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Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Success - You Can't Succeed if You Can't Make a Decision

By Cheryl Clausen

Do you procrastinate? Does it seem like everything you try ends in failure? There's a simple explanation for this. You can't make a decision. And because you can't make a decision you can't succeed.

Develop the habit of making decisions quickly. You think it's hard to make decisions. The reason you find it so hard to make decisions is because you place too much focus on information over the facts, and you don't have a clear plan for what you want and how you're going to get there.

Don't change your decisions once they're made. Once you make a decision only change your decision if the facts support that change. And even then change your mind slowly. The reason you change your mind so often and so easily is because you're reacting to fear not facts.

Make your decisions yourself. Reach and follow your decisions yourself based on the facts you've gathered, and the objectives you've set for success. When you include others in your decision making process you're only muddying the waters with misinformation, negativity, and jealousy.

Develop confidence in your decision making capabilities through practice. There are few, if any decisions, that can't be undone. Start by making low risk decisions quickly and then sticking with them until you gain the confidence to make important decisions quickly.

When you need facts that you can only obtain through other people get them discreetly. Don't reveal your underlying reason for wanting the factual information. Keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself until you reach a decision and act on that decision.

It's far easier to make good decisions when you keep your eyes and ears open, and your mouth closed. There are opportunities around you every day, but you have to be looking and listening for them to find them. When you talk too much you can't be focused on finding these opportunities.

Never share your plans for success with anyone. Show them instead. Sharing your plans before you've taken action on them sets yourself up for a series of negative results including: ridicule if you don't follow through on your plans, the likelihood that someone else will steal your plan and be a direct competitor, and having your thoughts and ideas cluttered with a bunch of information that detracts from your focus.

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Tuesday, October 30, 2007

What Is Stopping You From Your Success?

Success has different meaning for different people. By large success is defined or measured by the amount of cash in your pockets, but as I said it could be different for different people. Not everyone is cut out of be next Bill Gates or Warren Buffett. But the question we need to ask ourselves is why not?

The biggest hurdle in our success what I feel is ourselves and lack of belief in our own capabilities, talent. We feel that they had the X Factor going for them and we can't ever be in the same league. Well what I feel is the only thing that had is a belief so strong that they can do it. Which led them in accomplishing all that they aimed for, infect much more.

We are all living in our self created comfort zones and the fear of change and inner sluggishness and the inner devil wants us to remain where we are. Whenever, you try to tell yourself that let's do this or lets do that the inner devil says its not going to work so not need to bother. The temptation to listen to that person is so high because this will allow us to stay where we are and not to do anything. Simply NO CHANGE.

The reality is that the self created rather our self perceived comfort zone is basically keeping us in a detention center and not letting us grow or evolve. This is actually keeping us away from our success. We need to have a realization of this fact. Once you realize that this zone is actually a blockage from your evolution to reach all that you want will be the first step towards reaching for that.

We need to remove all the uncertainties or doubts that we have. For our independence it is imperative that we start believing in ourselves. And only by doing so we would be able to encounter all those fears.

Write down your goals or desires on a piece of page and then think over it. It could be a business a job or any other thing you have in your mind. Now think for a few minutes how you can achieve those by doing another job, taking another assignment etc. Now all sort of negative thoughts will start to come in. Why am I doing this, Nothing is going to change, having a personality make-over, its useless etc. Now these are again merely that part of mind which is going to resist the change.

Why most of the people live a static life will yearly increments in their pays and live in life with a little change in their status? The basic reason for this is just that their unconscious mind who resists to change has evolved so much has taken so much control over them.

Therefore, the most vital thing to know for now is that "Change is good" it's the change which will lead you from what you are and in having all that you want. As I always say "If you want more, be more." Don't resist change, be flexible and have a strong self belief system and know it's for the better and it would be for the better.

Syed Muzaffar Aqleem Tirmizi is part of the operational management in leading cellular operator in Pakistan, specializing in providing training solutions for individuals, teams and organizations. He also specializes in training needs, analysis and mentoring. Has a very energetic and motivating style with a strong focus on exceeding the organizational expectation and with his infectious energy he empowers other individuals to achieve their full potential. For your training needs or operational analysis could be contacted at or visit for more information.

Monday, October 29, 2007

Pay My Dues, Why? What Are You Doing for Me?

As a generation Yer, you may have watched your parents or relatives work hard, demonstrate commitment, and sacrifice their personal lives, only to lose their jobs and/or pensions by right-sizing, out- sourcing and corporate scandals. Why, then, should you "pay your dues" to try to climb the corporate ladder - especially when you saw that paying your dues doesn't always pay off!

Let me begin by suggesting that "paying your dues" has different meanings for different generations. While a Baby Boomer may define "paying your dues" as demonstrating a commitment to the company over time, a generation Yer may hear "paying your dues" as working 80 hours a week and putting the company first always. As generation Yers, we've learned what working 80 hours a week can do to one's family life, personal life, health, etc. You're not interested in giving your life to a company that does not care about you.

Is there a win-win solution- where you successfully demonstrate a commitment to your company - "pay your dues" - and feel empowered doing so? The following are five ways to demonstrate commitment to your company, while considering your future and taking care of what's important in your life:

1. Be patient with yourself and your company -

So many times generation Yers come to me six months into a new job feeling anxious, hating the work and ready to jump ship to a new job, even though they don't have a clear idea why they are leaving. Generally speaking, they do not really want to leave their job, but they don't see a way to get what they think they "should" have as quickly as they think they "should" have it. As a generation primarily raised on television, where you see the beginning and end of every success story within an hour, you may not have a clear understanding of the hard work and dedication that goes into real life success.

2. Each job is an opportunity to become clearer -

About your strengths, your special talents, and your interests. While some seem to know exactly what they are good at and what they want to do with their life, most of us need time to explore what we're passionate about, what we're good at and what we love. Take advantage of opportunities to learn about yourself.

3. Find a mentor - create a plan -

If your company has a mentorship program in place, find a way to get involved. If not, approach your supervisor and ask if there is a way he or she can help you locate a mentor inside your organization. It's very helpful to have a mentor in addition to the mentoring your supervisor may be giving you. Having an opportunity to build relationships with others inside your organization can be invaluable in making your capabilities known within the company as well as increasing your chances for promotion. Network, network, network! Taking the time to think through what you really want and sharing your goals with your supervisor and mentor is important - if they don't know what you want, they won't know what experiences to help you gain.

4. Build a name for yourself -

Through consistent achievement, and by making sure the right people know of your achievements. Yes, this does require that you share your achievements with others (go ahead and brag, it's better than hiding your light under a bushel!). If no one knows about all the great work you've done, how will they know you should be promoted?!

5. Keep Learning -

Explore, ask questions, request new assignments, find a mentor, take advantage of training programs, get to know the context of your work - the "big picture," read industry information, etc.

Almost two years ago I began coaching a 19-year- old (we'll call him Adam) who had failed out of college three consecutive semesters. His father reached out to me in hopes of helping his son get on a positive track - he was very worried. When Adam first came to me he did not want to finish college and he didn't know what he wanted for his future. Over the past two years, he has learned a great deal about his strengths/weaknesses, taken the time to face his self-imposed limitations, begun an internship in his field of interest, and is preparing for his next semester of college with an entirely new frame of mind.

The key for Adam was getting to know himself, his interests and making positive advances in order to do what he likes, long term. If you can learn about yourself, find what you love to do, and build your life around that, the financial and personal rewards, as well as the increased responsibility, will come. So many people force themselves to do jobs that do not fit their passions just to pay their bills. Don't be one of them!

Be patient with yourself. Take time to explore, learn about yourself, generate a plan, build your network. You will have failures, certainly, but you will succeed in the end.

Misti Burmeister is a recognized expert in Generational Communication. Learn more about how to improve the communication between generations at Inspirion Inc

Sunday, October 28, 2007

How to Overcome The Self-Sabotaging Behaviors That Prevent Success

Whatever you want to achieve, there are some common problems that could derail your plans if you're not mindful of them: self-sabotaging behaviors.

Have you ever done something that caused big problems for you and seemed to be in direct opposition to what you thought you wanted? Like consistently shown up late for work even though your boss warned that you were treading on thin ice? Or perhaps you kept feeling compelled to eat junk food even though you were trying to lose weight and get in shape?

Why do we do these things? You would think that setting a goal and creating a plan would be enough to get us where we want to go, right? Not necessarily.

Sometimes our subconscious minds can work against us, even if we consciously believe we want something. There are many possible reasons why we do this, but they most often involve a fear or an ingrained habit.

Take a look at these behaviors and ask yourself whether they have ever derailed your plans:


If you've ever found yourself holding back on doing something even though you kept telling yourself you really wanted to do it, you were procrastinating. You may have felt drawn to watch endless hours of television, or felt compelled to suddenly clean out your basement, or caused dramatic episodes with friends and family members for no apparent reason – all so you wouldn't have to work on your goals.

You were trying to distract yourself. Why? Believe it or not, procrastination usually has little to do with laziness and more to do with avoidance. Most often, you are trying to avoid an underlying fear or resistance that you don't feel ready to handle.

Ingrained habits:

No matter how fired up you are about your goals, your old, ingrained habits can seem as solid as concrete. The biggest mistake we often make is underestimating the amount of energy and effort that will be required when we first start making changes. We're used to doing things a certain way and if we try to change those comfortable old routines, we feel nervous and out of place.

In order to become comfortable with new habits, you need to stick with them long enough so that they become second nature. Remember, that's how you got comfortable where you are – even if it's not exactly where you want to be.

An incredible amount of focus and willpower may be needed in order to change your old habits, but eventually they will become as solid as concrete too.

Learn to recognize the signs of self-sabotage:

The greatest gift you can give yourself is self-awareness. The subconscious nature of self-sabotage is what makes it so difficult to recognize, but with enough honest introspection you will begin to understand yourself better. When you do, you will be able to tell when you are working in opposition to your goals. You'll be able to tell when you feel fearful and hesitant about stepping out of your comfort zones. You'll recognize avoidance behaviors and take steps to turn them around immediately.

You may think it sounds too easy, but it really IS simple. You just have to be willing to pay attention, overcome fear and continue along the path to success – no matter what it takes.

Robert Greenshields is a marketing success coach who helps entrepreneurs and independent professionals transform their business results by changing their mindset. Download his free report on 7 Steps to a Success Mindset at

The Power of a Smile

ALTHOUGH it lasts only a moment, the memory may stay with you all your life. Its value is immense, but nobody is so poor that he cannot share it or so rich that he does not need it. What are we talking about? A smile.

A smile is produced by a muscular contraction in which the eyes brighten and the corners of the mouth curve slightly upward expressing satisfaction. During the first few weeks after birth, a baby smiles, and this, of course, delights the proud new parents. These early smiles are known as reflex, or involuntary, smiles. Experts explain that this kind of smile appears often during dreaming and seems to be related to internal feelings and activity of the central nervous system. Even when we are adults, this reflex smile may still occur after a meal or while we are listening to music.

From about six weeks of age, however, a baby smiles in response to a face or a voice. A 'social smile'-a voluntary, conscious smile-cheers us up, whether we are babies or adults. It is said that such a smile even has a positive influence on our physical health. According to speech therapists Mirtha Manno and Rubén Delauro, who manage a self-help clinic called Smiling and Health, the mere gesture of smiling produces an electrical stimulus that affects the pituitary gland. This gland, in turn, releases endorphins, chemical substances in the brain that make us feel good.

Another important reason for smiling is the positive effect it has on others. A sincere smile communicates our feelings without the need for words, whether it be a smile of greeting, of sympathy, or of encouragement. Occasionally, just looking at a child's appealing smile in a photograph can bring a smile to our lips.

Receiving a warm smile can help us to feel more relaxed and to cope better with frustration or challenges. Yes, by this simple gesture, we can benefit ourselves and others. Why not make an effort to share this most valuable gift-a warm smile?

Frankie Goh is a full-time family counsellor. He manage and host a website : Earn Money Online

Friday, October 26, 2007

It's Never As Bad As You Expect

By David Bohl

Dr. Daniel Gilbert, a Harvard professor of psychology, has done some ground-breaking and very intriguing research into the science of happiness. Dr. Gilbert has discovered, for instance, that we don't enjoy things as much as we expect.

This research has an interesting opposite side, which is that things are never as bad as we expect. Dr. Gilbert gives an example of Democrats who thought they would be "devastated" if George W. Bush won re-election. Gilbert's research showed that the Democrats involved in the study were not nearly as devastated, the day after the election, as they expected to be. Their reports of their feelings were more positive than they expected. However, several weeks later, they remembered being as devastated as they had expected. Clearly there is a disconnect between what we expect and what we actually get, and another disconnect between what we actually get and what we later think we got. This disconnect can be used to help us deal with difficult situations, in two ways.

First, when anticipating something unpleasant, we can remember that there is scientific proof that things are not as bad, when experienced, as they are when imagined beforehand. We can use this knowledge to calm ourselves and remind ourselves that we're not really going to experience as much pain, sadness, or other negative feelings as we expect.

We can also record our feelings immediately after the experience, so that we can later look back and remember that it was not as bad as we expected, even if, later, we remember it being extremely hard or very painful.

Our minds play tricks on us, and one of the tricks they play is imagining that something will be absolutely horrible. This turns out to be a useful trick, because in fact things are rarely, if ever, as bad as we expect, and we are always able to deal with them more easily because of that. But the trick our memory plays of remembering things as being exactly that horrible is a trick we could do without, and which we can do without by making notes, or writing in a journal, what really happened and what it really felt like.

Dr. Gilbert's research suggests that, when it comes to happiness, we don't know our own minds, and this is equally true of less pleasant experiences, from a trip to the dentist to being fired. Humans are remarkably resilient individuals. We can cope with things we never believed we were capable of surviving, and we can come through these experiences feeling stronger than before we went through them.

But we don't think that's true, because of the tricks our minds play.

This week, try these tips to experience your life more authentically.

• Before a dreaded meeting or other event, write down your expectations.

• Spend some time thinking about how you can change those expectations to more positive ones.

• Write down your exact reaction after the event; compare it to your expectations and note how things were better than expected.

Lifestyle Mentor, Personal Coach, Author, Educator, and Entrepreneur, David B. Bohl is the creator of Slow Down FAST. To learn more about this step-by-step strategy for Living YOUR Life YOUR way, and to sign up for his 9 FREE Tips for Finding Happiness in a Fast-Paced World, free teleseminars, free Special Report, free bi-monthly ezine and more, go to:

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Getting to Know Yourself

By David Bohl

Most people think they know themselves pretty well, but how well do you really know yourself? Do you know exactly how you feel about certain things and why, or do you tend to judge how you feel by how you think you should feel? Are you comfortable with your feelings and the "inner you," or is that uncomfortable?

Getting to know yourself may be a little different from getting to know the new neighbor or that attractive blond in your building, but it doesn't necessarily have to be harder to really get acquainted with you.

You may not be able to invite yourself out for a cup of coffee to get acquainted, but you can spend time alone, with no music or noise or interruptions, and use that time getting to know yourself better.

You may want to ask yourself questions about how you feel about things that have been bothering you or that are important in your life at the time. You might find that writing down the question and then writing the first answer that comes to mind makes this process easier.

You may find that just contemplating or meditating on a subject helps you find out your true center in that area and helps you know what you think and believe.

Some people find that doing art or writing creatively helps them discover who they really are, and this has the advantage of being something people generally enjoy, whereas just "getting to know me" can be an off-putting idea.

One mistake people make in trying to learn more about themselves is that they think of it not only as a one-time thing, but as a relatively fast process.

In fact, getting comfortable with who you really are on a very deep basis can take a very long time, depending on how disconnected you are from your true self. It's almost never something that can be done on one weekend retreat to "find yourself."

The good news about this time investment is that it allows you to really grow in the relationship with yourself. It's not a quick fix, but it is a true grounding in who you are, what you believe and what's important to you.

This is the kind of time you would spend getting to know a best friend or a future life partner, rather than just a work colleague or a golfing buddy.

By treating yourself as this important and by honoring the time and emotional commitments, you can truly become a friend with yourself and find the true self you've probably been missing all this time.

And is it worth it? Most people who have gotten to know themselves on a deeper basis think that it is well worth the effort and that they are more deeply happy and fulfilled because of it.

To get to know yourself better,

• Schedule some time each week to spend with yourself
• Think about issues in your life about which you are not clear, and work on clarifying your feelings
• Keep a journal about your discovery of yourself

Lifestyle Mentor, Personal Coach, Author, Educator, and Entrepreneur, David B. Bohl is the creator of Slow Down FAST. To learn more about this step-by-step strategy for Living YOUR Life YOUR way, and to sign up for his 9 FREE Tips for Finding Happiness in a Fast-Paced World, free teleseminars, free Special Report, free bi-monthly ezine and more, go to:

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

5 Ideas for Managing Change

By David Bohl

"Life is difficult." These words open M. Scott Peck's classic book, The Road Less Traveled. Dr. Peck might as well have said, "Life is change," because it well and truly is.

We all deal with change, well or poorly, every day. The challenge for most of is not so much that we have change to deal with, but how well we manage it. Managing change well means less stress, less work, and more time to feel content, joyful, and fulfilled. How can you manage change better? I've come up with five ideas I think can help all of us deal more successfully and smoothly with the change in our lives.

1. Understand that change is inevitable. Statisticians rely on the fact that the future will be very much like the past, because the future has always been much like the past. However, they recognize the Human Dilemma, posed by philosopher David Hume, that we don't have any evidence that the future will be like the past.

And honestly, though the future is always much like the past, it's also always different in many ways. Once we accept that tomorrow will be different, we can accept those changes more readily when they come.

2. Learn to enjoy change. This sounds like a very tall order, but let's think about it. Change often causes stress. But the body often does not know the difference between negative stress and positive stress, or excitement. We could just as readily be excited by the change, but we put a negative turn on it in our minds, and choose to feel threatened and upset rather than excited and joyous.

3. Work for the changes you desire. We all know that change is going to happen, whether we want it or not. We may not be happy with that state of affairs, but we do know that change is coming. What we can do to make that change more pleasant is to make sure that we're actively helping to enact the changes we want.

4. Keep change in perspective. Sometimes we get so overwhelmed by the idea of change, that we see every change as equally threatening. Really, some changes are more important, and affect our lives more fully, than others. By learning to choose our battles with change, we can spend much less time worrying about and fighting small changes, and much more time learning to deal with the larger changes that really matter.

5. Relax. If you've done the other steps, if you know there's going to be change, if you're enjoying change as much as you can, working for the changes you want in your life and environment, and understanding which are big changes and which are major, then you're doing all you can to deal with change. Relax. Enjoy your life.

These five ideas can help you deal effectively with change. Why not start now?

• Spend some time thinking about the most recent changes in your life. Did you see them coming? How can you begin to understand the inevitability of change?

• The next time you experience a major change, practice feeling excited rather than stressed.

• Pick one thing you would like to change. What can you do to make that happen?

Lifestyle Mentor, Personal Coach, Author, Educator, and Entrepreneur, David B. Bohl is the creator of Slow Down FAST. To learn more about this step-by-step strategy for Living YOUR Life YOUR way, and to sign up for his 9 FREE Tips for Finding Happiness in a Fast-Paced World, free teleseminars, free Special Report, free bi-monthly ezine and more, go to:


Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Life Can Be Humorous

If you do not take care, life ends up being pretty ordinary with no thought other than all the responsibilities in your life. Housework never ends, the kids always have some kind of team practice, your mother needs you to take her shopping, and on it goes. The rut just keeps getting deeper until you forget what having fun and laughing means. There are some simple ways to add fun and humor back into your life.

The first lesson is that life can be humorous and fun again when you make time to play. Take time to relax and enjoy the moment. When you are super busy, it is necessary that you take even just a little time for fun. You do not have to spend a lot of time in order to get a benefit from a fun activity. One or two times a week is all you need to recharge those batteries. How long has it been since you read a good book? Do you remember the last time you took a good long soak in the tub? How about a walk with your children? Take in a movie or attend a festival while summer is still here. You have to give yourself permission to relax and forget about the every day stress.

Another thing that is essential in finding the humor and fun in life is to find your passion and follow it. Do you recall the last time you did something just because you loved it? Other things seem more important so your passion gets pushed aside. Diving into your passion regularly will make those other obligations seem a lot more rewarding. Make time to take a class or something else that will help you meet people who share your passion. Did you always want to play the piano? A good used piano will not set you back too much. If that is your passion, dive in and have fun.

A great way to find life's humor is, of course, having a great sense of humor. Laugh as much as possible. Get those tickets to the comedy club and laugh until it hurts. If you love cartoons, watch them at every opportunity. Check out some good joke books from the library. Check out some of those goofy situation comedies on television. Hang funny pictures where you work. Subscribe to the joke of the day in your e-mail. There is humor to be found everywhere. It does not take much looking to find it.

Try to find the humor in every situation. This will not always work when stress is really on you, but making it a habit will go a long way toward that goal. Laugh at yourself good-naturedly. The more you look on the lighter side, the more fun you will have. These are some simple suggestions but do not discount their power. When you make a habit of doing these things, your entire spirit will be lighter and happier. When it becomes a part of who you are, you will feel this way most of the time. What a gift to yourself to make life's burdens seem to be less heavy.

About the Author

Robin Skeen

Robin lives in the lovely state of Ohio, USA. She is a freelance writer and her website contains her reflections on inspired personal growth - transforming body, mind and spirit so you can live your best life NOW! To find out more, visit today at and check back on a regular basis for free reports and eBooks.

Monday, October 22, 2007

Understanding What Motivates People to Take Action

So I wanted to buy a car. It was a tough choice but I decided that my next new car would be a Volvo. So I drove down to a local dealer and told him I wanted to take a look at a few Volvos and could he help. "Of course" he replied.

After viewing a few of the cars I decided to test drive one of them. As I drove around the salesman went on about how great this car is and how customers don't complain about the car and how they love their Volvos. I then asked him to be more specific about what customers like about their Volvo. He seemed to hesitate. It quickly became obvious no one had ever asked him to be specific. He said, "Well you know, people like the way it drives and how it looks." He rambled on but never got into specifics.

After a few test drives and more "oohs, ahs" about how great it would be to own a Volvo I thanked him and left without buying a car. I just wasn't sure and wanted to think about some more.

About a week or so later I decided to go back and test-drive some Volvos again. This time I went to a different dealership hoping to get another flavor before making up my mind.

The salesman that greeted me was a polite and unassuming individual. We'll call him Jack. Jack asked me simple questions about what I was looking for in a car. I also told him that I had test driven a few Volvos but was unsure of whether to buy or not.

Jack listened and nodded his head and said, "Alright. Let's begin with the model you like the most." I said, "Sure."

We got into the car and I was ready to start the car when Jack asked me to wait a minute. Jack then went on to explain the features of the car. By the time he was done I understood what every button on the panels, dashboard and doors could do. Then Jack explained how many of these features would make my drive more comfortable. It became quickly apparent that Jack understood how to sell benefits, not features.

When we finally started driving, Jack began to go into the history of the Volvo; origin, model transitions and improvements and on and on. It was like listening to a Volvo documentary…with me in it!

When we finished driving, Jack stepped me around the car to explain some of the hidden safety features. Volvo is known for being one of the safest cars in the world. And after Jack's mini-tour around the vehicle I understood why. Needless to say, within an hour I was sitting down in his office finalizing the paperwork to purchase my first Volvo.

I gleaned a couple lessons from this experience that I want to share with you.

First, Jack wasn't a 'slick' salesman. He was an average guy with a very modest demeanor. Most people have it in their heads that to be a great salesperson you have to be a fast and smooth talker. Wrong. Who would you trust more? A fast talking salesperson like the first with slick answers and no depth or someone like Jack who answers all your questions with details and facts?

Second, people don't want to be sold, they want to be convinced. Jack understood that giving me a lot of information would go a long way in helping me decide as to whether I wanted to buy or not. Having enough information allowed me, or better yet, convinced me to make a decision.

I didn't buy from the first dealership because I didn't have enough information to make an informed decision. All I had were the opinions of other people who had driven the car from a salesman I didn't personally know. Testimonials are great, but unless I know the person behind the testimonials it mean very little to me.

More often then not, people reject proposals or making a buying decision because somewhere in the sales process their concerns weren't addressed. They still have lingering doubts about whether it is the right choice for them.

Jack's approach reminded me of an adage I keep in mind when trying to understand the link between motivation and action:

"An uninformed mind is a confused mind. And a confused mind will NEVER make a decision."

In a hyper-capitalist society where we are inundated and bombard with new technology and features, our minds often times can't keep up. The job of a salesperson is to explain the new advances, but more importantly how they benefit the buyer. Whether selling or just trying to convince others, what motivates people into action is 1) knowledge and 2) that it is in their best interest.

Think about it for a second. When you know 'how to' do something, you rarely hesitate in getting it done. When you know that it will benefit you personally, you will act!

A final note: If you're in management, keep this is mind when someone doesn't buy into your approach, strategy or way of thinking. Maybe the reason they don't has less to do with your ideas, and more to do with them not having enough information to make an informed decision OR how it will benefit them in the long run.

p.s., Update: five years later my Volvo is still going strong!

Victor Gonzalez, top Hispanic motivational speaker and author of "The LOGIC of Success". For more info go to: or by email


Sunday, October 21, 2007

Discover Your Reason Why if You Want to Achieve Success

If you're struggling to achieve success then it may be because you haven't identified the reason why you want to achieve success, why you want to achieve a particular goal. When you discover this it will become a compelling motive that drives you forward and gives you the energy to attract the people, resources and opportunities you need in your life to achieve your desired goal.

Let me give you an example. I was recently listening to Graham White interview, Noah St John of The Success Clinic, Inc. on the topic of "Permission to Succeed". Now Graham White is the former head coach of North America's largest training company and during this candid interview he said something quite shocking. He said there was a time in his life that he had been close to committing suicide but one thing prevented him from taking his own life. When he remembered that he had a new baby daughter he realised that taking his own life was no longer an option.

Let take another example. You may desperately want to get back into shape but instead of exercising and eating healthily you scoff junk food, or eat cakes, biscuits, ice cream and the like in excess and you flake out in front of the television for hours on end every day. Then you develop a life-threatening illness and the doctor says to you that if you want to live you have to lose weight and improve your fitness. You now have your reason why. It's a matter of life or death and you do what it takes to regain your health.

Perhaps your company is floundering and if you don't do something drastic it will fold. The truth is that you love the work that you are doing. You just haven't found a way to make it profitable because you have been deluding yourself. You have forgotten that no matter how much you love doing something a business must be profitable if it is to survive. You have been neglecting critical aspects of finance. You have not been addressing the issue of marketing and you know that some of your employees are not pulling their weight and yet you have procrastinated in effectively dealing with this issue. It may even be that you have too many employees for your current operations. Whatever the reasons for the demise of your business, when you recognise that if you let your business run into the ground you will not have a vehicle to express what you love doing, you will have a compelling reason to knock your business into shape.

In each case I have described here it isn't that you don't know what to do or how to do it. By the latter, I don't mean that you necessarily know all the minute details of what you have to do to achieve the results that you desire, but if you don't, you can surely find someone who does know. In each case, it seemed easier initially to simply drift along, ignoring your true calling and shying away from stepping up to the plate and being the person you were meant to be in this world. When you found a compelling enough reason why to change you were galvanised into action.

However, there's another piece to the puzzle. You see what I have described are external motivating factors and while they can help you overcome obstacles you may be experiencing, to make those significant changes in your life, you will still be working to correct symptoms. You will not be addressing the underlying factor that resulted in you being in your current situation in the first place.

White also said that while acting as a business consultant that he would assist business owners who were on the brink of declaring bankruptcy and get them back on their feet again only to find that 6-18 months later some owners had run their company back into the ground again. St John explained this by saying that he had shown the business owners what to do but he hadn't helped them uncover their why.

To be truly effective you have to get at the root cause which is an internal factor. This is also another "why" and it is the biggest why of all. It answers the question of the purpose of your existence on this earth. When you can correlate external motivating factors such as the love for your family, your desire for life, the love for the work you are doing with why you are here on this earth then you become unstoppable.

"Most people do not know why they are here on earth. When you don't know why you're here on earth that can cause feelings that can range from anywhere from just mild frustration to a general sense of hopelessness to feelings of suicide, to actually taking your own life."
Noah St John, The Success Clinic, Inc.

Just look at what you are able to achieve when you have a strong external motivating factor. Even if you have only experienced this for a brief time, notice how differently people respond to you when you are on purpose. They either scramble to help you or they move clear out of your way. Yet cognitive scientists have proven that only 5% of our decisions are on a conscious level. This means that a whooping 95% of our decisions are made on the subconscious level. Can you now see what awesome firepower you have at your disposal when you can align your internal with your external "why tos"?

"You can have all the 'how tos' of success but if you have more 'why not tos', even if those 'why not tos' exist on the subconscious level, you simply won't allow yourself to succeed to your full capacity no matter how many 'how tos' of success you know."
Noah St John, The Success Clinic, Inc.

It may be a challenge to discover what your purpose is in life or it may be very simple. You see the answer to that particular question is also inside. The real question is:

"Are you willing to go inside to unlock the secret to your success - your reason why?"

Nickolove Lovemore is a Life Coach, a Certified LifeSuccess Consultant and a Certified NLP Practitioner who will work with you to develop your personal success strategy for achieving your goals. Visit Achieve Life Success for gifts, special offers and news about upcoming events. Email your name to Purpose Vision Goals for free report that will help you to discover your true purpose in life.


Saturday, October 20, 2007

Life Coaching Tips: What Does A Life Coach Do?

by Coach Pete Turner

What is coaching and how can it benefit me?

Coaching is a proven process that quickly brings results, because both you and your coach are highly motivated and are working together on highly focused goals. You benefit by achieving goals faster, creating balance and enjoying the support of a non-judgmental mentor whose only goal is your success!

How long does it take to get results?

Normally coaches work with clients for three to six months. This really depends on you and what areas of your life you want to improve. In some cases you may start seeing results immediately. Again it's up to you. You may need help with a specific issue like making a career change. Or it may be simply better time management. There is no set time period, contract or commitment. You can end the coaching relationship at any time.

What is the cost?

Coaching fees run from $100.00 to a thousand dollars or more based on the coaches experience and his clients needs. The average is around $300.00 a month.

How does the coach work with me? Usually there will be three weekly one hour sessions. These sessions are done on the phone at a prearranged time schedule.

Do coaches offer a free initial session?

Yes, most coaches offer a free half hour discovery session. If at the end of the session you are ready to starting a coaching relationship great. If not that's okay. There is never any sales pressure. It's always a good idea to connect three or more coaches. Make sure you find the one that's right for you.

Do coaches offer any guarantees?

No, the only guarantees most coaches will make is that if you are motivated to make changes, they guarantee to provide you with their best coaching effort. Coaches are committed to your success and will work with you to overcome the challenges that will invariably come along.

Will I have to sign any contract for services?

Most coaches don't use any type of pending contract. If the coaching relationship isn't working, no coach would want to hold you to some type of contract.

What happens during these "coaching sessions"?

During the coaching session your coach and you will decide on areas of your life: career, relationship, etc that you want to concentrate. The coach may assign a task/homework to be perform during the week to help you.

In summary what a life coach does is through a series of phone coaching session the coach and you will form a bond - a relationship focused on one thing YOU! The coach is a cheerleader, motivator and task master, but it is really up to you! A good life coach will encourage you to look deep inside yourself for the answers About the Author

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Friday, October 19, 2007

Career Success - 5 Great Reasons To Train Co-workers When It's Not Part Of Your Job

by Linda M. Lopeke

Career success involves more than going to work expecting to perform the regular duties listed in your job description. Just doing your job is part of the work-for-pay deal you made with your employer.

For some, the day will come when the boss asks for more. For example, you'll be asked to train others in a particular function, perhaps even your own job! It means more work, that isn't part of your current role, for the same pay. Should you be professional and accept the training assignment or be assertive and refuse to take it on unless they pay you extra?

Let's look at this situation a little more closely. There's more to it than first meets the eye. Here are 5 really good reasons you should always accept, especially when training is not your job!

1) Your paid job exists to further your employer's interests. Hopefully the employment relationship is one where both of you get as much as you need and little you don't.

There's nothing wrong with drawing lines in the sand if you're happy playing in a smaller sandbox indefinitely. However, if the employer is not asking you to do anything illegal, unethical, or immoral you should give training others your best shot without expecting extra pay because it's not part of your regular job.

You earn the right to get paid more for it by doing this training so well it adds irreplaceable and/or immeasurable value to your employer. Getting paid extra doesn't have to be money, many other forms of compensation recognize outstanding contribution "above and beyond" the call of duty. Several of these are even more valuable than cash.

2) When an employer asks you to do something out of your comfort zone, it usually means they see potential in you that you may not have noticed yet and are willing to invest in you more than others in the company. They gamble that you will come through for them as needed. (After all, they are taking a risk you'll deliver an acceptable result.)

3) When an employer asks you to take on training others specifically, they are placing the future of their company in the hands of your perceived abilities, experience and expertise. If that's not a tremendous vote of confidence in you, I don't know what is. Sometimes they've asked you because they have big plans for your future; plans they haven't shared yet.

4) Such an assignment exponentially increases your network and visibility. Career success is not about who you know; it's about who knows you! People you've helped train to be successful make great allies and supporters for you in the future. Nothing beats a word-of-mouth testimonial for your professional contribution, support and expert knowledge.

5) Stepping outside of your defined job role is the fast track to success. Quite often rapid career success happens because someone in power was willing to take a risk on you (sometimes a risk so large failure could cost them their own reputations) even though the true extent of your abilities is yet unknown and unproven.

Accept the challenge and you just might find many of the career opportunities that bring you the greatest satisfaction would never have been experienced if you hadn't. There's a pretty good chance they were never on the list of things you planned to do with your life.

We live in a world of unlimited possibility. Don't shut yourself off with short-sighted thinking by not accepting a great assignment just because no extra pay is offered up front or it's something you've never done before and you're afraid to give it a try.

Does fear play a role in holding ourselves back? It does, but only if you let it. Successful people don't have more courage than average people, they're just willing feel the fear and take that next step into the unknown anyway. And they are willing to do more than average people will not, even when the payoff is not immediately apparent and no extra cash is involved.

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Thursday, October 18, 2007

Infinite Possibilities

Do you realize that life is filled with infinite possibilities? That you have the power to create whatever you choose to, all you have to do is understand how to utilize the law of attraction. We have the power to think thoughts into being, there are infinite possibilities to use our imagination to shape our world around us.

Many people believe the old adage "go to work get a good job, and life will be ok," well that is all it will be is okay. If you really wish to have a successful life then you must begin to understand the law of attraction. Mike Dooley's powerful program Infinite Possibilities will show you how. He will teach you that we as humans are extremely powerful and we must begin to understand that we can be do have anything we desire. If you can learn how to focus on the end results of the goals you wish to accomplish, they will become a reality.

Have you ever set a goal for yourself and you knew you wanted it real bad, the whole while you kept focused on the end result of the goal. You kept feeling the feelings of what it would feel like when you do actually accomplish the goal. You even go as far as to begin to feel the feelings of it and begin conversing as if you already possess the goals. As you continue doing this then the law of attraction is actually bring you what you desire.

Next thing you know it feels like deja vu and you have your goal. You begin to wonder where you have seen it before because it feels as though you already had it. It comes to you when you least expect it. You can be do have anything you desire there are infinite possibilities to anything and the only thing holding you back is yourself. Yes we are our worst enemy. We tend not to move forward with things because we talk ourselves out of things, we fear failure too much and we are too scared to try anything different. We let people talk us out of things because they believe we will fail and then talk us out of doing things we would really love to move forward with. People are quick to pass judgement on our lives; because they are scared to attempt anything and move forward with their goals they will be scared that if you have success you will leave them behind and forget them.

The truth is we all possess INFINITE POWER to achieve anything we desire. The infinite Possibilities program by Mike Dooley will show you exactly how to use your imagination to create whatever you truly desire. It is a powerful program that can change your life and change the lives of the ones you love. Get your hands on a program that can help you set goals and actually learn to believe that you can have them.

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Wednesday, October 17, 2007

How You Can Succeed In Life Without A High IQ

There are some human talents that just cannot be defined in terms of IQ. Good examples of such qualities are self-discipline, endurance or ambition. These capabilities, however, are often more important to a person's success in life than their intelligence and other genetic make-up.

Most of us will know of some people who we know in school who always had the best grades but ended up an utter failure in professional life, the popular athlete who somehow never stopped growing up. Or the person who was uninteresting and slow-witted in class and always had difficulties passing every subject and is now a successful manager or entrepreneur living in a big house.

We have all come across people who were genuinely successful in their social life, with a happy marriage, bright and confident children and a wide circle of friends - even though they were not the most intelligent students in school. Why is this the case?

Michael P Steinberg, an expert in human intelligence who has been studying the relation of intelligence and success in life, tells the story of 2 good friends lost in the woods. One is highly intelligent and getting good grades in school. The other boy is not so intelligent and his teachers find nothing impressive about him. He does however have very good common sense and is street smart. As they both wander in the forest, they find themselves face with a dangerous predicament, a hungry and angry grizzly bear not too far off. The first boy whips out his calculator, quickly judges the distance and says, "Based on the known speed of the grizzly and how fast we can run, we'll be "bear food" in 23 seconds". The second boy bends down and tightens his shoes laces, looks up, grins and says, "What do you mean WE? All I have to do is run faster than you !"

The first boy may have used his book knowledge and quickly got to the bottom of their problem, but his analysis did not bring him far. The second boy however, had a good grasp of the situation, was able to think out of the box and find a creative solution for his survival. Successful entrepreneurs or managers often find themselves in new and unknown territory that need creative problem solving skills. Such talents are inborn but can be trained. Using experiences and knowledge that we have in our minds and information that has been perceived by our senses, we can often find adaptable solutions to our problems. Such talents make the human race a hardy and adaptable specie that has ensured our survival in untold calamities throughout our existence on earth.

Knowledge can indeed by useful but it is the application of knowledge that makes it powerful. Often knowledge is gleaned from our experience in life, stored away in the recesses of our memory, to be retrieved for our use. Our experience than compares the knowledge against our past success or failures and it is our creativity that shapes our destiny. Our early ancestors may have been cut by a sharp stone. Such an experience, together with his creative intelligence help him conjure up a weapon, a spear or arrow made up of a sharp stone splinter secured at the end of a stick. Through trials and errors in launching his new weapon, our ancient hunter eventually finds his aim and becomes a formidable predator.

So if you were never at the top of your class, fret not. Exercise some imagination and ingenuity. Use your life experiences and memory to think of a creative solution to a problem. You may yet give birth to a million-dollar idea

About the Author

Martin Mak is a memory expert who helps people to enhance their memory and learning experience. Find out how you can benefit from his popular free ecourse at =>


Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Antidote for Depression

When your inner self is left vulnerable to the whims of your fertile imagination, trouble will likely ensue. Your mind will remain in control only to the degree that you are unable to separate from its images and be inner directed instead.

Whenever depression begins to get a grip on you, it is imperative that you sit still and calm your mind. From this point of stillness, watch the myriad of images and thoughts pass by the field of vision of your mind's eye.

Thoughts of worthlessness, insecurities, past failures, regrets and resentments will emerge. Watch these troubles objectively, as if sitting on the river's edge watching a leaf being carried downstream. You remain outside of and separate from the river, watching but unaffected by its swift current. In the same fashion, stay separate from the often powerful stream of negative thoughts and images that flow by your inner vision.

Stay out of this current while remaining ever watchful and respectful of its force, but never resenting what you may see. Resentment binds one to the thought or image.

By detaching from these negative thoughts and dispassionately viewing them, you will be released from their further control. Do not struggle with these thoughts. Diligently remain separate and objective and the depression shall lift.

Particularly note those negative thoughts and images which are repetitive. Choose to refuse to allow these habitual thoughts to continue to have impact on your day to day activities any longer.

Realize this potentially life altering truth. This choice is yours to make. Realize the power only you possess to choose which thoughts you will allow to permeate your being and shape your reality. Realize that the thoughts you hold from moment to moment, shape your experience and ultimately your destiny.

Truly realize this and take action now!

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Monday, October 15, 2007

Building Your Coaching Business -- People Buy From Those They Know, Like and Trust

Here is something that could make a huge difference in whether you succeed at coaching, and by how much. There are some gold nuggets here that will either make your coaching business, or make it one of only 1% that reach over $100K.

Reduce Your Prospect's Risk

There is a difference between marketing and selling a low cost product or service, and selling what most coaches market and sell. If you are selling a $10 item, the risk is low, and it is easier for your buyer to take $10 out of his pocket. However, when it comes to marketing and selling higher end products, such as coaching, the buyer won't just pull that out of his pocket without knowing more about you, finding if he likes what you say and your approach, and learning to trust you first.

So, how does that happen?

Let me ask you some questions:

Based on whatever you've done to market or sell your business up until this point,
What percentage of every touch results in your prospect actually asking for the next step?
Is it 20% to 70%?
Do you get even 5%, 1%?
No? Not surprising when over 90% of all coaches fail within months, and most never make more than $20K.
Then seriously consider what I am about to tell you because when you use the approach with an understanding of what your prospect really wants, I've seen it regularly deliver in the 20% to 70% range.

Consider that the national average for most marketing ranges between 0.5% to 1% and good cold one-touch marketing can hit 5% to 10%, yet once you help your prospect to get to know you, like you, and trust you, then it is possible to get to 20% to 70% of a very targeted audience.

Go For The Throat Sales & Marketing vs Relationship Marketing

Most coaches "go for the throat" in sales, meaning that on the first touch they are "trying to sell" rather than building the relationship so that the ones they are touching get to "know, like, and trust" you. The typical result is an abysmally low marketing and sales success number.

I hear a few coaches out there saying, "We don't go for the throat. We don't aggressively sell. We do dig for what the prospect wants." But then you still "go for the sale" outright. I'll give you this, if you follow that process you should be getting 5% or so for your marketing returns and that is probably higher than 90% of all coaches out there. Great! But, once you get what I'm about to say, 20% to 70% is possible.

So, when you attempt any kind of marketing what is your current response rate? Do you get 1 out of 100, 5 out of 100, 50 out of 100, or anywhere near those figures?

Here are a some approaches that do work, and they are pretty similar.

How are they similar. They both are built around

  • Understanding your target audience's biggest pain, and desires.
  • Sending out information that actually shows them how to resolve that pain, and telling stories about others that had that very pain and removed it by doing [fill in the blank].
In short, give away a concept that can help your prospects. Give them a taste of what it might be like. You are not telling what YOU do step by step, you are only giving a hint or tip that has helped other clients and the value they got. The value is how much they benefited, how much their business grew, or for you life coaches, how much better their life is (the more measurable the better).

I always hear coaches grumble when I say "give it away." Many will say, "If I give it away then they don't need me and don't buy." Then, indeed, you gave away the farm. I've found, however, that you give enough of an idea that they do see that you have some answers, and then you help them discover that the last client [doubled his business, increased by $100K, $500K, or whatever]. And, then tell the story of a client or two that experienced the same pain as your current prospect, and how much he gained. That's all.

So, that's the overview. How might we do that. Here are some ways to "give it away" while helping your prospect to "get to know you, like you, and trust you."

  • Article Marketing On The Internet -- Write several articles a week around the concept above. Have a call to action at the end of the article that takes them to a single page that asks them to sign up for, an email series, an e-book, newsletter, etc. Those continue the "get to know you, like you, and trust you." A good target is 40-60% of those that land on that page ask for more.
  • Article Marketing Direct - Send letters directly to your target market introducing yourself, telling them the benefit you bring, and then send a few articles to them over the next few weeks, followed by a call to ask them if that was helpful. Response rates reported to date are 20% to 70% appointment setting rates.
  • Speeches or training - get out there and give as many speeches as you can. A good rule of thumb is a speech a week to trade associations, business associations (Kiwanis, Rotary, Lions, Chambers, and many others). One speech can lead to one or more clients. Make sure that you have a follow-up system that looks like the article marketing above. Keep the "getting to know you, like you, and trust you going". Then follow your list up with a call to discuss their issues and why they asked to get to know you.
  • Networking - Once you meet in a networking event, ask them what their goals are for their business, and, it is likely you just may have an article that you published on that topic. So, ask them if they'd like to receive that article, or sign up for your list. Send them the series of articles, and follow it up with an appointment to just see if that was helpful, or if they have another problem.
NOTE: a key point here is that everything is all about them and their problem, not about your sale. All of the articles answer a problem they have and indicate that you have helped others do that. Every contact, whether in networking, or a speech, is about their problem, and not about your product, your coaching, or you making any kind of sale. It's about them, and then showing that you have the solution.

The series of articles are to "get to know you, like you, and trust you." They now have sampled your wares and WANT you.

Please keep in mind, even though we are building relationships, helping them to "get to know you, like you, and trust you" that it still does require that you ask for the close in such a way that you are still emphasizing that you are here to help, not to sell. Without that call to close you've still left the best approach in the world just setting on the table.

So, does your current marketing and sales result in

  • 1%, 5%, 10%, or anywhere near 20% to 70% of the people you touch calling you?


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Sunday, October 14, 2007

The Art of Facing the Future

By George Chingarande

To everyone living there is a hereafter. To every nation and organization there is a future. The human being's most precious possession is his life, and it is given him once to live. Thus he has one opportunity to do his life's work and finish it; one opportunity to dream and accomplish all his dreams and aspirations; one opportunity to craft his legacy and one opportunity to become all that he can become. Since this is the case it behooves him to behave prudently. Winners excel at this while the mediocre and the losers stumble. In this issue we will explore some of the traits of winners in this regard.

- Winners often take a gaze into the future
From time to time winners make time to take a gaze into the future. The winners are cognizant of the fact that not only is there a future, but the dominant winner of the future is the one who dares to dream big dreams. Not only do they dream but they also dare take the necessary big risks to actualize their dreams. The future is like a field of dreams where there is no lack. In his mind every winner must often go into the future, as a shopper goes to the supermarket and careful select what his desired future achievements, experiences and conditions should look like. He should then come back to the world of reality and plan and strategize the fastest way of getting to the future of his dreams. The winner first visits the future in his mind before he dashes into it with the rest of his physical body. The losers fly blindly like bats into the snares.

- Winners are excited about the opportunities
There are two kinds of people- that is the paranoid and the inverse paranoid. The paranoid suspects that the universe and all people are conspiring to visit him with evil. He always sees a glass as half empty. He expects things to move inexorably from bad to worse. He sows pessimism in his heart and he reaps negatives in the outer world of his life. The paranoid says in his heart, "There are two things certain in life-taxes and death." The poor fellow lives a blighted existence and achieves little. The hallmark of the loser is that he is fretful of the challenges that the future brings and he believes in fate. With his mind's eye he sees a bleak future and this is betrayed by the words of his mouth that constantly pour out a torrent of negativity.

The winner is an inverse paranoid. He believes that the universe will not leave him in his current predicament or circumstances. Instead the universe is scheming to do him good. He believes and expects his path to shine brighter and brighter till the sun dawns. The winner knows that there are two things certain about the future. These are time and opportunity, which occur to all humans in equal measure. The winner is therefore excited about his opportunities and not fretful of his challenges because he knows that in every challenge there is a hidden opportunity. The winner expects a miracle everyday.

- Winners Drive Forward
The greatest enemy of the future is the past. The greatest hindrances to future adventures are memories of past mishaps and the worst enemy of a glorious dream is nightmares from the past. Winners are masters of the art of compartmentalization. They take every episode and event in its perspective and consign it to its proper compartment. The past is not allowed to meddle with the future. If they experience a bad morning at home, they do not carry the same poisoned spirit to work. If they were abused as a child they do not allow the bitterness to spoil their adulthood. If they have a bad meeting, they do not allow the negative vibes to spill over into the next meeting. They achieve this by taking time to set clear intentions about every segment of their day and life. This is called the art of segmental intentioning.

No one can successfully navigate forwards by constantly fixing his eyes in the rear view mirror regardless of how beautiful or rugged the rear view is. Learning from and forgetting the things that lie behind the winners press forward.

- Winners have an outrageous improvement agenda

It has been estimated that the shelf life of a university degree is now 18 months, and that of a new invention is much less. Therefore, on an individual level the future belongs to the one committed to an outrageous agenda of life long learning. This does not necessarily entail an accumulation of educational certificates but it calls for a continuous development of one's latent talents and refinement of skills. On an organizational level the future belongs to the relentless innovator of both technology and services. Winners continually ask themselves the question, "How have I become better today and how can I be even better tomorrow?" Slight incremental changes will suffice for the common man because he elects to abide in commonality but the winner will choose the path of radical self-renewal and innovation. Only the one who constantly strives to become more will be relevant in the future.


Saturday, October 13, 2007

What's The Deal With Laughter?

By April Lisbon-Peoples

When you learn to incorporate laughter into your daily diet you will be able to:

• Live life with enthusiasm: When you live your life full of energy and vigor, you find less down time to mope about the small things in life. Every day brings a new sense of purpose and direction, so why not live it up to the maximum?

• Apply yourself daily: Give yourself a daily makeover of ways you can smile throughout the day. Laugh even when your boss tells a boring joke as it will make your face appear brighter and it will warm your boss's heart that you laughed at a joke that even he knew was not funny.

• Understand you are human: I know that it is difficult for many of us to realize that we are not superheroes and we will make mistake. We all have a human component within us that will err at times. Don't criticize yourself when you make a mistake as you can always change it with time. Just ask for forgiveness (if your error was towards another person) or fix the problem and keep it moving. Joy comes when you understand that you are not perfect.

• Get a routine going: Exercise those smile muscles every day. Take a minimum of 30-60 seconds daily just to laugh. Allow yourself to feel the freedom of no barriers or restraints as you let go any negative energy that may be surrounding you. Just shake it off with laughter and you will see that others will begin laughing right with you. We all need some "laughter motivation" every once and awhile.

• Have fun: I have said it once and I will say it again; it is okay to have fun. Go the movies and watch a comedy show or take a drive in the country and play "punch" buggy (for all of our VW fans) with your significant other or children. Take some time to remember what it was like not to have bills or worries and just have fun again.

Learn to exercise your freedom to laugh as it takes more muscles to frown than to smile. So if you have found yourself in a slump for a while, go outside and just laugh. It does not have to be about anything funny. Just laugh about being able to smell fresh air or smog depending on your location. You can even laugh like I do every time I pass by a gas station and watch gas prices going up every single day while my tank is only half-filled. Find something to smile about as your heart and your mind will thank you for it.

April Lisbon-Peoples is a life enhancement coach who enjoys inspiring her clients to find their life's purpose through becoming visionaries. She the founder and CEO of Running Your Race, a coaching practice designed for individuals who are ready to awaken their visions and create their destiny. April also has a strong desire to help mothers find the balance between work and family. Additionally, she also works as a school psychologist in NV.

April has written various articles focusing on elevating and motivating people, especially women to their highest potential. She aspires to help her clients live their dreams while gaining and maintaining a level of healthy success. So if you are ready to fly like the eagles and see your vision come to past, then visit her at or e-mail her at


Friday, October 12, 2007

Self-Esteem - How to Turn I'm Not Good Enough, into I'm Un-Stoppable

By Beth Banning and Neill Gibson

Do you ever worry that you're not good enough, not smart enough, or you simply don't have what it takes? Do you ever worry that this is keeping you from achieving the things you want most in your life?

According to a recent report by the Priory Group, entitled I'm Not Good Enough, millions of British women suffer from low self-esteem, which in turn adversely influences their mental health, relationships, work, and overall quality of life.

How many of these statements apply to you?

    1. I don't think I'm good enough to get the things I want.
    2. Sometimes I feel worthless.
    3. My needs don't seem to matter to other people.
    4. I worry about what other people think of me.
    5. Now and then, it seems like there's something wrong with me.
    6. I have to do everything myself. It's like I'm all alone.
    7. I'm powerless (weak, not safe, helpless).
    8. At times I can't take care of myself in challenging situations.
    9. I have no choice because...
    10. I'm unlovable (unworthy)

If more than one of these statements rings true to you, you're not alone. These limiting beliefs are one result of how we interpret unpleasant experiences from our past. However, that's not the only way we come to believe that these statements are true.

Have you ever heard someone say that one of these statements was true about you? Even though that doesn't make any of these statements "THE TRUTH", the impact of believing such a statement can have serious consequences on our self-esteem.

On the other hand, people's self-esteem has never improved just because people made positive statements about them. In fact, many who work in the field now agree that self-esteem fans tend to go overboard when they recommended that children should be praised to make them feel good, regardless of their effort or motivation.

These people seem to focus on self-esteem as a goal, rather than a by-product of one's confidence in their ability to achieve what they want for themselves. Some people describe this as "competent behavior", which is just another way of saying that your actions produce the results you want.

So how can we learn to build self-esteem, if self-esteem (or self-worth) is just a byproduct of self-confidence? The shortest path to building your sense of confidence, is to experience your actions producing the results that you want.

Unfortunately, each limiting belief that we have adopted along the way becomes an obstacle. They prevent us from investing the time and energy it takes to develop enough competency in our skills to achieve the level of confidence we need to produce the self-esteem that we desire.

The first step down the path of raising confidence consists of transforming these limiting beliefs that prevent us from developing new skills or honing the ones we have already developed. Sound impossible? Actually, transforming these beliefs may actually be easier than it seems.

To transform limiting beliefs you start by putting out the painful fire of your judgments. What are we taught to do when faced with fire? We're told to Stop, Drop and Roll. How does the Stop, Drop and Roll method apply to the transformation of our limiting beliefs? Stop and listen to the warning signals -- Drop the judgments -- Roll out a new plan.

Start with of the practice of being aware of how you feel. Use any feelings of discomfort as a warning bell. When you feel uncomfortable in any way, stop what you're doing and identify the judgmental thoughts in your head. Write them down while you're thinking of them or as soon as you can get to a pen and paper.

The only way to drop your judgments is to start translating them into the truth of what's important to you. Once you identify the uncomfortable judgmental thoughts, it's time to figure out the values you hold dear that are buried within those judgments.

For example, "I'm not good enough to get the things I want" might be translated into the important values of accomplishment, effectiveness or even a deep desire to contribute. Now try saying that to yourself, "I deeply value accomplishment." Can you feel the difference?

Once the painful fire is out and you are clear about what's most important to you, it's time to roll out a new plan. Identify at least two actions you can take that will support you in creating the things that you value.

Once you've mastered the Stop, Drop and Roll technique, you're well on your way to building your self-confidence and re-energizing your self-esteem. If you'd like to learn even more personal growth skills that can be used to build your self-confidence, sign up for our free motivational Weekly Action Tips eMail series at:

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Thursday, October 11, 2007

The Should Have Been Phenomenon

By George Chingarande

Today I bring you the story of the ill-fated prince. His name was Nacirfa. He was the beloved son of the King of Eldora do and he was destined to inherit his own kingdom, the kingdom of Desiderata, which when transliterated meant the land of the desired things. One day the king went on a journey to a foreign land with his son. As was his custom he carried with him a briefcase in which was the title deed bequeathing on Nacirfa the rights to both kingdoms. As fate would have it the king died and left the son with nothing but the briefcase and in the hands of strangers who soon made him a slave. Thus he grew up as a slave of slaves. His only possession was the briefcase, but unfortunately he knew not how to open it because he did not have the combination required to unlock the key of the briefcase.

He labored day and night for his hard task master, and in the few spare moments that he sometimes got he would engage in low stakes games with other slaves. He would walk bare footed while the more privileged rode on horse- back. He would look down and despise himself for his state, and wish he could be a prince. After being sold from one master to another he eventually found himself laboring as a servant in the king's palace. There he would envy the king's household who had more than heart could wish for, while he lived in abject poverty. One cold winter night the prince froze to death. In the morning the King forcefully opened the late prince's briefcase and found the title deeds. It was then that he discovered that the slave was the lost prince for whom he had been standing in while the kingdom awaited his return. He commanded that an epitaph be erected on his grave and it read thus:

Here lies "THE SHOULD HAVE BEEN". For this man should have been crowned a king but was buried as a slave; He was a master but he lived as a servant.
He should have been a champion, but he existed as a victim
He should have been rich, but lived in poverty.
He should have fed on the choicest food but he settled for cramps. He should have been our hero, but he died a zero.
He should have been our ruler but he lived among us as a stranger, a foreigner and a sojourner in his own kingdom.
Above all he should have had a glorious life, but his life was smeared by shame.

It is not my intention to present a thesis on the prince who should have been and how he should have escaped from the shame of a timid existence. I will leave that to others. However, I can not help but think that our creator has bequeathed each one of us with a kingdom that we must possess before we check out of this life. I can not help but find myself asking, "How many people out there are misusing their lives like the prince?" There was no one who was born to be a failure and a non entity. We were all born to be winners. From the prince's story we can draw some important lessons. I will hasten to present some of them below.

The greatest lesson from the prince's story is that knowledge, especially knowledge of who you really are, regulates behavior. It is our behavior and patterns of action that determines our destiny. Ultimately the prince perished because of his ignorance of who he was. So who are you? What are you capable of becoming? Has it ever occurred to you that buried deep down in your bosom is a treasure worthy much more than the prince's lost heritage? Perhaps you are living on cramps when yours is the choicest food. Life imposes an assignment on us to discover for ourselves who we really are. Lance Armstrong is famed for winning the Tour de France for a record seven times, which is a great achievement by every standard. However, it is said that he took up the sport more seriously as a way of fighting cancer that was threatening his life. Prior to that he did not know that he was a sporting champion, and without that scare he could have died as a champion that should have been.

This is the great mystery. Each one of us, the winner and the loser alike, has unlimited potential. The magic is that no one will ever be able to discover the end to human potential. Even expertism is a myth. You may fool yourself by thinking that you are expert doctor, lawyer, sculptor, musician, scientist or author. If you are wise you will know that you are just beginning. There is so much to learn and you can become far better than you are today.

The tragedy is that like the prince we are not limited by what we are, but we are limited by what we think we are not. We are not hindered by what we have, but we are hindered by what we think we do not have. Some people think that they are not geniuses, and this regulates their behaviors and limits them. Some believe mistakenly that they do not have talent or whatever it takes to achieve great things and this too hinders them. We all grossly undervalue ourselves. Like the prince we envy others and wish for more, when all it takes is for us to perform to our full potential.

It is by consistently setting high standards for themselves, reaching out for more and stretching themselves that the winners achieve peak performance. Without applying ourselves boldly and diligently like Lance Armstrong, we risk perishing with our potential trapped inside us like the prince who should have been.

Remove Failure As an Option

By George Chingarande

The human mind is like a faithful and just garden that produces fruit in and out of season. It does not segregate, show favoritism or partiality to any seed. The human being is the master gardener. If a seed of greatness and success is sown into the garden it will yield a harvest to the gardener in proportion to the quantity and quality of seed sown. The same is true for the seed of failure. Success is a fruit, and so is failure. Success comes from the success mindset, and failure from the failure mindset. In order to comprehend the success mindset, we will begin by examining the failure mindset and work from the negative to the positive.

A failure mindset produces nothing else but failure. Regrettably it is so pervasive in today's society that many people accept it as the norm. Men and women internalize it, while children are cultured into it. A mindset of failure is best understood through the language of failure. Today's parlance is replete with expressions and metaphors that betray a deeply ingrained mindset of failure. Here are a few examples.

• You win some and you Lose some.

The person who believes in this saying is conditioned and cultured to expect to fail sometimes. At the root of this saying is the belief that with every effort there is a probability of failure. This is a presumption for one's own failure. This person has not mastered one of the cardinal rules of success which simply reads, "Remove failure as an option."

The perfect anti-thesis of this mindset is the success presumption which says, "In whatever I do I will succeed.' This statement represents a very significant departure from ordinary thinking. The average person believes that some of his endeavors will succeed, and some of his endeavors shall fail. This is a self-limiting belief that is at the root of many a failure. The great achievers believe that in whatever they set out to do they will succeed. They begin everything with the idea that they will succeed; as a result they are prepared to put their hands firmly on the task until the final victory. They are persuaded that they will succeed eventually, therefore any set backs are interpreted as temporary inconveniences.

At this juncture let us pause a little and ask a question. What things would you attempt to do or become if you were assured that you would not fail?

Would you not attempt to be what you have always aspired to be? Would you not attempt to be the prime minister or go to space, or start your own business, or expand your existing business? Would you not attempt to change careers? Would you not attempt to be a billionaire? The possibilities are limitless. The only limits that exist are in your mind, and these exist and serve at your pleasure. You can cast away your self-imposed limits if you so desire. Yes, you can succeed in whatever you do. This column exists to exhort you to do precisely that by telling you that winners remove failure as an option. They burn the bridges and do not allow themselves to visualize the penalties of failure. They focus on visualizing the rewards of success.

• It cannot be done.

This is the elegy of the failures and the most commonly told lie. Anything can be done if you dedicate yourself to the process. If you can dream it, the fact that you can dream it means that you can bring it into being. If you can conceive it, then you can give birth to it. The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you can not do. The world is full of things that people said could not be done. If it has not been done yet, it does not mean that it cannot be done. It does mean that no one has done it yet and you have an opportunity to be the first to accomplish it. Seize that opportunity and make the best of it. There is always a great reward for the first mover and the pioneer. There can only be one pioneer. If it has never been done before, you are therefore privileged in that you have a unique opportunity to make history. There was a time when it was said; it was impossible to run the mile in under five minutes and flying across the ocean was inconceivable. There was a time when going into space was an impossible dream. Many poor souls labored and died under these illusions. Of course we now know that it was always possible. The impossible is often the un-attempted. Remove failure as an option and go for broke.


Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Teen Panic Disorders

By Giri Anantha

Teen panic disorders can be pure hell. The teen years can be turbulent as it is without the added burden of a panic disorder. Teen years are a bad time to get panic attacks. This is a time they want to be free to express themselves, enjoy life, perhaps even be a little bad. They want to be outgoing and be with friends and have no responsibilities. When a teen goes through a panic attack and it develops into a panic disorder, life can be misery. There's also a chance agoraphobia can develop.

Panic Strikes Frequently In The Teen Years

Many, many people who have struggled for years with this disorder recall experiencing it initially in their teens. It's common for panic to strike during teen years. Because it's hard to predict when it will next strike, it can be agony, feeling as if there's a bomb about to explode. Panic attacks are extremely frightening.

Agoraphobia Can Develop

It's estimated that 1 in 3 people with panic disorders will develop agoraphobia. For a teen to have both panic and agoraphobia is like cutting off a bird's wings. Having all of this hit you at any stage in your life is incredibly difficult, but in the teen years, it must be torture. Friends may call to say they're going out, but the suffering teen might not go.

Instead, they stay home and feel miserable. Going out is no longer easy or fun. They may feel depressed. Friends won't understand either. They don't see what the "big deal" is anyway. But it is indeed a big deal. It's difficult to have enjoyment. No one understands how real and difficult it is. It's time to get help, preferably before agoraphobia rears its ugly head.

Treatment Works

There are so many good methods to treat teen panic disorders. Cognitive behavioral therapy and drugs work. Alternative therapies work. However, the teen has to work too.

Getting well, no matter what form of treatment you choose, requires your input. You will eventually make great strides and feel so much better, something you thought was never possible. There are other choices as well. You may need to find what method you prefer and experiment to find what works best for you. Be patient, you will improve!