia, making 12 visits to Israel conducting Tours and Pilgrimages, and most recently in Uganda and Kenya, ministering at Pastors and Leaders Seminars, in the poor areas surrounding Kampala, Nairobi, Mombasa and Kisumu.

He broadcasts regularly on WSHO radio out of New Orleans, and writes a weekly commentary at entitled "Word from Scotland" on various biblical themes, as well as a weekly newspaper column.

His M.A. and B.D. degrees are from The University of Edinburgh, and he continues to run and exercise regularly to maintain a level of physical fitness.

Sandy Shaw


Thursday, December 20, 2007

Get Ready To Set Goals in January

By Wendy Hearn

December is generally a hectic time for most of us and before we know it January is upon us. As you welcome in the New Year, your thoughts may turn to the goals you're going to set yourself for the year. Spending time thinking about and writing down your goals will get your New Year off to a flying start. But stop! Before you think about what you want to achieve next year, I encourage you first to review the past year. Take a look at what you've achieved this year to give yourself a firm basis, inspiration and a feeling of success to think about your goals for the next year. Taking stock and reviewing the past year is often forgotten and yet is an essential step to being successful. In the quest to achieve more, we often forget how far we've come. This continuous driving forward can leave us feeling that there's something missing in our success.

December is a great time to reflect on your achievements during the past year, both personally and professionally. The year is drawing to a close and now is the time to tidy up loose ends, consolidate things and be ready for the New Year, and some new exciting goals. Before you jump

ahead to the New Year, I really encourage you to take some time and write down the achievements you've made during this past year. Include all your achievements even if they appear small. They all count! In your mind take yourself back to January 1st and ask yourself,

• How far have I come this year?
• What have I achieved?
• What have I improved about myself?
• What problems and challenges have I overcome?
• In what way have I grown personally?

Remember to include achievements that relate to you as a person. Perhaps you've become more relaxed or more focused. The feeling of success, which derives from reviewing the past year's achievements, can be a wonderful inspiration for what you can strive for during the next year.

As you review your past year for achievements you'll probably find that the things you didn't achieve also pop into your mind. This isn't the time to beat yourself up or to think you 'should' have done more. This is a time for reflection and acknowledgment of your achievements. The things you didn't achieve can be reviewed when you're choosing your goals for the next year. Take this time now to appreciate and connect with your achievements.

I invite you to reflect on and acknowledge your achievements for this year, and harness this feeling of success to be ready to set your goals in January.

Wendy works with business owners to be more effective and successful, achieving a more profitable business in less time. Click through to her site and read more of Wendy's articles and about how business coaching can take your business to the next level.

Discover How to Learn From Mistakes and Develop Growth in Success

By Rauf Mohamed Yusope

When one goes through the process of making mistakes, it can be a painful and difficult experiences. In life itself, the response of an individual through making such mistakes can play a huge determinant factor of the individual growth for the future. How does one respond from making mistakes and develop growth to success?

Firstly, the important lesson in responding to them is the individual must take ownership and be held responsible for his actions. Here, he must not stop blaming others for his mistakes. He must be accountable for his mistakes. A sense of responsibility will enable the individual to grow better through such experiences.

Secondly, in going through learning process from making mistakes, one should highly emphasize on how he can grow from such experiences. He should focus on the valuable lessons that he can learn from making the mistakes. Making mistakes can be a challenging and difficult period. In times like this, he should focus on the solutions, emphasize that he will push through and grow well as a person from the difficult period and experiences.

Thirdly, in making mistakes, there are great chances of such individuals being criticized and embarrassed by others. It might not be the most pleasant experience for them. However, one needs to understand that overcoming challenges through facing such criticisms is a wonderful opportunity for the individuals to grow from such experiences. It can be observed in the society that successful figures went through criticisms, overcome it and became successful. Through overcoming such mistakes and challenges, success will be a wonderful and meaningful experience for the individuals. One method to overcome such challenge is one should listen to themselves when making mistakes. Instead of responding to others' criticisms negatively, he should instead focus on rising to the challenges and tell himself that his response will ultimately play a huge role in him growing as person in the future.

Fourthly, it is another great opportunity to develop ones' great integrity and leadership values. As a leader making mistakes, he should focus on developing great integrity in the eyes of his team by facing such challenges with great responsibility. Chances are a leader with great integrity will earn huge respect from the team.

Lastly, in responding and developing growth to success, the individuals must instill a continual learning spirit in themselves. They should focus on continually developing themselves and look forward to great learning experiences in the future.

Making mistakes can be a huge part in developing ones success growth. What matters here is how the individuals respond and learn from mistakes to grow well.

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Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Being Shy Affects Your Self-Esteem - Are You Shy?

By Bobby Jonnes

Are you afraid to take a risk? Perhaps you always anticipate the worst and fearing the outcome; you avoid the pain by avoiding the situation altogether. It could be simply fear of the unknown. Sometimes a single bad experience can grow into a habit as you continue to choose to flee or avoid any situation in which you feel uncertain.

Shyness affects your self-esteem.

Many doctors who work with shy people describe them as being self-centered, more preoccupied with what kind of impression they're making to care about anyone but himself or herself. They are so worried about what others will think of them that they are incapable of concern about the welfare of others.

Those plagued by shyness may be seen as less than friendly by others, maybe a bit standoffish, even cold in some circumstances. It's evident that compared to other people, they are not as assertive, due to their quiet nature in some settings. On the whole, they are certainly not viewed as negatively as they might fear. Because they are shy, they are definitely more sensitive to negative feedback than the average person is. They probably even see themselves in a more negative than positive light.

Because of this worry, their thoughts and strengths are limited to a very small circle of people; they are in fact only limited by their own thoughts and emotions. They constantly think that others are slighting them, insulting them, or attacking them in some way.

The shy person can actually handicap themselves with negative thoughts and wind up using their shyness as a crutch and an excuse for not pursuing more social occasions, "I can't handle these kinds of situations because I'm so shy." Of course the more they tell themselves things like this, the harder it becomes to socialize, make friends, and establish relationships, both personal and professional. It becomes a self-defeating behavior.

This kind of self-defeating behavior leads to more and more avoidance of any or all social encounters, until they become frozen in fear and completely unable to function in normal social circumstances. They quite literally lose hope in their own ability to function normally in these circumstances, so they quit trying.

Today's modern technology is aiding and abetting many shy people. Thanks to this technology, there is sometimes no need to interact with other humans at all. Everything from bank ATMs to sending text messages on cell phones enables the shy person to avoid interaction with anything but machines. It's less intimidating to send an email than it is to pick up a telephone and speak to a live person. More and more nowadays, it's unnecessary to deal directly with other people. An example of this avoidance is a movie entitled, "The Net," where a young woman deals with others via only her computer; she even orders a pizza and pays for it over the internet.

The fact that you're reading this article means that either you're shy yourself, or you know someone who is shy and you want to help them. It's important to remember that being shy is not the real you; you're so much more than just shy. You are sensitive, caring, and compassionate; so don't allow yourself to be labeled merely shy. Shyness may be limiting your personal freedom, peace of mind, and the ability to express yourself, but is only a part of who you really are.

Do you want to learn more about how I teach people to cure shyness? I have written a comprehensive guide on shyness.

Download a Report on Shyness here Shyness

Bobby is a psychologist and author.