What Is Stopping You From Your Success?

Success has different meaning for different people. By large success is defined or measured by the amount of cash in your pockets, but as I said it could be different for different people. Not everyone is cut out of be next Bill Gates or Warren Buffett. But the question we need to ask ourselves is why not?

The biggest hurdle in our success what I feel is ourselves and lack of belief in our own capabilities, talent. We feel that they had the X Factor going for them and we can't ever be in the same league. Well what I feel is the only thing that had is a belief so strong that they can do it. Which led them in accomplishing all that they aimed for, infect much more.

We are all living in our self created comfort zones and the fear of change and inner sluggishness and the inner devil wants us to remain where we are. Whenever, you try to tell yourself that let's do this or lets do that the inner devil says its not going to work so not need to bother. The temptation to listen to that person is so high because this will allow us to stay where we are and not to do anything. Simply NO CHANGE.

The reality is that the self created rather our self perceived comfort zone is basically keeping us in a detention center and not letting us grow or evolve. This is actually keeping us away from our success. We need to have a realization of this fact. Once you realize that this zone is actually a blockage from your evolution to reach all that you want will be the first step towards reaching for that.

We need to remove all the uncertainties or doubts that we have. For our independence it is imperative that we start believing in ourselves. And only by doing so we would be able to encounter all those fears.

Write down your goals or desires on a piece of page and then think over it. It could be a business a job or any other thing you have in your mind. Now think for a few minutes how you can achieve those by doing another job, taking another assignment etc. Now all sort of negative thoughts will start to come in. Why am I doing this, Nothing is going to change, having a personality make-over, its useless etc. Now these are again merely that part of mind which is going to resist the change.

Why most of the people live a static life will yearly increments in their pays and live in life with a little change in their status? The basic reason for this is just that their unconscious mind who resists to change has evolved so much has taken so much control over them.

Therefore, the most vital thing to know for now is that "Change is good" it's the change which will lead you from what you are and in having all that you want. As I always say "If you want more, be more." Don't resist change, be flexible and have a strong self belief system and know it's for the better and it would be for the better.

Syed Muzaffar Aqleem Tirmizi is part of the operational management in leading cellular operator in Pakistan, specializing in providing training solutions for individuals, teams and organizations. He also specializes in training needs, analysis and mentoring. Has a very energetic and motivating style with a strong focus on exceeding the organizational expectation and with his infectious energy he empowers other individuals to achieve their full potential. For your training needs or operational analysis could be contacted at tirmizi@ma-tirmizi.com or visit http://www.ma-tirmizi.com for more information.

Pay My Dues, Why? What Are You Doing for Me?

As a generation Yer, you may have watched your parents or relatives work hard, demonstrate commitment, and sacrifice their personal lives, only to lose their jobs and/or pensions by right-sizing, out- sourcing and corporate scandals. Why, then, should you "pay your dues" to try to climb the corporate ladder - especially when you saw that paying your dues doesn't always pay off!

Let me begin by suggesting that "paying your dues" has different meanings for different generations. While a Baby Boomer may define "paying your dues" as demonstrating a commitment to the company over time, a generation Yer may hear "paying your dues" as working 80 hours a week and putting the company first always. As generation Yers, we've learned what working 80 hours a week can do to one's family life, personal life, health, etc. You're not interested in giving your life to a company that does not care about you.

Is there a win-win solution- where you successfully demonstrate a commitment to your company - "pay your dues" - and feel empowered doing so? The following are five ways to demonstrate commitment to your company, while considering your future and taking care of what's important in your life:

1. Be patient with yourself and your company -

So many times generation Yers come to me six months into a new job feeling anxious, hating the work and ready to jump ship to a new job, even though they don't have a clear idea why they are leaving. Generally speaking, they do not really want to leave their job, but they don't see a way to get what they think they "should" have as quickly as they think they "should" have it. As a generation primarily raised on television, where you see the beginning and end of every success story within an hour, you may not have a clear understanding of the hard work and dedication that goes into real life success.

2. Each job is an opportunity to become clearer -

About your strengths, your special talents, and your interests. While some seem to know exactly what they are good at and what they want to do with their life, most of us need time to explore what we're passionate about, what we're good at and what we love. Take advantage of opportunities to learn about yourself.

3. Find a mentor - create a plan -

If your company has a mentorship program in place, find a way to get involved. If not, approach your supervisor and ask if there is a way he or she can help you locate a mentor inside your organization. It's very helpful to have a mentor in addition to the mentoring your supervisor may be giving you. Having an opportunity to build relationships with others inside your organization can be invaluable in making your capabilities known within the company as well as increasing your chances for promotion. Network, network, network! Taking the time to think through what you really want and sharing your goals with your supervisor and mentor is important - if they don't know what you want, they won't know what experiences to help you gain.

4. Build a name for yourself -

Through consistent achievement, and by making sure the right people know of your achievements. Yes, this does require that you share your achievements with others (go ahead and brag, it's better than hiding your light under a bushel!). If no one knows about all the great work you've done, how will they know you should be promoted?!

5. Keep Learning -

Explore, ask questions, request new assignments, find a mentor, take advantage of training programs, get to know the context of your work - the "big picture," read industry information, etc.

Almost two years ago I began coaching a 19-year- old (we'll call him Adam) who had failed out of college three consecutive semesters. His father reached out to me in hopes of helping his son get on a positive track - he was very worried. When Adam first came to me he did not want to finish college and he didn't know what he wanted for his future. Over the past two years, he has learned a great deal about his strengths/weaknesses, taken the time to face his self-imposed limitations, begun an internship in his field of interest, and is preparing for his next semester of college with an entirely new frame of mind.

The key for Adam was getting to know himself, his interests and making positive advances in order to do what he likes, long term. If you can learn about yourself, find what you love to do, and build your life around that, the financial and personal rewards, as well as the increased responsibility, will come. So many people force themselves to do jobs that do not fit their passions just to pay their bills. Don't be one of them!

Be patient with yourself. Take time to explore, learn about yourself, generate a plan, build your network. You will have failures, certainly, but you will succeed in the end.

Misti Burmeister is a recognized expert in Generational Communication. Learn more about how to improve the communication between generations at Inspirion Inc

How to Overcome The Self-Sabotaging Behaviors That Prevent Success

Whatever you want to achieve, there are some common problems that could derail your plans if you're not mindful of them: self-sabotaging behaviors.

Have you ever done something that caused big problems for you and seemed to be in direct opposition to what you thought you wanted? Like consistently shown up late for work even though your boss warned that you were treading on thin ice? Or perhaps you kept feeling compelled to eat junk food even though you were trying to lose weight and get in shape?

Why do we do these things? You would think that setting a goal and creating a plan would be enough to get us where we want to go, right? Not necessarily.

Sometimes our subconscious minds can work against us, even if we consciously believe we want something. There are many possible reasons why we do this, but they most often involve a fear or an ingrained habit.

Take a look at these behaviors and ask yourself whether they have ever derailed your plans:

Procrastination:

If you've ever found yourself holding back on doing something even though you kept telling yourself you really wanted to do it, you were procrastinating. You may have felt drawn to watch endless hours of television, or felt compelled to suddenly clean out your basement, or caused dramatic episodes with friends and family members for no apparent reason – all so you wouldn't have to work on your goals.

You were trying to distract yourself. Why? Believe it or not, procrastination usually has little to do with laziness and more to do with avoidance. Most often, you are trying to avoid an underlying fear or resistance that you don't feel ready to handle.

Ingrained habits:

No matter how fired up you are about your goals, your old, ingrained habits can seem as solid as concrete. The biggest mistake we often make is underestimating the amount of energy and effort that will be required when we first start making changes. We're used to doing things a certain way and if we try to change those comfortable old routines, we feel nervous and out of place.

In order to become comfortable with new habits, you need to stick with them long enough so that they become second nature. Remember, that's how you got comfortable where you are – even if it's not exactly where you want to be.

An incredible amount of focus and willpower may be needed in order to change your old habits, but eventually they will become as solid as concrete too.

Learn to recognize the signs of self-sabotage:

The greatest gift you can give yourself is self-awareness. The subconscious nature of self-sabotage is what makes it so difficult to recognize, but with enough honest introspection you will begin to understand yourself better. When you do, you will be able to tell when you are working in opposition to your goals. You'll be able to tell when you feel fearful and hesitant about stepping out of your comfort zones. You'll recognize avoidance behaviors and take steps to turn them around immediately.

You may think it sounds too easy, but it really IS simple. You just have to be willing to pay attention, overcome fear and continue along the path to success – no matter what it takes.

Robert Greenshields is a marketing success coach who helps entrepreneurs and independent professionals transform their business results by changing their mindset. Download his free report on 7 Steps to a Success Mindset at www.SuccessMindsetPower.com

The Power of a Smile

ALTHOUGH it lasts only a moment, the memory may stay with you all your life. Its value is immense, but nobody is so poor that he cannot share it or so rich that he does not need it. What are we talking about? A smile.

A smile is produced by a muscular contraction in which the eyes brighten and the corners of the mouth curve slightly upward expressing satisfaction. During the first few weeks after birth, a baby smiles, and this, of course, delights the proud new parents. These early smiles are known as reflex, or involuntary, smiles. Experts explain that this kind of smile appears often during dreaming and seems to be related to internal feelings and activity of the central nervous system. Even when we are adults, this reflex smile may still occur after a meal or while we are listening to music.

From about six weeks of age, however, a baby smiles in response to a face or a voice. A 'social smile'-a voluntary, conscious smile-cheers us up, whether we are babies or adults. It is said that such a smile even has a positive influence on our physical health. According to speech therapists Mirtha Manno and Rubén Delauro, who manage a self-help clinic called Smiling and Health, the mere gesture of smiling produces an electrical stimulus that affects the pituitary gland. This gland, in turn, releases endorphins, chemical substances in the brain that make us feel good.

Another important reason for smiling is the positive effect it has on others. A sincere smile communicates our feelings without the need for words, whether it be a smile of greeting, of sympathy, or of encouragement. Occasionally, just looking at a child's appealing smile in a photograph can bring a smile to our lips.

Receiving a warm smile can help us to feel more relaxed and to cope better with frustration or challenges. Yes, by this simple gesture, we can benefit ourselves and others. Why not make an effort to share this most valuable gift-a warm smile?

Frankie Goh is a full-time family counsellor. He manage and host a website : Earn Money Online http://www.ezy-cash.com

It's Never As Bad As You Expect

By David Bohl

Dr. Daniel Gilbert, a Harvard professor of psychology, has done some ground-breaking and very intriguing research into the science of happiness. Dr. Gilbert has discovered, for instance, that we don't enjoy things as much as we expect.

This research has an interesting opposite side, which is that things are never as bad as we expect. Dr. Gilbert gives an example of Democrats who thought they would be "devastated" if George W. Bush won re-election. Gilbert's research showed that the Democrats involved in the study were not nearly as devastated, the day after the election, as they expected to be. Their reports of their feelings were more positive than they expected. However, several weeks later, they remembered being as devastated as they had expected. Clearly there is a disconnect between what we expect and what we actually get, and another disconnect between what we actually get and what we later think we got. This disconnect can be used to help us deal with difficult situations, in two ways.

First, when anticipating something unpleasant, we can remember that there is scientific proof that things are not as bad, when experienced, as they are when imagined beforehand. We can use this knowledge to calm ourselves and remind ourselves that we're not really going to experience as much pain, sadness, or other negative feelings as we expect.

We can also record our feelings immediately after the experience, so that we can later look back and remember that it was not as bad as we expected, even if, later, we remember it being extremely hard or very painful.

Our minds play tricks on us, and one of the tricks they play is imagining that something will be absolutely horrible. This turns out to be a useful trick, because in fact things are rarely, if ever, as bad as we expect, and we are always able to deal with them more easily because of that. But the trick our memory plays of remembering things as being exactly that horrible is a trick we could do without, and which we can do without by making notes, or writing in a journal, what really happened and what it really felt like.

Dr. Gilbert's research suggests that, when it comes to happiness, we don't know our own minds, and this is equally true of less pleasant experiences, from a trip to the dentist to being fired. Humans are remarkably resilient individuals. We can cope with things we never believed we were capable of surviving, and we can come through these experiences feeling stronger than before we went through them.

But we don't think that's true, because of the tricks our minds play.

This week, try these tips to experience your life more authentically.

• Before a dreaded meeting or other event, write down your expectations.

• Spend some time thinking about how you can change those expectations to more positive ones.

• Write down your exact reaction after the event; compare it to your expectations and note how things were better than expected.

Lifestyle Mentor, Personal Coach, Author, Educator, and Entrepreneur, David B. Bohl is the creator of Slow Down FAST. To learn more about this step-by-step strategy for Living YOUR Life YOUR way, and to sign up for his 9 FREE Tips for Finding Happiness in a Fast-Paced World, free teleseminars, free Special Report, free bi-monthly ezine and more, go to: http://www.SlowDownFAST.com

Discover Your Reason Why if You Want to Achieve Success

If you're struggling to achieve success then it may be because you haven't identified the reason why you want to achieve success, why you want to achieve a particular goal. When you discover this it will become a compelling motive that drives you forward and gives you the energy to attract the people, resources and opportunities you need in your life to achieve your desired goal.

Let me give you an example. I was recently listening to Graham White interview, Noah St John of The Success Clinic, Inc. on the topic of "Permission to Succeed". Now Graham White is the former head coach of North America's largest training company and during this candid interview he said something quite shocking. He said there was a time in his life that he had been close to committing suicide but one thing prevented him from taking his own life. When he remembered that he had a new baby daughter he realised that taking his own life was no longer an option.

Let take another example. You may desperately want to get back into shape but instead of exercising and eating healthily you scoff junk food, or eat cakes, biscuits, ice cream and the like in excess and you flake out in front of the television for hours on end every day. Then you develop a life-threatening illness and the doctor says to you that if you want to live you have to lose weight and improve your fitness. You now have your reason why. It's a matter of life or death and you do what it takes to regain your health.

Perhaps your company is floundering and if you don't do something drastic it will fold. The truth is that you love the work that you are doing. You just haven't found a way to make it profitable because you have been deluding yourself. You have forgotten that no matter how much you love doing something a business must be profitable if it is to survive. You have been neglecting critical aspects of finance. You have not been addressing the issue of marketing and you know that some of your employees are not pulling their weight and yet you have procrastinated in effectively dealing with this issue. It may even be that you have too many employees for your current operations. Whatever the reasons for the demise of your business, when you recognise that if you let your business run into the ground you will not have a vehicle to express what you love doing, you will have a compelling reason to knock your business into shape.

In each case I have described here it isn't that you don't know what to do or how to do it. By the latter, I don't mean that you necessarily know all the minute details of what you have to do to achieve the results that you desire, but if you don't, you can surely find someone who does know. In each case, it seemed easier initially to simply drift along, ignoring your true calling and shying away from stepping up to the plate and being the person you were meant to be in this world. When you found a compelling enough reason why to change you were galvanised into action.

However, there's another piece to the puzzle. You see what I have described are external motivating factors and while they can help you overcome obstacles you may be experiencing, to make those significant changes in your life, you will still be working to correct symptoms. You will not be addressing the underlying factor that resulted in you being in your current situation in the first place.

White also said that while acting as a business consultant that he would assist business owners who were on the brink of declaring bankruptcy and get them back on their feet again only to find that 6-18 months later some owners had run their company back into the ground again. St John explained this by saying that he had shown the business owners what to do but he hadn't helped them uncover their why.

To be truly effective you have to get at the root cause which is an internal factor. This is also another "why" and it is the biggest why of all. It answers the question of the purpose of your existence on this earth. When you can correlate external motivating factors such as the love for your family, your desire for life, the love for the work you are doing with why you are here on this earth then you become unstoppable.

"Most people do not know why they are here on earth. When you don't know why you're here on earth that can cause feelings that can range from anywhere from just mild frustration to a general sense of hopelessness to feelings of suicide, to actually taking your own life."
Noah St John, The Success Clinic, Inc.

Just look at what you are able to achieve when you have a strong external motivating factor. Even if you have only experienced this for a brief time, notice how differently people respond to you when you are on purpose. They either scramble to help you or they move clear out of your way. Yet cognitive scientists have proven that only 5% of our decisions are on a conscious level. This means that a whooping 95% of our decisions are made on the subconscious level. Can you now see what awesome firepower you have at your disposal when you can align your internal with your external "why tos"?

"You can have all the 'how tos' of success but if you have more 'why not tos', even if those 'why not tos' exist on the subconscious level, you simply won't allow yourself to succeed to your full capacity no matter how many 'how tos' of success you know."
Noah St John, The Success Clinic, Inc.

It may be a challenge to discover what your purpose is in life or it may be very simple. You see the answer to that particular question is also inside. The real question is:

"Are you willing to go inside to unlock the secret to your success - your reason why?"

Nickolove Lovemore is a Life Coach, a Certified LifeSuccess Consultant and a Certified NLP Practitioner who will work with you to develop your personal success strategy for achieving your goals. Visit Achieve Life Success for gifts, special offers and news about upcoming events. Email your name to Purpose Vision Goals for free report that will help you to discover your true purpose in life.

 

Life Coaching Tips: What Does A Life Coach Do?

by Coach Pete Turner

What is coaching and how can it benefit me?

Coaching is a proven process that quickly brings results, because both you and your coach are highly motivated and are working together on highly focused goals. You benefit by achieving goals faster, creating balance and enjoying the support of a non-judgmental mentor whose only goal is your success!

How long does it take to get results?

Normally coaches work with clients for three to six months. This really depends on you and what areas of your life you want to improve. In some cases you may start seeing results immediately. Again it's up to you. You may need help with a specific issue like making a career change. Or it may be simply better time management. There is no set time period, contract or commitment. You can end the coaching relationship at any time.

What is the cost?

Coaching fees run from $100.00 to a thousand dollars or more based on the coaches experience and his clients needs. The average is around $300.00 a month.

How does the coach work with me? Usually there will be three weekly one hour sessions. These sessions are done on the phone at a prearranged time schedule.

Do coaches offer a free initial session?

Yes, most coaches offer a free half hour discovery session. If at the end of the session you are ready to starting a coaching relationship great. If not that's okay. There is never any sales pressure. It's always a good idea to connect three or more coaches. Make sure you find the one that's right for you.

Do coaches offer any guarantees?

No, the only guarantees most coaches will make is that if you are motivated to make changes, they guarantee to provide you with their best coaching effort. Coaches are committed to your success and will work with you to overcome the challenges that will invariably come along.

Will I have to sign any contract for services?

Most coaches don't use any type of pending contract. If the coaching relationship isn't working, no coach would want to hold you to some type of contract.

What happens during these "coaching sessions"?

During the coaching session your coach and you will decide on areas of your life: career, relationship, etc that you want to concentrate. The coach may assign a task/homework to be perform during the week to help you.

In summary what a life coach does is through a series of phone coaching session the coach and you will form a bond - a relationship focused on one thing YOU! The coach is a cheerleader, motivator and task master, but it is really up to you! A good life coach will encourage you to look deep inside yourself for the answers About the Author

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Career Success - 5 Great Reasons To Train Co-workers When It's Not Part Of Your Job

by Linda M. Lopeke

Career success involves more than going to work expecting to perform the regular duties listed in your job description. Just doing your job is part of the work-for-pay deal you made with your employer.

For some, the day will come when the boss asks for more. For example, you'll be asked to train others in a particular function, perhaps even your own job! It means more work, that isn't part of your current role, for the same pay. Should you be professional and accept the training assignment or be assertive and refuse to take it on unless they pay you extra?

Let's look at this situation a little more closely. There's more to it than first meets the eye. Here are 5 really good reasons you should always accept, especially when training is not your job!

1) Your paid job exists to further your employer's interests. Hopefully the employment relationship is one where both of you get as much as you need and little you don't.

There's nothing wrong with drawing lines in the sand if you're happy playing in a smaller sandbox indefinitely. However, if the employer is not asking you to do anything illegal, unethical, or immoral you should give training others your best shot without expecting extra pay because it's not part of your regular job.

You earn the right to get paid more for it by doing this training so well it adds irreplaceable and/or immeasurable value to your employer. Getting paid extra doesn't have to be money, many other forms of compensation recognize outstanding contribution "above and beyond" the call of duty. Several of these are even more valuable than cash.

2) When an employer asks you to do something out of your comfort zone, it usually means they see potential in you that you may not have noticed yet and are willing to invest in you more than others in the company. They gamble that you will come through for them as needed. (After all, they are taking a risk you'll deliver an acceptable result.)

3) When an employer asks you to take on training others specifically, they are placing the future of their company in the hands of your perceived abilities, experience and expertise. If that's not a tremendous vote of confidence in you, I don't know what is. Sometimes they've asked you because they have big plans for your future; plans they haven't shared yet.

4) Such an assignment exponentially increases your network and visibility. Career success is not about who you know; it's about who knows you! People you've helped train to be successful make great allies and supporters for you in the future. Nothing beats a word-of-mouth testimonial for your professional contribution, support and expert knowledge.

5) Stepping outside of your defined job role is the fast track to success. Quite often rapid career success happens because someone in power was willing to take a risk on you (sometimes a risk so large failure could cost them their own reputations) even though the true extent of your abilities is yet unknown and unproven.

Accept the challenge and you just might find many of the career opportunities that bring you the greatest satisfaction would never have been experienced if you hadn't. There's a pretty good chance they were never on the list of things you planned to do with your life.

We live in a world of unlimited possibility. Don't shut yourself off with short-sighted thinking by not accepting a great assignment just because no extra pay is offered up front or it's something you've never done before and you're afraid to give it a try.

Does fear play a role in holding ourselves back? It does, but only if you let it. Successful people don't have more courage than average people, they're just willing feel the fear and take that next step into the unknown anyway. And they are willing to do more than average people will not, even when the payoff is not immediately apparent and no extra cash is involved.

About the Author

Download more free career tips and advice at http://www.smartstartcoach.com Career advancement expert Linda M. Lopeke is a leading authority on how to succeed in the 21st century workplace and the creator of SMARTSTART Mentoring Programs: Success-to-go for people working @ the speed of life!

 

Infinite Possibilities

Do you realize that life is filled with infinite possibilities? That you have the power to create whatever you choose to, all you have to do is understand how to utilize the law of attraction. We have the power to think thoughts into being, there are infinite possibilities to use our imagination to shape our world around us.

Many people believe the old adage "go to work get a good job, and life will be ok," well that is all it will be is okay. If you really wish to have a successful life then you must begin to understand the law of attraction. Mike Dooley's powerful program Infinite Possibilities will show you how. He will teach you that we as humans are extremely powerful and we must begin to understand that we can be do have anything we desire. If you can learn how to focus on the end results of the goals you wish to accomplish, they will become a reality.

Have you ever set a goal for yourself and you knew you wanted it real bad, the whole while you kept focused on the end result of the goal. You kept feeling the feelings of what it would feel like when you do actually accomplish the goal. You even go as far as to begin to feel the feelings of it and begin conversing as if you already possess the goals. As you continue doing this then the law of attraction is actually bring you what you desire.

Next thing you know it feels like deja vu and you have your goal. You begin to wonder where you have seen it before because it feels as though you already had it. It comes to you when you least expect it. You can be do have anything you desire there are infinite possibilities to anything and the only thing holding you back is yourself. Yes we are our worst enemy. We tend not to move forward with things because we talk ourselves out of things, we fear failure too much and we are too scared to try anything different. We let people talk us out of things because they believe we will fail and then talk us out of doing things we would really love to move forward with. People are quick to pass judgement on our lives; because they are scared to attempt anything and move forward with their goals they will be scared that if you have success you will leave them behind and forget them.

The truth is we all possess INFINITE POWER to achieve anything we desire. The infinite Possibilities program by Mike Dooley will show you exactly how to use your imagination to create whatever you truly desire. It is a powerful program that can change your life and change the lives of the ones you love. Get your hands on a program that can help you set goals and actually learn to believe that you can have them.

Remember what you have been told in the past is all a lie; blood, sweat and tears AREN'T what it takes to see your dreams come true, imagination, belief and expectation are what's needed... you already possess the qualities that are needed, now find out how to utilize them for your benefit.

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How You Can Succeed In Life Without A High IQ

There are some human talents that just cannot be defined in terms of IQ. Good examples of such qualities are self-discipline, endurance or ambition. These capabilities, however, are often more important to a person's success in life than their intelligence and other genetic make-up.

Most of us will know of some people who we know in school who always had the best grades but ended up an utter failure in professional life, the popular athlete who somehow never stopped growing up. Or the person who was uninteresting and slow-witted in class and always had difficulties passing every subject and is now a successful manager or entrepreneur living in a big house.

We have all come across people who were genuinely successful in their social life, with a happy marriage, bright and confident children and a wide circle of friends - even though they were not the most intelligent students in school. Why is this the case?

Michael P Steinberg, an expert in human intelligence who has been studying the relation of intelligence and success in life, tells the story of 2 good friends lost in the woods. One is highly intelligent and getting good grades in school. The other boy is not so intelligent and his teachers find nothing impressive about him. He does however have very good common sense and is street smart. As they both wander in the forest, they find themselves face with a dangerous predicament, a hungry and angry grizzly bear not too far off. The first boy whips out his calculator, quickly judges the distance and says, "Based on the known speed of the grizzly and how fast we can run, we'll be "bear food" in 23 seconds". The second boy bends down and tightens his shoes laces, looks up, grins and says, "What do you mean WE? All I have to do is run faster than you !"

The first boy may have used his book knowledge and quickly got to the bottom of their problem, but his analysis did not bring him far. The second boy however, had a good grasp of the situation, was able to think out of the box and find a creative solution for his survival. Successful entrepreneurs or managers often find themselves in new and unknown territory that need creative problem solving skills. Such talents are inborn but can be trained. Using experiences and knowledge that we have in our minds and information that has been perceived by our senses, we can often find adaptable solutions to our problems. Such talents make the human race a hardy and adaptable specie that has ensured our survival in untold calamities throughout our existence on earth.

Knowledge can indeed by useful but it is the application of knowledge that makes it powerful. Often knowledge is gleaned from our experience in life, stored away in the recesses of our memory, to be retrieved for our use. Our experience than compares the knowledge against our past success or failures and it is our creativity that shapes our destiny. Our early ancestors may have been cut by a sharp stone. Such an experience, together with his creative intelligence help him conjure up a weapon, a spear or arrow made up of a sharp stone splinter secured at the end of a stick. Through trials and errors in launching his new weapon, our ancient hunter eventually finds his aim and becomes a formidable predator.

So if you were never at the top of your class, fret not. Exercise some imagination and ingenuity. Use your life experiences and memory to think of a creative solution to a problem. You may yet give birth to a million-dollar idea

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Antidote for Depression

When your inner self is left vulnerable to the whims of your fertile imagination, trouble will likely ensue. Your mind will remain in control only to the degree that you are unable to separate from its images and be inner directed instead.

Whenever depression begins to get a grip on you, it is imperative that you sit still and calm your mind. From this point of stillness, watch the myriad of images and thoughts pass by the field of vision of your mind's eye.

Thoughts of worthlessness, insecurities, past failures, regrets and resentments will emerge. Watch these troubles objectively, as if sitting on the river's edge watching a leaf being carried downstream. You remain outside of and separate from the river, watching but unaffected by its swift current. In the same fashion, stay separate from the often powerful stream of negative thoughts and images that flow by your inner vision.

Stay out of this current while remaining ever watchful and respectful of its force, but never resenting what you may see. Resentment binds one to the thought or image.

By detaching from these negative thoughts and dispassionately viewing them, you will be released from their further control. Do not struggle with these thoughts. Diligently remain separate and objective and the depression shall lift.

Particularly note those negative thoughts and images which are repetitive. Choose to refuse to allow these habitual thoughts to continue to have impact on your day to day activities any longer.

Realize this potentially life altering truth. This choice is yours to make. Realize the power only you possess to choose which thoughts you will allow to permeate your being and shape your reality. Realize that the thoughts you hold from moment to moment, shape your experience and ultimately your destiny.

Truly realize this and take action now!

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Building Your Coaching Business -- People Buy From Those They Know, Like and Trust

Here is something that could make a huge difference in whether you succeed at coaching, and by how much. There are some gold nuggets here that will either make your coaching business, or make it one of only 1% that reach over $100K.

Reduce Your Prospect's Risk

There is a difference between marketing and selling a low cost product or service, and selling what most coaches market and sell. If you are selling a $10 item, the risk is low, and it is easier for your buyer to take $10 out of his pocket. However, when it comes to marketing and selling higher end products, such as coaching, the buyer won't just pull that out of his pocket without knowing more about you, finding if he likes what you say and your approach, and learning to trust you first.

So, how does that happen?

Let me ask you some questions:

Based on whatever you've done to market or sell your business up until this point,
What percentage of every touch results in your prospect actually asking for the next step?
Is it 20% to 70%?
Do you get even 5%, 1%?
No? Not surprising when over 90% of all coaches fail within months, and most never make more than $20K.
Then seriously consider what I am about to tell you because when you use the approach with an understanding of what your prospect really wants, I've seen it regularly deliver in the 20% to 70% range.

Consider that the national average for most marketing ranges between 0.5% to 1% and good cold one-touch marketing can hit 5% to 10%, yet once you help your prospect to get to know you, like you, and trust you, then it is possible to get to 20% to 70% of a very targeted audience.

Go For The Throat Sales & Marketing vs Relationship Marketing

Most coaches "go for the throat" in sales, meaning that on the first touch they are "trying to sell" rather than building the relationship so that the ones they are touching get to "know, like, and trust" you. The typical result is an abysmally low marketing and sales success number.

I hear a few coaches out there saying, "We don't go for the throat. We don't aggressively sell. We do dig for what the prospect wants." But then you still "go for the sale" outright. I'll give you this, if you follow that process you should be getting 5% or so for your marketing returns and that is probably higher than 90% of all coaches out there. Great! But, once you get what I'm about to say, 20% to 70% is possible.

So, when you attempt any kind of marketing what is your current response rate? Do you get 1 out of 100, 5 out of 100, 50 out of 100, or anywhere near those figures?

Here are a some approaches that do work, and they are pretty similar.

How are they similar. They both are built around

  • Understanding your target audience's biggest pain, and desires.
  • Sending out information that actually shows them how to resolve that pain, and telling stories about others that had that very pain and removed it by doing [fill in the blank].
In short, give away a concept that can help your prospects. Give them a taste of what it might be like. You are not telling what YOU do step by step, you are only giving a hint or tip that has helped other clients and the value they got. The value is how much they benefited, how much their business grew, or for you life coaches, how much better their life is (the more measurable the better).

I always hear coaches grumble when I say "give it away." Many will say, "If I give it away then they don't need me and don't buy." Then, indeed, you gave away the farm. I've found, however, that you give enough of an idea that they do see that you have some answers, and then you help them discover that the last client [doubled his business, increased by $100K, $500K, or whatever]. And, then tell the story of a client or two that experienced the same pain as your current prospect, and how much he gained. That's all.

So, that's the overview. How might we do that. Here are some ways to "give it away" while helping your prospect to "get to know you, like you, and trust you."

  • Article Marketing On The Internet -- Write several articles a week around the concept above. Have a call to action at the end of the article that takes them to a single page that asks them to sign up for, an email series, an e-book, newsletter, etc. Those continue the "get to know you, like you, and trust you." A good target is 40-60% of those that land on that page ask for more.
  • Article Marketing Direct - Send letters directly to your target market introducing yourself, telling them the benefit you bring, and then send a few articles to them over the next few weeks, followed by a call to ask them if that was helpful. Response rates reported to date are 20% to 70% appointment setting rates.
  • Speeches or training - get out there and give as many speeches as you can. A good rule of thumb is a speech a week to trade associations, business associations (Kiwanis, Rotary, Lions, Chambers, and many others). One speech can lead to one or more clients. Make sure that you have a follow-up system that looks like the article marketing above. Keep the "getting to know you, like you, and trust you going". Then follow your list up with a call to discuss their issues and why they asked to get to know you.
  • Networking - Once you meet in a networking event, ask them what their goals are for their business, and, it is likely you just may have an article that you published on that topic. So, ask them if they'd like to receive that article, or sign up for your list. Send them the series of articles, and follow it up with an appointment to just see if that was helpful, or if they have another problem.
NOTE: a key point here is that everything is all about them and their problem, not about your sale. All of the articles answer a problem they have and indicate that you have helped others do that. Every contact, whether in networking, or a speech, is about their problem, and not about your product, your coaching, or you making any kind of sale. It's about them, and then showing that you have the solution.

The series of articles are to "get to know you, like you, and trust you." They now have sampled your wares and WANT you.

Please keep in mind, even though we are building relationships, helping them to "get to know you, like you, and trust you" that it still does require that you ask for the close in such a way that you are still emphasizing that you are here to help, not to sell. Without that call to close you've still left the best approach in the world just setting on the table.

So, does your current marketing and sales result in

  • 1%, 5%, 10%, or anywhere near 20% to 70% of the people you touch calling you?

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Teen Panic Disorders

By Giri Anantha

Teen panic disorders can be pure hell. The teen years can be turbulent as it is without the added burden of a panic disorder. Teen years are a bad time to get panic attacks. This is a time they want to be free to express themselves, enjoy life, perhaps even be a little bad. They want to be outgoing and be with friends and have no responsibilities. When a teen goes through a panic attack and it develops into a panic disorder, life can be misery. There's also a chance agoraphobia can develop.

Panic Strikes Frequently In The Teen Years

Many, many people who have struggled for years with this disorder recall experiencing it initially in their teens. It's common for panic to strike during teen years. Because it's hard to predict when it will next strike, it can be agony, feeling as if there's a bomb about to explode. Panic attacks are extremely frightening.

Agoraphobia Can Develop

It's estimated that 1 in 3 people with panic disorders will develop agoraphobia. For a teen to have both panic and agoraphobia is like cutting off a bird's wings. Having all of this hit you at any stage in your life is incredibly difficult, but in the teen years, it must be torture. Friends may call to say they're going out, but the suffering teen might not go.

Instead, they stay home and feel miserable. Going out is no longer easy or fun. They may feel depressed. Friends won't understand either. They don't see what the "big deal" is anyway. But it is indeed a big deal. It's difficult to have enjoyment. No one understands how real and difficult it is. It's time to get help, preferably before agoraphobia rears its ugly head.

Treatment Works

There are so many good methods to treat teen panic disorders. Cognitive behavioral therapy and drugs work. Alternative therapies work. However, the teen has to work too.

Getting well, no matter what form of treatment you choose, requires your input. You will eventually make great strides and feel so much better, something you thought was never possible. There are other choices as well. You may need to find what method you prefer and experiment to find what works best for you. Be patient, you will improve!

 

Key to Success - Success Only Comes Through Action

By Cheryl Clausen

Right action is the biggest key to success there is. Success doesn't happen without a plan and plans don't get completed without action. After you formulate your plan for what you want you need to determine the actions you will take to implement your plan.

How do you know if you're taking the right actions? This is the point in your plans where you may get stuck, where it may look like you're procrastinating because you aren't taking any action. When you put your plan for success together you not only want to verify with yourself that your plan will get you what you want, but that when you get what you want it will be in alignment with your values.

As you're thinking about your actions in conjunction with your plan for success make sure you're clear about your values. You know beyond a doubt when you're doing something or about to do something that is contrary to your values. You know it because as you think about doing it, or as you do it, you feel very uncomfortable. It isn't the kind of uncomfortable you feel when something is new, it's the kind of uncomfortable you feel when you or someone else breeches your values. It's the hard knot in your throat, or the sick feeling in your stomach, or maybe the hair standing up on the back of your neck. When you have an inner feeling telling you something is wrong, listen to yourself.

Actions that breech your values aren't right actions. If you allow yourself to breech your values the success you get won't be the success you want. So how do you avoid getting in this situation in the first place? Before you even put your plan together list your values, and then as you formulate your plan make sure your plan supports those values. Your values are your guideposts for right action and fulfilling success.

Right action is action that is aligned with your values and moves you closer to success. With a clear understanding of both your values and your plan you're armed to make good decisions and take right actions. Plan your actions based on those actions taking you closer to success and supporting your values. When your actions or the actions of those around you begin to breech your values go back to your list of values and your plan for success and identify where your plan has gotten out of alignment.

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No Fear No Dread

Psalms 27: 1 The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the defense of my life; whom shall I dread?

The Lord Jesus functions as I light in your life if you let Him. He will illuminate those dark corners of fear in your life. Whatever the fear is, Jesus is greater and He will take the fear if you give it to Him. Place the fear in the open where it can't hide. Admit your fears and allow Jesus to shed His light into the darkness. He is your salvation from all fear.

Fear is the absence of faith. When your faith is in full bloom fear can't grow. Think about the fear in your life and proclaim that Jesus is your defense against that fear. Nothing in this world is too hard for God. Your fear and dread can't paralyze your life if you exercise your faith in Jesus.

Many of humanity's fears are related to relationships. Fear of abandonment, fear of being out of control in a relationship and the fear of success in a relationship are a few of the fears and dreads related to relationships. Remember and declare the truth, the Lord is the defense of my life; whom shall I dread? There is no one to fear, nothing to fear when Jesus is in control of your life. Nothing in this world goes un-noticed by God. Nothing in this world happens to one of His kids without His permission.

Many unpleasant events occur in life. Harmful things happened to good people and God's children. However, He is in control of everything that happens in your life if you let Him. There is no need to fear when you are confident God is in charge.

Prayer Focus: Lord please remove my fear and protect me from evil. Jesus let your light shine in my life. Lord help me have more faith.

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Habit Change--Six Steps to Success

By Beverly Smallwood, PhD.

As every New Year approaches, many of us are doing the usual…thinking, "This year will be different. I'm going to change…(fill in the blanks)…my work habits, my attitudes. I'll lose those pounds; I'll make that difficult choice that's long overdue." We re-make these resolutions throughout the year.

But will really follow through until the goals are accomplished? Or will this new "determination" be like the others…lots of good intentions, plenty of wishes, but basically, life goes on as usual?

Research on personal change (Prochaska, Norcross, and Diclemente; "Changing for Good") has demonstrated that successful change comes in six well-defined stages. Perhaps the failure to recognize these stages has been responsible for your past frustrations and failures in following through on self improvements.

You see, each of these stages has a series of tasks that must be completed before you can progress to the next. You set yourself up for failure when you either try to accomplish changes you aren't ready for or when you stay so long on tasks you've mastered (such as understanding your problem) that you become stuck indefinitely.

Think about your past experiences as you read what happens in these six stages.

STAGE 1: PRECONTEMPLATION When you're at this stage, you aren't even admitting you have a problem. We've all seen unhealthy denial in others. We often have trouble seeing it in ourselves.

Writer G.K. Chesterton said, "It isn't that they can't see the solution. It's that they can't see the problem."

Precontemplators don't want to change themselves. They think others are to blame for their difficulties. Likely, others are experiencing the precontemplator's problem and may be applying pressure for him or her to change. The responses…denial and resistance.

Are you in this stage? Chances are, you are with at least one of the destructive and self-defeating behaviors you need to change.

STAGE 2: CONTEMPLATION When you move to the Contemplation stage, you acknowledge you have a problem, and you want to get unstuck. You begin to think seriously about solving your problem. You try to understand its causes, and you begin to investigate your options. At this point you have indefinite plans to take action within the next few months.

However, you can stay stuck in this stage for months or years. (Is this where you are now?) You know you need to change, and you intend to…someday…just as soon as…after…when the rush is over (when would that be?). You know your desire and your destination, but you're not quite ready to go.

Fear of failure can keep you searching for an easier, more dramatic, or more complete solution to your problem. The irony is, failure is guaranteed if you don't move on to the next stage.

STAGE 3: PREPARATION "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail."

You greatly reduce your success probability if you suddenly wake up one morning, say "This is the day," and dive headfirst into a change without realistically and specifically planning how you will make the change happen.

At Stage 3, you develop a detailed plan of action and you may announce your intentions publicly. Your awareness is high, and you may have already begun small behavioral changes. Before moving ahead, however, you need to know exactly how you will keep your awareness and commitment high throughout the struggles of the next stages.

STAGE 4: ACTION This stage is the one that requires the most commitment and energy. It's where you actually DO IT! You receive the most recognition and support during this stage, because others can see that you're working at it. You follow the plan you've made in Stage 3, make revisions as necessary, and "keep on keeping on" even when it's inconvenient or difficult.

Here's a caution: Action doesn't necessarily mean that lasting change has been made. It's an essential part of the process, but the failure to do what's necessary in the next stage, Maintenance, can sabotage the progress you've made so far.

STAGE 5: MAINTENANCE The maintenance stage is a long, ongoing process. From my experience, it's the most difficult. (How many times have I dieted, for example, only to gain the weight back?)

The Action stage must be followed by constant vigilance and a systematic plan for dealing with those temptations that can draw you back into the old, destructive pattern. It's hard work to consolidate the gains you've made during the first four stages and to prevent relapse.

Celebrate achieving your goals, but don't relax and tell yourself, "Whew! I'm glad that's over!" Develop a menu of mental and behavioral coping strategies that will take you through the times when your feet begin to slip. (More on that in the next article.)

STAGE 6: TERMINATION There is lively debate about whether this stage is possible when the behavior you've changed is an addictive habit. The ideal would be that you no longer feel tempted, and the habit is absolutely not a problem for you. Some say, however, that you must always maintain a life of vigilance.

I tend to agree. Some can progress to the point that they are not constantly tempted, nor do they think about it every day. However, I believe that once you've had a deeply ingrained habit or addiction, you are always more vulnerable than if you'd never had it. Keep a level of awareness, especially in times of stress. Studies show that in times of stress or conflict, people are most likely to slip.

NOT A LINEAR PROGRESSION

Wouldn't it be nice if we smoothly progressed from one stage to the next? It's possible, but not probable. Most people have episodes of backsliding into Contemplation or even Precontemplation before trying again. In fact, studies show that New Year's resolutions are made, on average, five times before the changer moves all the way to Maintenance! (That's average. You don't have to do it that many times if you know how to move more effectively through these six stages.)

Don't give up! If you have a setback, don't stay there. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try again…this time with a revised and better plan.

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12 Universal Principles of Success

1. Ahead of any other requirement is your personal motivation. If you want 'it', you can have 'it' (whatever 'it' is) if you will do enough of the right things. But without burning desire, neither ability nor knowledge will get you what you want.

2. If your level of 'want' is high enough, the next step is action. Thinking without doing won't achieve what you long for. Action truly is the key.

3. Use Pareto's Principle to choose how to use your time. 80% of our actions do not contribute to achieving our goals, 20% do. So identify the 'thieves of time' and reduce them so that you don't find yourself saying, 'If only I had more time'. Remember, successful or not, everybody gets only 24 hours a day. It's what you choose to do in that period that determines your outcomes.

4. Many objectives cannot be reached without concentrated effort, so focus your energies. Massive action will achieve massive results. Diffused efforts leave you with a discouraging array of uncompleted projects.

5. Develop a confident persona. Others will respect your opinions and advice if you deliver them with confidence; a diffident manner invites disbelief.

6. Establish yourself as an expert in your field. Become an author, write articles and reports, post them on the internet, give talks on your topic. As an expert you have credibility and influence.

7. There is a challenge which comes with increasing authority and success, you must always be alert for arrogance. It is insidious and damaging. The truly great are humble with it. When you know a lot, you realise that it's actually only a very little.

8. Treat everyone with respect. Every single individual on this planet knows more about something than you do. Respect generates respect. Arrogance does the opposite.

9. Listen actively. Don't just wait for your chance to talk, hear what other people are saying and attune yourself to the emotion behind the words. This is how empathy is generated. It's a thousand times easier to obtain what you want when empathy is working with you.

10. Sometimes your ideas are going to turn out to be wrong. Accept that this can happen, learn what you can from the experience and then move on. Sincere belief that you are right does not mean that you are. Even Albert Einstein had to face this truth.

11. Build your 'sales' skills. If you cannot make a convincing case for your ideas, you are doomed to a life of implementing those of other people.

12. Give your plans a 'reality check' early on. Try and sell the idea to someone, you'll quickly learn what the constraints are. The real world feedback will allow you to adjust and focus your concept.

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5 Easy Steps - How to Fail in Business

1. Do not plan

Why bother with a plan? Jump straight in and sort out problems as they occur. Planning is for wimps!

These appear to be the attitudes of a significant number of business leaders in both new companies and well established companies. Planning does take time and energy and often poses questions that are difficult to answer. It is also possible to go to the other extreme and spend so much time on planning that you never implement any of the plans.

A balance needs to be struck between no planning and excessive planning. The amount and detail of planning will vary depending on the stage of development of the company and the degree of volatility of the business environment.

If no planning is carried out, there are two main risks:-

An opportunity occurs but your company does not have sufficient resources to gain from the opportunity.

A threat occurs and again your company does not have sufficient resources to cope with the threat.

2. Choose an activity that interests only you

Some people start a business based on a favourite hobby or pastime. Similarly, leaders of some existing businesses diversify into a business sector they find interesting.

Just because you find something interesting does not mean anyone else agrees with you or is prepared to pay you to do something they enjoy doing themselves.

Some, even very simple, market research may help you identify market niches that no one else is servicing. The reason no one else is servicing this market niche could be there is no demand. For example, as far as I am aware, there are no companies making steam powered televisions. If you diversify into this sector, you will probably have little competition but you may be disappointed about the level of sales.

3. Choose a business with low profit margins

Some businesses operate in sectors that are regulated, have significant competition or have few potential clients. This tends to limit the ability to charge a high price and to increase prices.

Quite often, this type of business also has high costs. The combination of high costs with limited selling prices produces low profit margins.

Having low profit margins means, less can be re-invested in the company to help it grow and develop. Time spent in low margin business sectors reduces the time that could be spent in high margin sectors.

4. Enter a declining market

Some organisations make a lot of money from declining markets but have very specific and ruthless business models that they rigorously pursue.

So forget about that and just go into a declining market because, who knows, the market may reverse. Maybe there will be a demand for mechanical calculators and typewriters again or fashions may change and people will wear powdered wigs again. Perhaps if you spend enough on marketing you will make the market change direction.

5. Combination strategies

Some companies appear to:-

a) No plan

b) Do not survey a potential market

c) Choose a low profit business

d) Enter a declining market

e) Appear surprised when they fail

Now it is up to you. Follow these simple five steps to ensure you fail in business - it is not as difficult as it looks.

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12 KEYS TO SUCCESS - Control Your Emotion

By Shawn Lim

KEYS #2 - CONTROL YOUR EMOTION

Now, here is the second keys that you will need if you desire for success. All the 12 keys to success are equally important, the order of all the keys are not important here. For example, Key #1 is Never Gives Up, the order of it doesn't matter here. All of the 12 keys are crucial and you must have them!

Are emotions important to us? Indeed. All of our work will be influence by our emotions. So what if you're in a bad emotion? Do you think that you can did a perfect job if your emotion is bad at that time? If you want to success, especially for businessman, they need to control their emotions. This is because they need to deal with other people all the time to have their business done. If they don't control their emotions, it is impossible to get their business deal in a nice and perfect way. Another great example is for network marketers. Every network marketers need to contact with their members all the time. So if they cannot control their emotions, all their members will leave them eventually.

You need to feel happy all the time. You need to feel positive all the time. Let me give you an example here of how important controlling your emotions are. There is a father, who works in an insurance firm. One day he had been fired from his company. So he is in a very bad mood. When driving home, the traffic jam. He is so angry and keep on sounding horns. Suddenly a car hit his car from the back. Now he is getting more angry and get out of his car, quarrel with the one who hit his car. Back at home, he see his wife and he straight away scold her. Then went into his room and slam the door. Now, the wife too is getting angry because his husband scolded her without any reasonable reason. The wife keep scolding their children, throwing things. Then one of the kid drop some food on the floor and the wife give that kid a slap on the face. Did the kid feel happy? Of course not, the kid move out of the house, and see a cat walking across. What that kid did? That kid kick that poor cat. Therefore you see. The negative effect of having bad emotion is so powerful. What if you are happy all the times? You can imagine that your positive emotions will influence all the people around you.

There are lots of downs in our life. And many people don't know how to control their emotion to face their downs. We are humans, we are can control our emotions. Why can we control our emotion? Because we can control our thinking. And why can we control our thinking? Because we have the power of making decisions. Thus you must learn how to make the right decisions.

Talking about controlling your emotions, what should you do when you're upset or angry? Well, you can take bath, sing songs, etc. Just make yourself feel comfortable. You can even pretend to be happy when you are upset. Please don't say that I'm crazy, but this is true and it definitely will helps to cure your sadness. Some people said, when you're down, try to smile and laugh more. The more you pretend the more it will comes true. This is the same as every night reviewing your goals of what you need to do and dream about what kind of lifestyle you want. Your mind will stimulate it to becomes true.

There you have it, the second key to success, control your emotion. Don't let your emotion control you. You have the power of making decision, always think positively and control your emotions. To your success.

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Don't Bow and Never Give Up

By George Chingarande

What is your problem? Why are you not where you ought to be in life? Why are you not at the top, or on top of the situation? Why are you stuck in the rut? Why are you settling for so little, when there are limitless possibilities? Is it that the market conditions are depressed, or is it that there is something in you that is depressed? What are the bitter lemons that you have had to swallow?

It is in the nature of all humans to seek refuge in cogent arguments, and to seek solace for their failures in excuses. The most monumental of all human failures is this failure to confront reality as it is. And this is actually the womb that breeds all excuses. I would like to challenge you to look at what you think are your valid reasons for not being and becoming all that you could become. However, let us begin with some examples.

Micheal Inglis is an amazing man from New Zealand, with an insatiable appetite for achievement. His dream was to climb to the top of the highest peak in the world. However, in 1982, he suffered a great set back. While scaling Mt Cook in New Zealand, he was trapped in a snow cave for fourteen days. When he was rescued he was barely alive and consequently lost both legs to frost bite. They had to be amputated from the knees downwards, so he is a double amputee. Most people would have been very grateful just to survive the ordeal, complain about life's cruel and unfair hand, quit their ambitions, and make a career out of begging for alms. After all, how can a double amputee climb a flight of stairs let alone scale Mt Everest? However, this was not the case with Michael. From the ashes of despair, he decided to resurrect his dream and live it to the full. He was not content with nursing his excuses and pitying himself. This year Mike undaunted by his disadvantages defied the odds and became the first double amputee to climb to the top of Mt Everest. An amazing feat, isn't it?

That is a small part of the story. On his ascent, he actually broke one of his artificial limbs. How cruel can fate be? Wasn't it time for him to kiss goodbye to his dreams, and join the great mass of humanity that daily gets itself drunk with the tranquilizing drug called "EXCUSES." He could always tell the world that he tried but it was not meant to be because luck was not on his side. Undaunted by this set back, fired by fierce determination and spurred by an indomitable never say die commitment to his ambition, he soldiered on until he stood triumphantly at the top of Mt Everest. He made it in spite of the odds.

Mike is not extraordinary. He is an ordinary guy who dared to do extraordinary feats. Further more, he is not the only one. He is part of a great cloud of impeachable witnesses who defied the odds, conquered the appealing and tantalizing seduction of excuses, and declined the invitation to give up that adverse circumstances dangle before our eyes like carrots every day. Think of people like Beethoven, who was deaf and yet endowed the magnificent symphonies to us, Helen Keller who was a frail and blind girl and yet became a great motivator and author; Nkosi Johnson the African boy who did a man's job and became an articulate campaigner against HIV/AIDS; Thomas Edson who was ejected out of primary school because he was too challenged yet became the greatest inventor; Domosthenes the Greek who was reviled, ridiculed and jeered for his stutter and yet defied his speech impediment, perfected his art and became the ancient world's most articulate orator; Franklin Roosevelt who was crippled by polio but defeated its vagaries to become American president for a record four terms; Richard Branson the self confessed dyslexic who dropped out of school and is today the most celebrated maverick billionaire.

Winners Find Opportunities in their Problems

All these examples and many more that we could not mention here attest to one immutable truth. Winners see opportunities in their problems. However, to the contrary losers see and find problems in their opportunities. Are bank loans an opportunity? I think it is. Have you ever heard how many grumble about the problems of bank loans? I rest my case, but not before I put it to you that life itself is an opportunity and a call to greatness.

For every entry you have in your catalogue of excuses- whether it is lack of capital or support, or deep poverty or handicap; disease or divorce- you name it, there is a more compelling example of a person who triumphed over greater odds. So what is your special problem? Is it because you are black? There are many blacks from as bad a past if not worse than yours who are millionaires. By the way, it was never a case of black and white but light and darkness. There are many blacks with light in their minds (I am proud to say I am one of them), and there are also many whites with darkness in their minds.

I confess I do not know your specific mix of problems, but I can aver with a firm conviction that you do not have to bow and genuflect before them. Embedded in every disappointment, is an appointment with destiny and in every set back is a perfect set up for success. If life forces lemons on you, it is an opportunity to make lemonade. Don't bow before you circumstances no matter how colossal they may seem. Man is not defeated when he is down but when he quits. Burn your excuses, and pursue your wildest dream. There is no CANT. So what is your problem? Mine is that I am Anti-excuses.

Look Inside of Your Mind to Quit Smoking

Being able to quit smoking can be accomplished by merely the power of suggestion. For smokers, cigarettes are very important. Even with the rising costs and numerous health warnings, smokers still do not ever leave home without them. Most smokers do want to quit, some have even made several failed attempts, and others go to successfully quit but trade the smoking health related problems for an extra 40 or 50 pounds.

Smoking is an emotional and psychological issue, so when a person quits and claims that the main reason that they quit was because of health issues or expenses, that is the wrong approach as they should focus on quitting as a positive reinforcement and plan to look to the future. Hypnotherapy has been very successful in helping people stop smoking.

Chances are that you would quit smoking if you knew it would be an easy task. Especially if you knew you would not fail. Think of yourself in the near future as a non smoker and all of the benefits that non smokers get to enjoy. Imagine how proud you will be once you have kicked the habit. Hypnosis is nothing more than a state of mind that a therapist assists you in getting into. In order to get to that state, you need to be completely relaxed both physically and mentally. Most therapists will take you to a happy time as your focal point before they take you to the bleak issue of quitting smoking. The process that is then used is called desensitization and that is basically replacing a bad experience or habit with a good one. Usually the good experience that replaces the bad feeling or in this case, the quitting of cigarettes, would be replaced with the positive thought that you held onto while under hypnosis. This concept is for the hypnotists to put you in a trance in order to access your sub conscious mind, which is at that point completely vulnerable.

The higher the patient's motivation and desire is to quit smoking, the more successful the outcome will be. The right side of the brain is the side that is responsible for emotion and creativeness while the left side is responsible for logic. Yet, during hypnosis, the right side is generally more stimulated. The left side of the brain during hypnosis has a higher level cognitive processing and behavior. In order for a therapist to put someone into a hypnotic state or a trance, there has to be the right conditions such as intense concentration, extreme relaxation and high suggestibility.

While the subject is in this state, which is very similar to that of dreaming, the hypnotist is able to incorporate on the power of suggestion to influence the mind of the patient. If a person enters a clinic for the purpose of being hypnotized and they believe the hypnosis will work they will have a much better chance than if they come in believing otherwise and the reason for that again is the power of suggestion. For the purpose of quitting smoking, a person that decides to utilize hypnosis with a positive attitude will allow the hypnotist to replace the need to smoke with a more positive action or memory, making the urge to light up again a distant memory.

Terry Doherty works all over the UK working extensively with individual and business clients helping clients to stop smoking, manage weight, manage stress, become more confident and helping change many other issues. Terry uses the latest techniques of hypnosis, NLP and life coaching skills for profound change. He can be reached at http://www.mind-works.co.uk

A Powerful Millionaire Mindset Factor To Help You Succeed!

There's one thing ALL self-made millionaires understand and live by. It's incredibly important for developing the millionaire mindset and for learning how to become a millionaire. This one concept can flat-out MAKE or BREAK your chances for wealth building or achieving success in anything you desire. I'm talking about discipline versus regret.

Multi-millionaire, Jim Rohn, explained it well in a recent interview. Jim is considered to be one of the world's formeost philosophers on achieving success. He's also been a key influence on some of the most successful people in recent history.

Here's what Jim said about discipline versus regret in the interview... "We suffer one of two things. Either the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. You've got to choose discipline versus regret. Because discipline weighs ounces and regret weighs tons.

Let me say that again...

Discipline weighs ounces and regret weighs tons. The reason is because the regret is an accumulated effect a year from now, two years from now. When you didn't do the easy discipline. It's like a cavity in your tooth.. The dentist says if we fix it now it's only $300 and if you let it go, someday it's going to be $3,000.

So, the easier pain of the $300 and sitting in the chair for just a little while takes care of it. But, if you let it go, that's no good. The dentist says, 'this cavity is not going to take care of itself. This is something you've got to take care of. You can't cross your fingers and hope it's going to go away. That's not going to help.'

Whatever you see that needs to be corrected, you start taking care of it. If you don't have a splendid diet, you've got to be incredibly thoughtful about how to change that. If your kids don't have a splendid diet, you've got to say, 'hey, maybe I should give some attention to my kids and their diet."

Do you now see the power of this crucial millionaire mindset? It's all about choosing discipline versus regret. What area of your life or your business do you need to apply some disciplines to so you don't end up feeling the huge weight of regret? Get started immediately. Because you now know that it won't take care of itself.

Jason Oman is the author of #1 best-selling Conversations with Millionaires. As well as being the President of Money Systems Technologies, a marketing firm that focuses on book marketing, author publicity and writing resources. Jason is an author's strategist specializing in helping clients achieve their goals of becoming a best selling author. For more information and free book writing secrets, sign up for Jason's newsletter at http://www.bestsellingauthorsecrets.com Get information on Jason's next best seller at http://www.conversationswithfemalemillionaires.com

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