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Sunday, September 30, 2007

Business Unusual - Going Beyond The Ordinary

By George Chingarande

If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven played music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well. (Martin Luther King Jr)

Erik Weihenmayer is undoubtedly a famous and successful man. He has a series of stellar achievements under his belt. In May 2000 he successful climbed to the top of Mt Everest. On September 5, 2002 he became one of only a few people to reach the top of all the Seven Summits (the highest peaks on each of the seven continents) when he reached the top of Mt Kosciusko in Australia. He has been featured on the front cover of reputed magazines such Time, and Outside and Climbing. He has been a guest on popular television shows such as The Oprah Winfrey Show, NBC's Today, Tonight Show, and Night News with Tom Brokaw. He is also author of the successful book Touch the top of the World. That is remarkable by any standard, but even more remarkable is that he is blind. He lost his sight at the age of 13. Hence, when he climbed the Seven Summits, he made history by becoming the first handicapped person to do so.

It is not my intention to dwell on the folly of accepting, nursing and nurturing excuses in this installment, however so early I choose not to resist the temptation to declare that there is no can't. Anything can be accomplished by any person who dedicates him/herself to the task this year. Suffice it to say that blindness and all other obstacles, physical or otherwise, may tower in a person's path but they can neither define, nor stop, nor confine nor relegate that person to a place of failure or poverty without that person's permission. Where one will be at the end of this year has little to do with the obstacles or difficulties that now stand in the way. Obstacles present opportunities for greatness. In a free world one can become as great as he decides to be and works for.

The focus today is on what we shall call business unusual. Like will always attract like, and a seed will always produce fruit after its kind. An orange seed will always yield oranges. In the same manner a superlative approach will yield super results, but shoddiness and carelessness give birth to poor quality. It matters what you bring into 2007 and into the arena of life. You have probably set goals and made resolutions already, but what mentality did you bring to bear on the process? A winning mentality will produce victory but an underdog mentality will surely produce failure and defeat. Likewise a handicap mentality will whisper to you that you are a dwarf, only a small rural priest in the game of cardinals and popes therefore undeserving of the cream of life. The size of a person's resolutions and goals for 2007 is not a reflection or measure of that person's ability or potential but an indication of who he thinks he is not. If you think you are not a champion you will not set goals like a champion and you will not act like a champion. Instead by your thoughts and actions, you will confine and relegate yourself to smallness.

Winners think and act like champions and losers think and act like losers, and this begins at the stage of resolutions and ambitions. There is a rowdy dwarf and a gentle giant inside each one of us. The impudent midget always shouts at us and declares, "This far shall you go in life and no farther. There is a river that cannot be bridged in front and for that matter there is also a scary lion in the path ahead." The gentle giant prods us gently and encourages us saying, "There is much more to achieve why are you settling for little? Why are you too willing to die before you are fully born? What does it benefit the world for one more tulip to whither before it blooms?" The truth is that for every tulip, and for everyone there comes that day when the risk to remain shut up in the bud becomes greater than the risk to bloom. I believe 2007 is that year. The voice that each of us listens to, encourages and promotes especially at the moment that we set our agendas is what will determine what the future will be. Winners wrestle the small dwarf to the ground and take the counsel of the gentle giant. They defy, like Erik, their handicaps.

Each one of us has handicaps. Erik's is blindness. For others it is physical disability but for some it is an inferiority complex or poor self esteem. To some it is poverty and lack of capital or formal education or a seemingly lowly and unrewarding career. What is important is not the label given to your handicap but how you respond to it. And respond you must.

If your complaint is that your career is too lowly, I put it to you that Erik did not achieve fame by excelling at rocket science but at a lowly thing such as walking up the mountains. Ronaldino did not become a millionaire by discovering the secrets of atomic physics, but by perfecting the art of kicking that inflated animal skin that they call a football. Winners are ordinary people who do common things in an uncommon way. They are common people who learn to do common things so extraordinarily well that none can improve on them, and by so doing they make their services indispensable. They go beyond the ordinary. They understand that thoroughness and exactitude in little matters is the very soul and heart of excellence. They understand that merit, no matter under what skin color or gender or nationality found, will in the long run attract recognition and reward.

Mantra of the week:
Winners are ordinary people who dare to do extraordinary feats, and common people who do common assignments in an uncommon manner.

Tip of the Week:
Do your work so well that the heavens will say this is tr4ully the work of a great master. Go beyond the ordinary.


Saturday, September 29, 2007

Never Give Up - Relentless Forward Motion

By George Chingarande

It has been said that to reach our destination we must sail, sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it, but we must sail and not lie at anchor. This is a universal truth that needs no seasoning. However, it begs a very important question. The big question is what is your desired destination; financially, professionally, materially, spiritually, physically and even politically? Do you intend to live and die a non entity in abject poverty and oblivion or do you desire a place in the glorious sunshine? Where you are today need not be your final destination.

For many centuries humanity has labored under the burden of one simple question-What is the formula for success? Study after study has been done. Successful persons, events and campaigns from very diverse sources have been dissected and thoroughly analyzed. While the proverbial jury is still out with the verdict, a compelling argument in support of four factors is on the ascendancy. These critical factors are dreams, desires, determination and action.

Winners Have Goals, but Losers Have Illusions

Winners in life have a very clear sense of purpose and direction. They have a predetermined destination they are working towards. Like Martin Luther King jnr, they believe in dreams, and dare say without equivocation what that dream is. As James Allen put it, "The greatest achievement was at first and for a time only a dream." There are three aspects of that dream that merit further attention. Firstly, the dream is held at a conscious level. It is therefore not merely a dream about a pie in the sky, but a compelling vision of the future. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, the future belongs to those that have dreams.

Secondly, there is a realization that no one has eternity to accomplish his dreams. This brings an awareness of passing time and a sense of urgency. In the most instructive of examples, the great achievers even have a hundred hour agenda, which is a catalogue of goals and tasks they aim to achieve in a hundred hour outlook period. The major difference between a winner's dream and a loser's dream is that the winner sets a specific timeline for his dream, and the loser has none. A dream with a timeline ceases to be a dream and becomes a goal, but sooner rather than later a dream without a timeline ceases to be a dream and becomes an illusion.

Winners therefore have goals but losers have illusions. Thirdly, the winner's dream is described succinctly in words and in pictures, on actual paper and also on the canvas of his mind. It is not uncommon to find a winner with a card in his pocket bearing a description of his ambitions, dreams and desires. They consciously keep their goals within their sights. The losers are totally bankrupt when it comes to goal reminder strategies. The funny thing about life is that those that have no goals will always make room for the purposeful people to pass. Observe how, when just before the bank closes the idle loitering in the way always make room for the purposeful rushing for the bank to pass.

Winners Don't Quit, and Quitters Don't Win

The winners are distinguished by their burning desire to win. They put emotion into their goals. They pursue their ambitions with passion and panache. They crave for success like deer panting after brooks of water, and not once do they allow this zeal and desire to dessert them. They have an insatiable success libido which is the source of their staying power and a zeal for their cause always consumes them. To their zeal, they add grit and determination. It is not just the content of the dream that separates the winner from the rest of the pack, but the passion and the dogged never-say-die sheer determination with which that dream is pursued is even more important. The losers only have tepid wishes and lukewarm ambitions.

All human beings are wired to succeed, and engineered to win. However, they differ markedly in the degree to which they are prepared to exert themselves in pursuit of their dreams. This is largely a matter of choice. Under trying circumstances which are, by the way, a fact of life losers trade their dreams for comfort and convenience. Winners never quit, and quitters never win. It is that simple.

Finally, the winners never lie at anchor. They are aware that vision without action is only a pipedream, and action without vision just passes time. Armed with this knowledge, the winners daily unleash a blitz of massive actions strategically linked and aligned to their dreams. They do not procrastinate but they take action in the now fully aware that tomorrow may never be. They keep knocking and prodding for opportunities. They also keep walking and motoring towards their desired destinations. Some prefer to call this a bias for action, but I elect to call it the spirit of relentless forward motion. In the history of mankind no worthwhile agenda was ever advanced by inaction.

Whatever your calling in life let me urge you to banish the lethargy and malaise that easily besets us all, and pursue your dream with relentless forward motion. Keep Walking and never lie at anchor. The world is controlled by those that show up in the field of action.

The author is a motivational speaker, management consultant, and author of the best selling book: Rebound the winning mantra.

The Winning Distinction

By George Chingarande

In the entire history of mankind no one has ever been, and will ever be exempted from the challenges of life. There has never been, and probably will never be a hero in the absence of adversity. In fact, it has been argued that the true measure of greatness is not necessarily the size of one's accomplishments, but greatness is to be measured by the size of the obstacles that one surmounts on the way to achievement. It is also equally important to point out early that no one has ever been and will ever be disqualified from the success race. The race will always be open to all and the rewards will always be within the grasp of all. Adversity is what sifts and separates the chaff from the true seed, and the winners from the losers. The winners, the losers and the pretenders and impostors are all revealed on the day of adversity.

What makes the distinction between people and especially between the winners and the losers is how they fare in the face of adversity. The distinction in the day of adversity comes not from the strength of one's muscle or physical prowess. The winning distinction is found in the mindset with which one faces the challenges of life. The winners have a big game mentality. They thrive and flourish when the odds are greatest, and when the tide is against them. The losers on the other hand shrink in the day of adversity.

The winners is identified because of certain empowering attitudes that he has towards adversity and set backs. It is not feasible to discuss all of them exhaustively in a space small as this, hence only a few are explored below.

Winners view adversity and failure is an opportunity. They deliberately seek out the opportunity that is contained in adversity. In many cases, it is an opportunity to learn and to grow.Yes, set backs sometimes does slow people down and disappoint. However, with every disappointment there is an appointment. With every failure there is a unique opportunity to solve a problem. The winners have an attitude that says, "It is never over until it is over." Losers on the hand die before they take their last breath. They give up too quickly and too easily. When all the money, the friends, and the support system are gone, winners are cognizant of the fact that they still have the next minute. This is very important because as long as you still have the next minute available to you then all is not lost. The next available minute is important to each one of us because if we choose to, we can permanently alter the circumstances of our lives in the next minute. We can begin in the next minute to right what is wrong in our lives, and to sow the seeds of a glorious future.

The winners are not overly discouraged by today's harvest because they understand that today's harvest is determined by the seeds of actions sown in the past. Winners therefore define a good day not by how much they have earned on that day, but by how much good seed they have planted towards a future harvest. Even in difficult times they have a vision for the future and keep pressing towards it. This is an investor mindset. The losers have their eyes strained on what can be consumed now. They define a good day by how much they have enjoyed themselves without paying due regard to the possible future repercussions of their actions. They are ignorant of the great law of the universe to which we all bow, which says," Play now and pay later or Pay now and play later." In their youth the losers over play, but they pay for this in their retirement when they realize that their retirement is a ticket to poverty and indigence. The winners from time to time choose to forgo certain luxuries while they build the foundations for a more solid future. The winners are visionary but the losers are myopic. The losers are like the proverbial foolish farmer who roasts all his corn seed forgetting that the time to plant shall come. While this may be laughable many people are in exactly the same trap. They are busy consuming what should be investment for the future, busy sitting on their laurels when they could be using the time to groom themselves for future opportunities.

Winners recognize that the endings of today are the beginnings of tomorrow. With this in mind daily they strive to end on a great note. When adversity strikes they do not run away from it, but they engage it knowing that tomorrow will start where they left off yesterday. If they run away from adversity then when the sun rises on the following day, they will still be on the run and no closer to solution and respite.


Friday, September 28, 2007

The Language Of Failures

By George Chingarande

There is a language that is peculiar to every group of people. This language is a unique and integral part of their identity. The English have the English language; the Africans have a variety of Bantu languages, the Maoris have theirs and the same is true for every tribe. Language is important because it helps us communicate with one another, and achieve an overlap in our understanding of issues. This is shared communication which is the bedrock of dialogue. However, the most important communication you will ever have in your life is not a dialogue but a monologue. This is the conversation that you hold with yourself. The truth is that each one of us and every waking moment of our lives we have running commentaries on our minds. We are continuously speaking to ourselves; and our conversations with ourselves are made up of a collection of words and phrases that form our own unique language. There are words and phrases that are commonly used by winners in their monologues and sometimes also in their dialogues. This is the language of winners. Similarly failures have their language. Phrases like, you win some and lose some; it can not be done, and I will try are recurring phrases in a loser's language that we explored in the last issue. Today we explore a few more, the import being that the language with which you speak to yourself is a very important sculptor of your destiny. Losers lose partly because they misfire in their monologues.

It is too late

One of the hallmarks of a mindset of failure is found in the expression, "it is too late." The old believe that it is too late to change the courses of their lives. The middle-aged man trailing behind his peers believes that it is too late to catch up. Many people believe that it is too late to restart and pursue their original dream. Once one believes that it is too late, he is automatically discouraged from making the necessary effort. Too late is always an excuse for not beginning because beginning is then judged as a waste of time and effort. "Too Late" assumes that no effort no matter how heroic can produce the desired results. It is another way of saying that it is impossible and it cannot be done.

Many people unwittingly mistake late for never. It is better to achieve a million late in life than never. It is better to die having achieved your dream late in life than to die having not tried to reach your ideal. It is better to settle out of court on the eleventh hour than to suffer the ignominy of an embarrassing litigation. It is better to do a u-turn late than to continue along the line of destruction. It is always better late than never. Life has many variables. Time is one them, yes, but not the only one. Who knows whether the other variables will not conspire to give you the victory?

Well, you believe that it is too late but give me an opportunity to ask you a few questions. Do you know what twists and turns hide behind the corner? Do you know what tomorrow will bring? How many deadlines are extended everyday? How many front-runners have changed tack leaving the late starters with a chance they never countenanced?

The truth is that most people that say that it is too late fear that by entering the race they will be conspicuous by their presence. The seventy year old who decides to go to medical school will certainly be conspicuous by his presence in a class with a preponderance of young people. However, if he persists on graduation day he will become the purple ice flake- the ultimate distinguished achiever. It is never too late to become what you want to become in life. No excuse not even time nor age should deter you from achieving your goals.

• I am just an ordinary person.

The words that we use to describe ourselves to ourselves are very important. They are a representation of an image of ourselves that we secretly harbor in our minds. This picture that we hold of ourselves determines what we do and how we do it. The average person thinks he is just a person and thereby relegates himself to the league of the mediocre. The word just and its various translations are very common in most languages. When used with the first person it betrays low self-esteem and false humility. Many people engage in self-deprecatory attitudes by assuming that they are just ordinary people and no more. Those that call themselves just ordinary see themselves as belonging to a class of human beings that is slightly above 50% in capability. Consequently their lives hover around the mediocre. They also disqualify themselves from most excellent opportunities. Their expectations are often small. Since expectations help to shape behavior, they behave in ways that repel success and attract failure.

The winner knows that there is no ordinary individual. All individuals are unique. The winner therefore sees himself as the special one and constantly engages in monologues that reinforce this self- image. Other people may not agree with him, but what matters most is the opinion that he has about himself and his abilities. The one who describes himself as the Iron Duke will seek to behave as an iron duke in real life. The one who describes himself as useless will show signs of impotence in all his endeavors, and the special one will also produce special results. The fact is that we intimidate or encourage ourselves more than any situation will ever intimidate or encourage us. Jose Mourinho was derided for calling himself "The Special One" when took over as coach of Chelsea football club, but after three years in charge he has broken all records and has indeed proved to be the special one.

Take heed how you speak to yourself. The language of failures produces failures. THE LANGUAGE OF FAILURES 2

A mindset of failure is the arch nemesis of success. Confucius was once asked what he would do if he were the ruler of the world. His response was, "I would first change the language." He was spot on the mark. One of the proven panaceas to failure is to change one's language from that of failure to that of success. Language coupled with strong belief has great power. Perhaps one of the greatest illustrations of the transformational potency of language is that of Swiss doctor Emile Coue. In 1895 in Geneva, Switzerland, Dr Coue's clinic was recording recovery rates way beyond any other clinic. His methods were as unique as they were simple. He taught his patients to confess everyday that, "Every day and in every way, I am feeling better and better." He also taught his associates and all his staff to greet the patients every day by saying, "Every day and in every way you are looking better and better." The language and beliefs of the patients and their doctors, in this example, was instrumental in reversing failing physiology. Of course, it would be naïve to attribute the superior recovery rates solely to the confessions and discount the contribution of other agents.

However, the transformational; power of language is not confined to physiology only, it so pervasive as to reach out to every man's condition and circumstance. It is important to be aware of the language and vocabulary of your own life, and to consciously remodel it replacing negativity with positivity, and pessimism with optimism. In this installment we continue to explore some of the phrases in contemporary language that betray a failure mindset. The objective is to identify them and then erase them from your deeply held beliefs.

I Haven't Got A Chance On Earth

It is very common to hear people say that they do not have a chance on earth of succeeding. Sometimes they even go beyond and declare that other people do no have a chance. Of course, they are often proved wrong. When George Stevenson completed his work on the steam engine, it is said that his sister laughed and said that it had no chance of moving. However, when it started moving, she screamed and said it would not stop. Of course, it stopped.

What then is the truth? Everyday is like a fresh and blank page in a diary on it you have the opportunity to begin the magnificent story of a glorious life or continue the dirge of a dreary existence. Every minute, every meeting and every interaction represents an opportunity. There are no small moments in life, but often great moments pass unnoticed by the unsuspecting majority. Winners seize their opportunities and make the best of them. However, losers because of their obsession with the negative will not notice their opportunities even if they come wearing a red suit and a green hat. The simple truth is that those that seek the positive will find it in every situation and those who seek the negative will also find it. Don't you ever deceive yourself, or let anyone deceive you. Time and opportunity occur to all men. The fact that you are alive is enough evidence that you have got a chance. You have got a chance to succeed. You have got a chance to recover from the setbacks. You have got a chance to upset the formbook and tear it to shreds and in the process prove the skeptics wrong. It is achievable and you have got a chance on earth to achieve it.

It's Not What You Know, But Who You Know.

This is another example of classic failure language. By accepting this thought and this saying, you are abdicating your throne to another. Implicitly you are pronouncing that your success does not depend on you, but it is determined by the people that you know. If the people that you know are inadequate and confounded then you are also doomed. Nothing can be further from the truth.

It is important, desirable and advisable to have an efficient nexus of friends, colleagues and associates. Life is rarely a solo flight. Having said that let me hasten to underline that in your own journey to success you are the most important role player. You know yourself, so if it depends on whom you know you already know the most important role player. Ultimately man is a creator and author of his own fortunes and misfortunes. No one can put him down the gutter without his co-operation and none can install him on the pedestal of glory without his consent.

There Is No Way Out.

Yes, there is a way out of every predicament. Where there is a will, there is a way. There is a way out of the rut. There is a way out of the oblivion. There is a way out of trouble and the doldrums. There is a way out of debt and poverty. Your responsibility is to find that way. It is there already. If you seek it and dedicate yourself to the process with all your heart you will find it.

The first step is to believe that there is a way. Armed with this correct presumption, set out and find it. The universe makes a way where people say there is no way. The lazy and the failing believe that there is no way, but don't you ever buy their lie. For every man who will seek, there shall be a way. There is a way to the top. When you come to your wits' end, rest if you may but do not quit because there is a way. This week take time to sketch a road map to your desired goal, and begin moving confidently towards it.


Thursday, September 27, 2007

Sea Change or Career Change - Stepping off the Hamster Wheel

You have lived the life: Adrenalin-charged meetings, exhilarating presentations and major business deals signed on the dotted line – but also senseless re-briefings, over-cautious clients and business partners, bitter managers and frustrated colleagues. And let's not even talk about the overtime.

It was great while it lasted (most of the time, anyway), but now the spark is gone. You know it is time for YOU to finally hop off the hamster wheel and start something new!

Deciding to make a major change in your career in seldom easy. In these economically instable times most people are consciously putting their life's dreams on the back burner in exchange for the steady income they receive at the end of each pay period.

Some people, however, still reach that point in their career where they simply know they need to do something different. Although this realization can be extremely liberating, it seldom comes without some sense of apprehension, confusion and uncertainty.

If you are in the midst of this crucial decision-making process, here are some of the essential questions you should ask yourself as you begin to map out what YOU want your new career to look like:

  1. Passion: What are you passionate about? Ask yourself what specific career move would enable you to apply your talents, skills, and abilities in a way that would not only positively challenge you, but also allow you to add maximum value to whatever professional situation you are in.
  2. Sea change or career change: How deep does your dissatisfaction run? Do you really need to change your entire career - or just your job? Ask yourself whether you can possibly re-invent yourself within your current company or if you need a whole new backdrop for the next stage in your career.
  3. What is your measuring stick for success: Forgot about what others expect of you! What do YOU need to feel your work is both meaningful and rewarding? Ask yourself what symbolizes success for you - and what it will take in your new career to make you feel as though you have achieved those goals.
  4. How much time do you have to succeed: What is a reasonable amount of time to allow yourself to reach that milestone that let's you know you've made it? Develop a timeline, so you know how long you have to prove yourself. To yourself.
  5. Bankroll: How are you going to continue paying the bills? Ask yourself if you will need an additional source of income during your transition period. If so, where will is come from? Don't forget: Plan B.
  6. Kith & Kin: Will your friends and family rally around and cheer you on as you work towards your new goals? Or will they be doubtful, maybe even try to dissuade you from doing anything (they feel is) too radical? Ask yourself how much support you can realistically expect from the people around you - and how that may influence your perserverance.
  7. Contacts? Contacts! Who do you know who has been in a similar position? Who do you know who has knowledge about the field you would like to enter? Who do you know who can refer you to a prospective employer - or future client? Ask yourself what resources you have on your personal and professional contact list.
  8. Stepping out on faith: Whether at the end of your decision-making process you decide to apply for a new job or begin an entirely new career, there are no guarantees. Ask yourself how firm you are in your conviction to stay the course - then go for it!
Whether you decide to take on this major transition in your life with the help of family or friends, or with the support of an experienced career coach, there is nothing more exhilarating than that first deep breath you take once you have made your decision, acted upon it - and begin to see how the new life you have created for yourself proceeds to unfold.

Trina E. Roach

Trina is founder of Creating Tomorrow: The Leadership Consultancy, which specializes in executive + career coaching, as well as leadership and communication skills training. Based in Germay, Trina was conducted successful sessions from Tallinn (Estonia) to Sofia (Bulgaria) and from Moscow (Russia) to Amsterdam (Netherlands). With clients throughout Europe, as well as in the Greater Philadelphia area, Trina conducts her coaching and training sessions in either English or German.

The Mind is a Powerful Thing to Waste

There is a 27-year-old girl that doctors have diagnosed as mildly retarded, who happens to be my niece. She is so very sweet and trusting of everyone she meets. She can hold a good conversation and you can also send her to the store to buy anything as long as it is no more than two items or a list that she can give to someone.

She was given one of those toys that parents purchase for their 3-year-olds to learn the alphabets. This toy talks back to you. Whatever letter you put in the slots to spell a word, the toy was made to spell the word as well as call out the letters in the word to tell you what the word really is.

In less that two weeks, this 27-year-old mildly retarded young woman was able to master the capabilities of this toy and spell words that she was not able to spell before. This experiment proves how powerful the mind is when it is nurtured. Had she not being able to utilize this toy to her advantage, the new words she learned would have evaded her mind and gone to waste. In our own normal minds, we also fail to nurture the inner recesses of such a powerful attribute that can enlighten and liberate us.

Our mind is attracted to the laws of the universe when it is in an active state. If our mind remains in a dormant state, we become powerless to change our circumstances and have no effect on our community or people. The mind when used effectively to promote growth will attract more of what it needs to create prosperity and self-improvement.

The notion of one mind does not equate to self only. If we improve our minds, then we will consequently make an impact on other minds and thus contribute to a world of change in the universe that we live in. Each individual mind when activated creates many different things that are allocated to the whole.

What does this 27 year old woman have to give back to society when she has been discarded by some diagnosis that is destined to paralyze her mind if someone does not take action on her behalf? She absolutely brings joy to those she loves and laughter to her when she spells the word, "dog" and finds out that she is right. If a 27-year-old can use her mind to learn how to spell a difficult word for her and a word that we take for granted, then why aren't we using our minds to possibly find a way to help this mildly retarded woman to explore greater challenges?

This has become a personal question and the fact that we have a normal mind gives us no excuses, but to take action now to do something to change the world around us. There are many 27 years old men and women like that all around us who need our help. Don't let your mind go to waste.

Cheryline Lawson is the owner of and writes articles and books on the subject.

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Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Getting Rid Of Fear

This can be a difficult task. When you suffer from phobias, particularly phobias that you encounter frequently, life can be hell. Suffering from panic anxiety attacks and agoraphobia can be terribly frightening and depressing. Agoraphobia is arguably one of the worst phobias to have, since it is virtually a fear of everyday life.

So How Do You Vanquish Fears And Phobias?

Can it be done? Of course! It's not something you can generally do on your own with absolutely no form of help or guidance. There are tools available to hasten the process. One of the best programs is offered by Change That's Right Now's Phobia Clinic. They have a very high success rate and have helped thousands of people overcome their fears.

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Many users of the programs have had dramatic results. Incredibly, most of the work that they provide you is done over the phone. This has advantages, since it offers privacy and flexibility. These high-quality and effective programs are available in over 190 countries.

Adapting To A Changing World

The world is constantly changing. We need to be able to adapt to this. Other forms of treatment are now available. We have choices, but we must be made aware of these choices. There's no doubt that for certain problems that may require an operation, you'll still need to see a surgeon. However, for some health-related issues, we do not have to depend on drugs. It's always a good idea to see a doctor, but there are other doctors in other fields that may not be recognized at present by the 'scientific world'. Holistic and homeopathic medicine are 2 examples.

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Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Just Exactly Who Are You?

Just exactly who are you? You may say "Well...I'm Ted Somebody, originally from Pittsburgh and the son of a steelworker and hair stylist.

I'm a Regional Sales Manager for Something Industries and have been for the last 11 years. I'm 35 years old, a father of three and recently divorced. I wish I could see my kids more. I was raised Catholic but no longer practice.

I am an avid skier and outdoors man. I'm 6 feet tall, with a dark complexion and brown eyes and probably carry an extra 15 pounds and it sure seems tougher to lose then ever before. My sign is Taurus if you care.

I enjoy discussing politics but tend to become a little argumentative. I guess I do enjoy a good argument. I love to travel and especially like getting away on my motorcycle on weekends. I also own a sailboat but just don't seem to have the time to enjoy it much anymore.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.."

Understand right now, that the essence of who you are is not your name, your birthplace, your parents, your job, your career, your title, your age, your marital status, your weight, your possessions, your religious affiliation, your habits, your body, your mind, your fears, your thoughts or your feelings.

Who are you then?
When your body is tired, who/what is it that says "my body is tired"?

When you are troubled, who/what is it that says "my mind is troubled'?

When you say "I feel angry!", who/what is it that is angry?

Who/what is it that thinks the thought or senses the body or feels the anger? Who/what is it that speaks of the mind and the body and the feelings?

Who are you?
You are that by which you know that you are. That is who you actually are. Your essence is spirit. Meditate on this sentence. Be that. There is no need to try to be that because you already are that. What effort is needed to be who you are already? Realize that. Undoubtedly you are here. You can control your thoughts but you are NOT your thoughts.

What is meant by the psalm ""Be still and know that I Am God..."? Rote knowledge of scripture remains mechanical and mere words unless one allows the heart and soul to be touched. Words stir the mind and inspire but knowledge of God is complete, wordless, direct and impossible to mistake. Prayer and meditation is the direct path. If the mind is not clear, it is not ready to receive all that waits to enter.

Know thyself. Look at the word confidence and it's root; con-fido, fisus sum - to trust confidently in something, confide in, rely firmly upon, to believe, be assured of.

Take all the time in the world to ponder the question "who am I?". Eliminating all that you are not and discover what is left! There you are! Exercise the full control that you possess as a birthright. The choice is yours.

Realize that all the problems you struggle with relate directly or indirectly to your body's existence, whether it be security, other people, food, shelter, clothing or health issues.

These problems melt away when you realize that you truly are something other than your body and mind. What problems does the owner of the body have?

When you stay aware and in the now (after all the now is always with you), and you develop the ability to observe with stillness, you may choose to refuse to allow your true self to become attached to destructive thoughts, worries and fears. Actually, by using the process of elimination you will find through meditation all that you are not! Then what remains; the witness is boundless unlimited spirit.

The now is of vital importance in this premise. When you find yourself thinking of something in the past or worrying about the future, you must immediately realize that you are still doing this thinking in the now.

The material world will come and go, but the now and the spiritual realm will remain absolutely and infinitely real. Keep returning to this sense of "I am here and now".

It can take but a moment or an entire lifetime to get this. Your sincerity is the key. Use your new found awareness to destroy (destroy meaning de-structure) any tired, patterned responses you may covet in which you think you have to be somebody or live up to somebody's expectations. You already have "some body".

When you bring your inner self into focus, spontaneously and without effort, who you actually are will then begin to emerge. When you begin to observe all the madness that happens around you, all the while realizing that it is happening to you but is not you, then the inner self emerges. Try to stay there calmly but remember to do this without effort or strain.

Continued patience and a sincere heart are all you truly need. Your unbending intent is incredibly powerful. It will take some discipline to stay in the now in the early stages as you will be bombarded with images, resentments, irritations and trivialities. Just allow these thoughts to pass you by as if you are sitting by the river's edge watching a leaf being ever gently carried downstream.

These thoughts have never actually been you but now that you are realizing this, you will clearly view how these thoughts and the confusion that they create operate to determine your daily reality. To be yourself requires no special knowledge. Remember always both simplicity and sincerity. You will begin with tiny steps, gradually isolating negative reactions and resentments and dispassionately observing them.

Resist not. Resent not. Remain as the observer, the witness and separate from your thoughts. See clearly that there is the thought and there is the witness of the thought. You are the witness only. Stay in this witnessing state.

Pure awareness, silence and stillness is the essence of who you are. Clear your mind first of trivialities and thoughts, be very quiet, and then within the stillness and silence you will find peace.

The obvious fact that you are absolutely able to observe something (whether it be a thought or feeling) is proof that you are not it. You can't be both the observer and that which is observed. This meditative state is nothing more than affording yourself the opportunity to discover what is illusionary, so that when truth is presented it will be heard. It will be known. Doubt not.

If you seek the advanced disciplines of postures, poses and breathing techniques you will find many books/teachers which/ who will describe these thoroughly. Be aware lest you become addicted to the method and miss the message. Simplicity works.

My intent here and now, is that you simply are able to realize there is a way to still the mind so that you may know who you truly are and know God, not simply know about God.

It is a mystery as to why you and I have appeared here at all. Rather then continuing to submit yourself to endless questioning, intellectualizing and speculation, why not consider just being? If this mystery is meant to be revealed, it will be... in due time.

Although founded in 2000, OptimumSelf has literally been over twenty years in the making. The advent of the internet now presents the perfect vehicle to communicate what optimumself is all about.

We intend to enable individuals to dramatically change their lives through the information we provide. Our unique eBook and newsletters are the keys to discovering peace, happiness and contentment.

Vincent Quattrin, the author of OptimumSelf, welcomes your comments.


The Five Year Plan And The Five Second Plan

With intent one steps forward. With awareness one modifies their step so as to avoid a pothole. This leads one in a slightly different direction. The intent may still be similar, though now the environment has changed. And so it goes.

The steps of one's life are executed constantly often taking one to a point never imagined. As John Lennon sang "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans".

Even if the five year plan is on target, the reality of the arrival rarely meets expectations. What the original you ( five years less life- experienced) envisioned, is now felt within the skin of a modified you with five more years of life experience. This is why the arrival is rarely what was pictured.

With acute awareness, one is less likely to experience a sense of 'How did I get here?' because when choosing in the moment the appropriate response, all is experienced as process. All is becoming. In every moment there is arrival. In every moment the goal is met.

The five year plan happens as it should with present moment awareness being the driver. Obstacles are faced directly and overcome. Creative solutions are found as one can only react to an action. As much as one's intellect may want to anticipate and plan; something called life interferes.

Twists and turns. Chance and fate. Destiny and plot changes. Responding and growing. Learning and growing. Erring and repeating the error. Erring and correcting.

Take a moment and think back to five years ago. As close to the day as possible. Where were you? Who had not yet entered your life? Who had not yet left your life? What were your dreams and desires? Have they been fulfilled? What didn't happen ? What did instead?

Isn't it remarkable? So much you could not have imagined. Even today may bring a change like no other. Be ready. Be open. Be real.

At this moment you are choosing a direction. Even doing nothing is a choice. At this moment you have arrived. Dissatisfaction compels us to move towards satisfaction. What do you seek? Where are you headed? A multitude of choices present themselves daily, whether there is awareness or not. The point between the now and the then will always involve a choice; conscious or otherwise.

Grasp the immensity of this. To the degree you are able to stay within the here and now, to that degree you are able to respond with clarity to the world passing by. It is that simple and that difficult. It can take a lifetime or a moment to understand. Don't force; let it wash over you.

We find ourselves in five year or five second increments together underneath the sheltering sky. Let us help and support one another in our quest to find truth in our lives. Every five seconds. Every five years.

Although founded in 2000, OptimumSelf has literally been over twenty years in the making. The advent of the internet now presents the perfect vehicle to communicate what optimumself is all about.

We intend to enable individuals to dramatically change their lives through the information we provide. Our unique eBook and newsletters are the keys to discovering peace, happiness and contentment.

Vincent Quattrin, the author of OptimumSelf, welcomes your comments.

Monday, September 24, 2007

The Difference Maker

By George Chingarande

No one is exempt from the challenges and difficulties of life. Whatever a person aims to succeed at it is likely that from time to time they will meet setbacks and failures. People who handle difficult times and failures badly are not likely to win in life. Attitude towards failure is the great difference maker. Attitude is always important, but it becomes much more important in terms of separating winners from losers during trying times. Winners have healthy perspectives of looking at failures, and empowering attitudes of approaching difficulties. They are not born with these attitudes but they learn them first and then internalize them. Today we have a look at some of them.

Failure is Feedback

• Winners interpret failure as feedback. It is seen as information reaching you from your project or endeavor to the effect that the methods that you are applying have not yet yielded the desired results. This information therefore behooves you to give the current methods more time, or to boost your efforts with new methods. Critically, this information is not an indictment on your abilities or potential. It is essentially an appraisal of the current methods. It is a judgment passed on the methods and process. The problem, if any, is not with you but with the methods that you selected. When success tarries and progress is slow winners do not berate themselves, but they take a closer look at the appropriateness of their methods. Winners are ardent seekers of feedback. They strive to put in place systems that accord them real time feedback which help function as early failure detection mechanisms.

To the contrary, Losers crucify themselves for their failures and mistakes. They point fingers at themselves and not at their methods. In this way they lose a great opportunity to learn and take corrective action. Instead they engage in destructive self chastisement which makes the event more painful and discourages the loser from engaging in future pursuits. The loser thus shoots himself in the foot. Winners understand that failure is feedback that should always feed forward, in the sense that it should yield information that facilitates a more intelligent movement in the progressive direction.

• Every failure contains a lesson

Every setback carries a lesson in its womb. Your challenge is to learn and master the lesson. Winners never make mistakes they only learn lessons, and some of them are learnt the hard way. Failure is sometimes tuition fees towards superior knowledge. The difference between lessons and mistakes is that lessons are exciting while mistakes are a cause for shame. When you glean lessons from your setbacks you can celebrate. However, if you train your eye to see mistakes they will weigh you down with sorrow. If only people knew that there are no mistakes and no failures, but only lessons they would not be afraid to try. Winners deliberately train themselves to scout for the lessons in their set backs. They adopt attitudes of curiosity and not self blame. They make mental notes and written notes of their lessons. From time to time they remind themselves of these lessons. By using this approach deliberately and in a disciplined manner, they turn disasters into capital and maximize on it.

• Failure is an Opportunity

Failure is never final. Failure is an opportunity to begin afresh more intelligently. Yes, set backs sometimes do slow people down and disappoint. However, with every disappointment there is an appointment. With every failure there is a unique opportunity to solve a problem. Problems arise when current methods and processes prove inadequate. Great men are folks like you and me that have distinguished themselves by solving great problems. Failures are also folks like you and me that have shied away from solving the great problems of their times. After all, success is all about solving one problem after the other. Failure should therefore never be made the final full stop to a sentence; it is rather a capital letter beginning a new sentence. Failure should close the door to one phase and open the door to another. Failure has the knack of closing some options and opening some. Every failure and every setback brings with it a possibility for greatness. If you fail to win the presidential race once, there is a possibility that you will make it the second time round. If you fail twelve times, there is a great possibility that you will make history by winning on the thirteenth attempt.

Ultimate failure is therefore a myth. It is the product of quitting, which itself is a very poor option among alternatives. Anyone can outlast any setback or any failure if he so decides. No strategy survives real contact with battle. That moment failure becomes evident is therefore a strategic inflection point. It is a point of departure from the original plan and tactics to a more innovative one. It is not a time to mourn and sulk, but like a grandmaster it is time to muse over the next move.

• A set back is a set up for come back

Every failure is actually a perfect set up for a come back. The deeper the set back, the more exciting the comeback will be. There can never be a comeback story without a set back, just as you cannot rise unless you have been down. A set back is therefore a rare opportunity to plot a comeback. It is a pity that many people waste time nursing their wounds after a set back rather than plotting their return to grace.

In the day of set back your failure philosophy will be the great difference maker.


Crisis or Opportunity?

What now? You may be faced with a crisis of some sort. Perhaps a major lifestyle change or personal loss. There will be a tendency to question why this is occurring at this time and place. There are seldom suitable answers to these questions and that process alone is energy draining. You may feel unprepared to face a certain change. It can be overwhelming and anxiety causing.

It is vitally important at these times to remain quiet and depend on your inner resources. They may not have been tested to this degree before. This may be an opportunity in disguise. Our ability to respond appropriately at such times may later be viewed as crucial turning points. Whether they be deemed positive or negative depends upon our ability to remain centered.

Remaining centered, while easier said than done, is absolutely within your power. Beginning your day with a morning meditation will prepare you to respond calmly but decisively in any crisis you may face. It is imperative to center yourself before the crisis hits, rather than reacting emotionally and trying to find your center afterwards. Scrambling back to find your calm center from that emotional state is very difficult indeed.

If you are centered when the metaphorical door closes shut, you will have the awareness to locate another opening that perhaps you had never noticed. Anger, panic and resentment effectively narrow your field of vision, while the absence of these creates a wide angle view and even allows for peripheral vision.

The world around you and the circumstances of your life will necessarily be ever-changing. Change is evidence of growth. What happens around you is often beyond your control however how you react to these inevitable changes is your choice.

Rest assured that the essence of who you are is changeless and timeless. Find this inner self daily and welcome change outside yourself and the accompanying new opportunities. Calmly see a new door open.

Although founded in 2000, OptimumSelf has literally been over twenty years in the making. The advent of the internet now presents the perfect vehicle to communicate what optimumself is all about.

We intend to enable individuals to dramatically change their lives through the information we provide. Our unique eBook and newsletters are the keys to discovering peace, happiness and contentment.

Vincent Quattrin, the author of OptimumSelf, welcomes your comments.


Sunday, September 23, 2007

Success - Can You Commit and Still Fail?

Success and Personal Development books often describe how important it is to commit to a goal once chosen. Perhaps you have done that - and then failed to achieve the desired outcome. How to deal with the reality of failure is the subject of this article.

When I was at coaching school I recall one of my teleclass leaders asking a question along the lines of: "Is it possible to commit to something and still fail?"

My life experience so far suggest that it is not only possible but highly likely!

Maybe even desirable!

For example, many years ago I was committed to getting on a European Union sponsored 18 month language study program in Japan.

I did a lot of research and called in a lot of favours to get my company to sponsor me, and in fact got to the final selection interviews in Brussels.

I was ecstatic!

Then 4 weeks later I crashed and burned after learning I hadn't been selected.

I was sure that I was 100% committed to this goal!
So what went wrong?

Perhaps "something went right" is the appropriate response because, with persistence and patience, another path opened up.

And less than 2 years later I had negotiated a transfer to Japan in a full-time role with the same company - thus beginning my sojourn in this amazing country that has become my adopted home these past 13 years.

There are other similar examples in my life and what they have collectively taught me is that committing to a stretch goal can be a creative, stimulating roller coaster ride but with no guarantee of success - in fact, failure is very possible.

But fail forward!! Fail forward!

We just don't consciously know in advance how our major commitments and goals may work out for sure.

If I had direct knowledge back then of the self-coaching tools I know now - back when my happiness was so hung up on achieving specific goals, I would have used all of the following at some point:

1- Known that I was committed to going to Japan but not sure how.

2- Taken responsibility for the bits in my control and let the other chips fall where they may.

3- Trusted more and doubted less. ("this too will pass...")

4- Responded to failure with a "what's the lesson here?" approach.

5- Respected myself more for launching the dream rather than invalidating my efforts as "just not good enough".

6- Known that I acted in the truth of what I believed was best for my Family and myself.

7- Invented a Game for the number of people I had to speak to who could help me achieve my Japan-bound goal.

8- Taken action, however small, EVERY day on my dream, rather than in fits and starts, every few weeks or so!

May your commitments fail forward as successfully too!

Commit right now to creating incredible yet reachable goals in your life - my FREE 14-page report shows you how: Goal Setting Tools

M. McClure is a Japan-based e-coach and freedom business owner.


Millionaire Mindset - Discover the True Secrets

By Pushpa Pal Singh

Becoming rich is not just about doing the right thing rather it's mostly about your mindset. You can become a future millionaire just by changing the thoughts in your mind. Thoughts always precede action and in order to get what you truly desire you need to replace your old mind set with a new one which would guarantee your success. So what sort of mindset is required to make those millions?

Quit your job- You might be thinking this is a totally sense less comment. But in order to become a millionaire you need to quit your job for simple reasons that at present you are working for someone else at a weekly or monthly fixed salary and there is not much room for improvement there. Additionally the person you are working for is harnessing your services to make him more money and he only pays you a very tiny part of that massive income he derives from your services. Therefore the very first lesson you need to learn is to work for yourself and not for someone else. Most people in the world spend most part of their life working for someone else and making that person rich.

The common fact- When all millionaires across the world were studied there wasn't anything much common in all of them but one thing. All of them held very large share in real estate and properties. If you were to ask any millionaire what is the best investment he would always suggest invest in real estate as it always goes up with time. Some people have indeed become millionaire just by merely investing in property and real estate.

Make your money work- Most people work for money but people with millionaire mindset make money work for them. Now you might think how can money work for me? Well the answer is simple people tend to spend most part of their earnings living hand to mouth each month. The best way to make your money work for you is by investing twenty five percent of whatever you make a month. There are several ways by which you can make twenty percent profit per annum on your investment if you do it wisely.

Listen to the best- If you think millionaires do not need advisors or guidance than you are strongly mistaken. Most millionaires have agents or brokers who advice them all the way regarding the market condition may it be in real estate, shares or any other business or trade. They take advice from the best to make proper decisions and strategies. Therefore it's very important to have connections with the right people who can help you earn millions.

But there is much more to it. There is a secret which would help you attain tremendous success with money and you would be able to attract almost anything into your life. This is one of the most shocking truths ever made public. You are one of the few people who are being introduced to this great secret. Read on to discover - The Great Secret

How to Jump Start Your Memory and Keep it Going!

Did you know that you could actually jump start your memory with 5 easy steps? First, you need to know that at its simplest, memory is a mental activity for recalling information that has either been learned or experienced.

The best way to think about it is, the way your brain receives information will determine where you retain it and if you will be able to retrieve it, when needed. Voila this is memory!!!

For example when I want to remember something I sing and dance to the information. This gives me happy associations and makes it easy for me to remember things. Recently, when I was getting my yoga certification, one of the things I had to do was remember all these poses in Sanskrit! Yikes!!!

So here is what I did. As I got into a pose, I would say, "How can I remember this?" Then if I was hanging upside down like in the pose of Prasarita Pascimatonasana, I thought, "Hey ---PRASARITA likes to hang upside down and she lands on a Pascimatonasana" which I pictured as a big mountain with a funny name.

I was having fun remembering all those poses!!! I was in my happy place. So here are 5 tips to help you remember and find your happy place:

1. Be fully aware of what you want to remember-focus
2. Tell yourself consciously that you will remember
3. Begin to make associations with fun or familiar things
4. Bring pictures of positive things into your mind
5. Sing, say or talk out loud as you are in the process

Most importantly HAVE FUN!!!!

Now you see that by playing games, you can have fun and bring good emotional responses to information. Positive feelings put to information that you need to remember will help you draw upon good memories and store it in a place within your brain that will make it easy to retrieve.

These are five easy ways to jump-start your memory and keep it going. Use them daily and begin to see the improvement of your mind.

Marti Angel, MA
"America's Health and Expert Lifestyle Coach"

Marti is a Certified Holistic Nutritionist, Yoga Professor, RYT, Reiki Master level 2, Certified WATSU water therapist, Certified Meditation Instructor, Certified Metabolic Typing Advisor (Health Excel, Inc), Certified Nutraceutical Consultant, Certified Health/Lifestyle Coach, Motivational Speaker and founder of the number one alternative therapies site on the web, --- Her blog-- "The OM DIVA"


Saturday, September 22, 2007

Increase Your Success By Having A Daily Plan

It always amazes me how people will take the time out to plan a trip yet refuse to spent even a few minutes planning their lives. As we all know, having a plan when traveling helps to prevent getting lost. It also keeps one on the proper path to make sure that time lines are maintained. Not surprisingly, planning our lives has the same effect. Setting forth the direction that we are heading and the time periods for accomplishing different things increases the chances that we will not get lost.

Many write about the importance of setting goals. It is true that short-term and long-term goals give us insight into what our lives will look like. Creating a longer perspective spanning a few decades enables one to develop a fulfilling life. The shorter goals provide the stepping stones to these achievements. Goals in writing offer the incentive to overcome those obstacles as they arise. They are our roadmap on our trip of life.

As important as having a life plan is, it is incomplete without breaking it down to the shortest time period possible. As much as we tend to focus on the months and years of our lives, this is not where we live. Like they say in twelve step programs, we live 'one day at a time'. Upon awakening, each of us faces 12-18 hours before we retire in bed again. How we utilize this time is what separates the quality of life among different people. Of course, the way to make this most time most effective is to plan it out.

Many have a daily planner that they use. This is especially true in their business. All the appointments for the day are entered. Deadlines are noted along with plans for achievement. However, this is an incomplete 'plan'. To neglect one's personal affairs is what often leaves people feeling a bit unfulfilled.

The same twelve step programs mentioned above contain the aspect of daily plan. Part of their curriculum is to look at the day ahead to prepare for those situations where moments of weakness might arise. The temptation to fall back into the addictive behavior is reduced if one anticipates a troublesome area. Also, by concentrating on how one will attempt to respond in those circumstances, the perils are lessened.

If this concept is effective in combating addiction, how much impact would it have on the life of a non-addict? The answer is that it can take one's life from a 'lost journey' to one that has purpose. By knowing where one is headed on a daily basis, the tendency to get lost is eliminated. We move from activity-to-activity seamlessly. Tasks that do not fit into our plan are not considered. A focused mind has a tremendous amount of power. A daily plan concentrates the mind on what is important.

Marc Victor Hansen, author of The Chicken Soup For The Soul series, claims to get up at 4:00 am each morning to set down his daily plan. He writes out his day in detail. It includes who he is going to see, what he is going to do, what he hopes to accomplish, and what he looks to give to each situation. Is it any wonder that he has sold over 100 million books? With a habit like this, nothing is left to chance. In effect, he 'lives' his day in his mind before he actually experiences. The chances that circumstances will go as he desires are increased since he already 'lived' the situation that morning. With his script for the day complete, he only need to follow it much in the same way an actor performs a scene. There is a certain amount of ad libbing involved. However, the basic essence of the scene comes off as it was written.

The time spent planning your day will be dwarfed when you see the results that it produces. One quickly realizes that a few minutes of planning saves an equal, if not greater, amount of time. Time wasters are eliminated since an itinerary for the day is set. Those unexpected surprises can be dealt with in a more powerful fashion since the overall 'essence' of the day is in place. Give yourself this wonderful gift by planning your day in advance.

Dennis Harting is the Head Coach at Your Rich Life. He is an acclaimed speaker, trainer, and best-selling author. His books include Your Easiest Million and The Ultimate Procrastination Handbook. His programs and more information can be found at


Programme Your Mindset to Success to Improve the Quality of Your Life

One of my favourite quotes is from the sci-fi series, Andromeda,

"Beneath knowing, understanding
Beneath understanding, seeing
Beneath seeing, recognising
Beneath recognising, knowing."

Vision of Faith CY 10003, Andromeda

I think it's a profound and beautiful quote that sums up the mindset of truly successful people. You see the movers and shakers of this world don't have to be told, they know that they create their destiny and they wouldn't have it any other way. This "knowing" is embedded in the core of their being. They are the director and star in their life story. They attract the people and resources they need to create their blockbuster.

Successful people accept full responsibility for their lives and, in so doing, have the 'ability to respond' to situations in their lives instead of react to them. Average folk also attract people and resources into their lives but they do so in an unconscious level. This results in them not always attracting what they want. They are inclined to blame other people and circumstances for their dilemma and end up reacting to the events in their lives instead of orchestrating them.

In fact, that very word "orchestrating" reminds me of yet another quote. You see, we tend to spend so much time doing that we forget the art of being. I believe that we are spiritual beings having a physical existence here on Earth and that; ultimately, the spirit is more powerful than the physical body. However, spirit works through us as physical beings and the best way to facilitate this is through quietening the mind, the conduit between body and spirit. For many people there is such a clamour in their minds that nothing positive can get through.

"When you quieten the mind, the symphony begins."

Yes, it is the mind which is usually the barrier to our achieving our heart's desire. This is why, in so many personal development or self improvement programmes there is great emphasis on developing the right mindset.

Imagine the mind as a tunnel between body and spirit. What does your tunnel look like? It is light, spacious and well-maintained or is it dark and dingy, narrow and in a derelict condition? What does your tunnel sound like? Can you hear soft, calming melodies or perhaps soothing sounds of nature or are the sounds disconcerting, loud and raucous? What does it feel like in your tunnel? Does it feel warm and inviting or cold and inhospitable?

So many people are looking for answers outside of themselves when the answer lies within. Yet we seem afraid to delve deep inside and it seems that we are incredulous of the magnitude of our hidden power. Indeed, it is said that our greatest fear is in the ownership of our unlimited power

I spoke to a friend recently who was very worried about the state of a company she was involved in. She was so worried that she felt everything might "go down the pan". I stopped her in her tracks right there and said.

"That's the worse thing you can think. I agree that the situation is serious but as soon as you start thinking that it's 'game over' that is exactly what will happen. We need to take a realistic look at the situation and we need to develop a game plan."

She was focussing on the 'evidence' around her that the company was not in a healthy state. However, all this was resulting in was producing more of the same negative results. To turn the company around she needed to turn around and look at how she wanted the company to be, then devise a plan and implement it.

It sounds simplistic and I know that there are times when the best thing is to wrap up a company but I knew, from experience, that this need not be the end result in this situation. However, success depended upon the players in this particular game being able to keep their focus on the goal.

When we look at our current results, maybe the lack and limitation that exists in our lives, we are applying Newtonian Physics that which describes the visible effects. However, Newtonian Physics is just the tip of the iceberg and while most of us have never even seen an iceberg we accept that nine-tenths of an iceberg lies beneath the surface.

The unseen portion lies within the realms of Quantum Physics and is much more powerful. However, because Quantum Physics deals with the invisible cause we have much more difficulty in believing in it. Yet believe in it we must or perish. That submerged portion sank the Titanic and it will surely sink you if you do not learn how to harness its power and use it to your benefit rather than your detriment.

"We are living in a world where all we see is the tip of the iceberg. The immense tip of a quantum mechanical iceberg."
John Hagelin, Ph.D.

If you doubt any of this and are not achieving the results you want in life then why not simply give this new approach a try? What have you got to lose? In the movie Hunt for Red October the character played by Gene Hackman said something akin to he didn't trust air he couldn't see. I always found that amusing-definitely a Newtonian man! However, every moment of everyday that we draw breath we don't question whether or not the air is there. We simply breathe.

Start believing in your power to create the life you desire, let that belief come from the core your being. Know it to be true. Operate from a position of complete trust. The Universe always responds and your reward will be to see that which you believe.

"Faith is to believe what you do not yet see;
the reward for this faith is to see what you believe."

St Augustine

Nickolove Lovemore is a Life & Success Coach and Certified NLP Practitioner. Visit Success Accessories and discover the success secrets of 9 of the world's legends in personal development. Learn how these 9 individuals are applying their success mindset to achieve phenomenal results in their lives.


Friday, September 21, 2007

The Power of an Hour

A recent article in the New York Times quoted a medical expert on the life-saving difference even one hour can make between feeling the symptoms of a heart attack and making that call to 911. Yet, the physician reported, the average time it takes people to make that call is 111 minutes, a statistic that hasn't changed in 10 years, even though that first hour is critical.

Imagine the power an hour can make in other facets of our life. If we just took one hour to eat healthier, exercise, learn new skills, meditate, or just to enjoy ourselves, the benefits would be enormous versus the cost of losing one more hour to inaction.

Here are Five Ways To Find The Power in an Hour

The Power to Learn: Set aside one hour every week to learn something new for your career, to become a better parent, or to become a better child to an older parent. Check out a book at the public library. Take an on-line course or seminar. Dedicate one hour each week to master new skills and insights to power up your career and relationships!

The Power to Play: Set aside one hour each week to do something you really enjoy. Read. Play a musical instrument. Knit. Join a bowling league. Play golf. Your stress will dissipate when you officially schedule "play-time" each week!

The Power to Enjoy a Meal: Set aside one hour each week to make a meal an event, not a chore. Schedule all family members to be present, or invite good friends. Make it a simple meal* to allow your hour to be relaxing, spent sharing conversation and life stories. When you discover how delightful a shared dinner can be, you'll want to schedule an hour for a meal more than just once a week!

The Power to Exercise: It can seem daunting to schedule an entire hour each day just for exercise. But what about 20 minutes each morning, at lunch and then again in the evening to take a walk? One Harvard University study reported that walking just three hours a week, or 30 minutes a day, can reduce the risk of heart disease by as much as 40 percent. Walk up and down stairs or back and forth through hallways if you can't go outside every day. Just start walking!

The Power to Think: An hour of meditation can substantially lower your blood pressure and improve your health in countless other ways. It's also a great way to set aside time for you to rest, reflect and become more focused -- without all those outside interruptions -- on what you really want out of your career and lifestyle!

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If you liked today's issue, you'll LOVE these three new books: The Everything Guide to Being a Sales Rep; Time Management Secrets for Working Women (look for the PBS presentation for 2007); and The De-Stress Diva ™ in the Kitchen.


5 No-Fail Strategies To Stop Nail Biting

How common is nail biting? Estimates vary of course- 28 to 33 per cent of children between the ages of seven and 10; 44 per cent of adolescents; 19 to 29 per cent of young adults and five per cent of older adults are nail biters. This article will give some basic information on this habit and suggest five strategies to stop.

Nail biting is a way to relieve tension and stress and is similar to nose-picking and hair twisting as a'nervous habit'. Nail biting is not just limited to biting nails but also to biting the cuticles and the surrounding tissues around the nails. This habit is exacerbated by physical inactivity. According to Freudian theory, nail biting is a symptom of oral fixation. The clinical name for nail biting is chronic onychophagia. Like other nervous habits, it is sometimes a symptom of an emotional problem. Basically, nail biting is a rational substitution of one problem for another. In many instances it is used as a tension reliever.

Five Strategies To Stop Nail Biting

1. Buy some 'Thum' and paint your nails with it. It has a bitter taste, so much so that it will send a very clear message to your brain that it is time to stop biting your nails. A sort of negative physical response – nobody likes a bad taste.

2. Buy a stress ball- that is a great way to take your attention off your massacred nails! Sometimes, drawing, scribbling or just playing with something in your hands can be a great help.

3. Look after your nails – start now ! I know they are in a bit of a mess. You can trim them , file them and even use nail polish. From now on, you are going to show them off- not hide them!

4. Wear gloves whenever you can – easier in winter obviously. Any physical barrier helps you to stop.

5. If your child suffers from this habit you will need to explain that it may be due to stress or other problems. The child may have problems at school. Once the child knows the reason, this will help him to stop.

We have looked at some strategies to stop nail biting. You may want to consider self- hypnosis treatment which is outlined in the site below.

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Thursday, September 20, 2007

The Power of the Mind to Heal

It was 1976, and my first year as an assistant buyer for Lord & Taylor, New York. For years I had been challenged by back and neck pain, and finally had found an osteopath, with the wonderfully fitting name of "Dr. R. Bachrach" who led me to the startling discovery of my mind and body connection, and the ability I had within myself to accelerate healing - called "meditation". Over the ensuing years, we achieved some dramatic results through my learning some relatively simply breathing, relaxation and visualization techniques, which, when combined with physical therapy, allowed me to reach levels within myself that not only aided me in my physical challenges over the years, but also led me to formerly unrealized levels of creativity and self improvement.

Theses experiences sent me on an avid search into the realm of the body/mind/spirit connection, subsequently studying both Eastern and Western methods including TM®, The Silva Method, The Relaxation Response, Conscious Breathing, Hemi Sync® and other forms of Meditation and Contemplative Prayer. Throughout the years, what I continued to find is that our mind is one of the most, if not THE most, powerful tool we have for change and transformation – in wellness, creativity, attaining work/life balance and achieving goals.

Over the years, I developed a system that enabled me, in my former career as an executive in the fast-paced world of the fashion design and merchandising, to access deep levels of relaxation, focus and enhanced healing abilities - whether on a plane jetting to Milan or holding onto a subway strap during rush hour. The basic way I learned meditation, and how I have taught it now for over 20 years, revolves around a five step process, combining both Eastern techniques and Western technologies:

  1. Breathing
  2. Relaxation
  3. Creative Visualization
  4. Concentration
  5. Meditation
Mastering each step is a necessity if you are to realize the maximum potentials of meditation. However, developing a meditation practice can be difficult for us in the West, as sitting and "doing nothing" for 20 minutes twice a day (the optimum workout) isn't exactly ingrained into our goal-oriented regimes. But on the days that I do not allow myself this all-important "inner workout" I find that I cannot accomplish nearly as much in my work schedule nor in my personal life. Breathing is a process that I have found we don't really know how to optimize in our stressful, shallow-breathing, high anxiety world. Most of us breathe from our lungs, not realizing the fullest benefit of a deep, oxygenated, diaphragmatic breath. So the first step is to learn to breathe with complete, full breaths. This in itself begins the second step towards relaxation and can take several weeks to retrain old habits. Besides taking the time to establish your meditation practice, the second challenge is what is called "monkey mind" – that state whereupon your mind begins to make lists and jump from thought to thought about three minutes or so into your practice. Here is where "filling your mind in order to empty your mind" becomes important, if you are not to become frustrated. So we begin to give ourselves something to concentrate on – by focusing on relaxing each set of muscles in our body while counting our breaths, and releasing tensions we are holding. This of course, is where having a teacher or being a part of a structured class becomes all-important. There are a variety of exercises that can be practiced during this period of the training that will allow you to begin to make the body/mind connection.

The third step – creative visualization, is something that every athlete in the world has put into play in order to reach their desired goals. When combined with positive affirmations that also engage the emotions, a state of peace and calm can be achieved by the addition of repeating a word or phrase over and over until you realize that desired state of being. The word or phrase can be anything you choose, but usually we all are seeking peace, so I begin with using "peace" as the beginning affirmation – or mantra. Here again, a facilitator is highly desirable, as there are endless versions of going on an inner journey to a sacred, peaceful place and reaching out with your inner senses to experience it to the fullest. The important fact to remember here, is what the mind can conceive, the body can achieve!

As we become expert at holding a visualization, a deep state of concentration can be experienced. This level of concentration is where the "monkey mind" is finally tamed, and leads to the ultimate experience of total and deep levels of stillness and calm – and meditation.

Just as building any muscle takes regular practice, so too does building the brain muscle. Usually after about six weeks, if done consistently every day, you can at least establish the habit of putting yourself into a deep place of peace and relaxation. Deep concentration and meditation take longer, and are totally dependant on your willingness to keep at it – as with any other exercise regime. But I can assure you that the benefits you will derive in your life – on a physical, psychological, emotional and ultimately, spiritual, level – will offer such richness to your life that you will never want to miss those few hours every week.

©2006-2007 Rebecca Nagy. All Rights Reserved.

Rebecca Nagy is the founder and CEO of the Extra Potential Institute and New Directions Whole Life Center, based in Charlotte, NC. She is an inspirational and motivational speaker, trainer and master meditation teacher, a professional member of The National Speaker's Association, The World Future Society, The Monroe Institute and The Institute of Noetic Sciences.

Rebecca's own experience with overcoming a spinal injury confirmed her belief in the authentic and transforming power of the body/mind/spirit connection. Subsequently, she made a decision in 1998 to leave her 20 year fashion career to dedicate herself in following a dream of becoming a motivational speaker. She speaks throughout the country on The Power of the Mind and How Your Thoughts Can Change Your Life. For more information on her published meditation CDs and other works visit her website at:


You Never Die From A Broken Heart, You Simply Wish You Did!

Nothing is worse than the breaking of your heart when a steamy relationship is over. And then watch them go when its over, is really hard. And as we mature, the number of people breaking our hearts goes on and on, and seems to hurt even more as we try to move on with our everyday lives.

While dealing with bad relationships, the initial thing is to allow them to go completely. Keep in mind that a relationship over is absolutely inevitable and above all, inescapable. Try to develop your confidence that someone better is coming to join you someday. There is a replacement for everything. After a relationship over, if we return to that person with whom we had bad relationships; they will perceive us no more than a beaten personality whom they had defeated. Hence, we would risk embarrassment and falling into the same pattern over and over again. So let it go when its over.

A perfect way to just let go is to refuse to give in to the temptation to revisit that person and simply keep away from calling them on the cell phone, sending emails or getting in touch with them otherwise. When you have separations with someone for whom you still feel from the core of your heart, it's attractive to allow them make all the rules so as to keep them in your life. The difficulty is, if there is no hope of squaring off, you are just drawing out the suffering - and it will take even more time for your broken heart to recover.

When someone there is breaking your heart, it's all right to feel bad. Give yourself time to recover when its over. Go on a walk by yourself, or you can listen to your favorite upbeat or sad music which accurately translates your feelings. Listening to sad kind of music will help you to realize that the relationship is over and it's time to think about something new. Every feeling has its own worth, as every feeling tells us something novel about our own personalities. Just as we take pleasure in being happy, we can take pleasure in being sad for when a relationship is over; expressing that we are not going to feel the same way forever. Because the sun does not shine every morning does not mean it will continue raining forever.

Talk to someone about your relationship over. Your best buddy will let you voice all of your fury and frustration and will raise your spirits afterwards. If you keep all your depression and grief solely within the boundaries of your own heart after a breaking up, you might end up blaming yourself for bad relationships, and you could miss the boat for making deeper relations with the rest of your buddies, too.

They say time heals all wounds! Undoubtedly, this short phrase might help you in terms of a relationship being over. With the passage of time, 'today' will slip into the past, and you won't even remember the heartache at all. As we learn to grow from our experience, each experience good or bad will influence us in every way down the road. So do not look at this as wasted time but as a growing experience in our own lives. Live and learn is what is boils down to and we of course hope to avoid the same issue the next time we decide to open our hearts to another person.

Claude Cote is the creator of a site that helps out individuals with insightful articles, and options in ending that bad relationship or making sure your spouse is indeed being true and faithfull to you. This was created with the broken heated in mind to help solidify your relationship or to clense yourself of bad relationship. Either way you will have the satisfaction of knowing where you stand.

When God Created, There Was No Struggle, Disease, Violence or Death - Not Until Sin Entered

Although we live in this world for a time, this world is not our home, and man knows this. We are created for Communion with the Creator. That is why man has this desire to pray. There is a series of articles on Creation and this is related.

Man can rise far above the animals, and man can also sink far below the animals.

Man can experience so many things which animals cannot - in language - culture - in asking questions - in thinking - in prayer - in his mental and emotional life.

An animal never prays, but man has this inborn desire to commune with the Creator GOD. That is why God opened a door for us, and God says to us, "You can come to ME through MY SON Jesus Christ - but that is the only way".

Man can also sink much lower than the animals, in perversion and violence. It was man who designed Belsen and Auschwitz. That is how low man can sink.

It is interesting to note in passing that this was a direct consequence of the teaching of a belief in evolution - that man is only an animal - and therefore we should annihilate those whom we think are weak and peculiar and retarded and different! Produce a super race!

There is no evidence that the hairy apes behave as badly as those Desmond Morris calls "The Naked Ape".

Man is the final creative act. There is no higher being upon the earth. He is the climax, and God holds a Conference and says, LET US MAKE. WE are going to create man.

What a risk GOD is taking. He is creating a being capable of being a companion, or capable of being rebellious.

The word CREATED is used for the third time, and it is used three times.

That man descended from animals is contrary to the Word of God. We need to know this. It is vital. God breaks into what we would call poetry as the heart of God is moved. Man will be in our image - in our likeness.

The things I can do with my body - God can do without a body - I can see - hear - touch - walk - think - I can be moved - I can appreciate - I can love. We get this from God, and we can have the Spirit of God living within us - and anointing us.

What God says to man, He says to no other creature. You are in charge - you will control - you will rule! And - God's blessing is upon man. When God made man he said it was VERY GOOD.

Our children and grandchildren are being taught "evolution" - as if it were true - as if it had been proved - as if evolutionary theories were FACT!

Up to this point in the biblical record of Creation, there is no struggle. God saw that it was good, and after HE created man God saw that it was very good - or exceedingly good.

There is no struggle - no disease - no death - no pollution - no life has been lost. Man is on earth. As yet, there can be no fossils, because fossils necessarily imply death, and fossils are formed suddenly as a consequence of something violent and catastrophic in nature - like The Flood.

Death came, only when SIN entered the world.

Genesis Chapter 1 is either a fraud or a miracle. It is written as if by an eye-witness - by Someone Who was present and saw it all happen. It is either human invention - or Divine Inspiration. It is either total guess work - and speculation - or truth. There is no middle ground. It is either human imagination, or Divine Inspiration.

How could all this be known? Turn to Psalm 103 verse 7. God made His ways known to Moses. We know that God talked with Moses as a man talks face to face with his friend. Moses could not have received this from man - but only from GOD.

This book is totally reliable and trustworthy. When we hold on to Jesus Christ our Saviour and Lord, and HIS WORD, we need never feel ashamed or embarrassed or intellectually inferior.

We can praise GOD - and remember His Goodness - and receive the forgiveness we need - and healing for all our diseases and pains which we shall see are the results of SIN. We can look to HIM to crown us with His Love - and satisfy our desires - and renew us.

Sandy Shaw

Sandy Shaw is Pastor of Nairn Christian Fellowship, Chaplain at Inverness Prison, and Nairn Academy, and serves on The Children's Panel in Scotland, and has travelled extensively over these past years teaching, speaking, in America, Canada, South Africa, Australia, making 12 visits to Israel conducting Tours and Pilgrimages, and most recently in Uganda and Kenya, ministering at Pastors and Leaders Seminars, in the poor areas surrounding Kampala, Nairobi, Mombasa and Kisumu.

He broadcasts regularly on WSHO radio out of New Orleans, and writes a weekly commentary at entitled "Word from Scotland" on various biblical themes, as well as a weekly newspaper column.

His M.A. and B.D. degrees are from The University of Edinburgh, and he continues to run and exercise regularly to maintain a level of physical fitness.

Sandy Shaw